At a certain age, you have not met the person you like, even if you are not in a hurry to get married, your parents will force you to go on a blind date, and want you to choose a future partner who is introduced by others.
In blind dates, many people like to judge whether the other party is the right person through means such as tests or help from others, but things have two sides or many sides.
Standing on your own standpoint there is no problem, looking at it from another point of view is another matter, and the result is often not under their control, but they let themselves suffer or gain more than they lose.
Since it is a blind date, there must be an introducer, and each of them understands the basic situation of the other party from the mouth of the introducer, and feels that it meets their own mate selection criteria before agreeing to meet it.
Then, when going on a blind date, women should not do something to make themselves "bargain", so as not to lift a stone and drop it on their feet.
When dating, many women like to do things that will ruin their marriages.
When you go on a blind date, take your girlfriend on a blind date.
Sometimes, you think that the relationship between two people is a girlfriend, but the other person does not think so.
Xiao Lu jingren introduced a man, heard that the family conditions were good, she was very satisfied with him in all aspects, and then decided to meet, but she thought she would not look at people, so she asked her girlfriend to meet with herself and men.
After the meeting, she was very satisfied and was invited to have lunch together, and the object of the blind date during the meal always interacted with her girlfriend, staring at the girlfriend, looking for a topic to talk to the girlfriend, which made her feel very uncomfortable.
On the way back, she asked her girlfriend how about this blind date? The girlfriend said no. A few days later, I heard the introducer say that the man and others have established a relationship, and once inquired, the girlfriend is her girlfriend, which makes her feel that she was put together by the girlfriend, regretting that she took her to the blind date, resulting in the loss of her high-quality blind date and a friendship.
It is said that fire prevention and theft prevention girlfriend, the reason why two people can become girlfriends, interests must be similar, you can look at the people, girlfriends will definitely look up.
However, if you take your girlfriend on a blind date, you will have to face the risk that men will choose her, especially if your girlfriend is better than you in all aspects, you will become a foil.
In Irrational irrationality, it is said: "People often enter two modes of evaluation when making choices: individual evaluation and joint evaluation. ”
Women take girlfriends to go on blind dates, men are easy to enter the joint evaluation mode, even if you are very good, but with the "reference" of girlfriends, your impression will be discounted, and even will be attracted to girlfriends, resulting in blind date failure.
When dating, ask the man the root of the matter.
If a woman has a crush on a blind date, she wants to know more about it, but if she asks a topic that annoys the other party, it is easy to annoy herself.
The cousin once went on a blind date, the girl was more satisfied with him, intended to further develop, asked the cousin how much the monthly salary was, when she knew that there was a monthly income of more than 10,000, the girl asked how much savings the family had. The cousin was very disgusted, thinking that the relationship between the two people had not yet reached the point of accounting for the family property, so he casually perfunctorily passed, and the girl asked if the money would be handed over to the wife for safekeeping after marriage? The cousin said very unceremoniously to see if the wife he married would manage the money and then make a decision, and the two people broke up unhappily.
When you are on a blind date, if you want to know each other in depth, don't rush for a while, because you have a crush on each other, but the other party is in the wait-and-see stage, and the inquiry will make people disgusted, and he will greatly reduce your impression, and then veto you.
Even if you take a fancy to the other party, you must learn to let the man take the initiative to explain his situation, rather than constantly asking about his situation.
Before the relationship of trust between two people is not established, there will be instinctively defensive psychology for questions involving money or property, even if he answers you, what he says is not necessarily the truth, it is better not to ask, when he is willing to believe in you and fall in love with you, he will take the initiative to tell you, and then you ask him the question you want to know, he is very happy to answer for you.
When going on a blind date, take the seven aunts and eight aunts to "rub rice" together.
Some women do not know what kind of psychology they have, and like to take the seven aunts and the eight aunts to go on a blind date, saying that they are helping to palm their eyes, but the battle is too big and easy to scare men.
Qi Mei had nothing to do with her parents' arrangements to go on a blind date on vacation, the seven aunts and the eight aunts were also invited to go together, because it was a temporary intention to go to the man's home, the man's family was busy with a pot of porridge, the man's parents kept saying sorry, saying that the time was too tight to entertain them, the meal was not sumptuous, but when the man left, he prepared fruit and milk for her seven aunts and eight aunts, and gave her a thousand yuan red envelope.
She felt that the father's parents were a little smaller, and she should invite them to the restaurant to eat, but she was quite satisfied with the blind date, and she wanted to continue to contact but was opposed by the seven aunts and eight aunts, saying that the man's family gifts were not weekly, which was contemptuous of her meaning, and there was no good life in the past, so she did not pay attention.
She offered to break up and returned the red envelope, and the man tried to salvage that his parents did not deliberately hold out, but were not prepared in advance, so that she could give her another chance. She resolutely did not agree, the two people separated, afterwards from the introducer learned that the man's parents were very dissatisfied with her, thinking that she did not understand politeness, did not have opinions, and resolutely opposed them being together, but the man looked at her, she did not agree, and the man's parents were relieved.
Blind dates should be a matter of two people, but some women are afraid that they are not accurate in seeing people, and want to find someone to help, but what people to take is learned, and if they are not good, they will rub rice, and it is not worth the loss to scare each other.
When going on a blind date, don't do things that leave a bad impression on each other, and do more behaviors that add points to yourself. For example: try not to be late to meet, dress clean and tidy, do not talk about topics that are too deep, etc., so that the blind date can go smoothly, rather than dispersing with each other.
Blind date is actually a process of mutual understanding, because it is the first time to meet, to know how to grasp the scale, it is easy to win each other's favor, the greater the chance of success.
If you are not satisfied, find an excuse to slip away, give each other decency, is to respect yourself!
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