With the development of the times, fast-paced, high-priced costs, bring us a lot of pressure, in this era of rapid development, young people are getting busier and busier, let the elders of the family to take children seems to have become the norm.
The elderly with children, for those who have a heavy sense of enterprise is a good choice, but some people will feel that it is a matter of course to hand over the children to the elderly, and the pressure of taking the children is all imposed on the elderly, and they have become a hand-throwing treasurer, going to work freely, is this really reasonable?
In fact, if you do not deal with family conflicts, do not become an equal feedback with the feelings and pressures of the elderly, in the long run, it will cause a new crisis and form a new type of "nibbling on the old people".
So how can we prevent the new type of "nibbling on the old people"? Let Xiao Rui take you to know it today!
1. Time for children and the elderly
Many young people, when taking a break during the holidays, will always use the banner of "I am tired and I need to rest" or "I am so tired why do you want to torture me", occupying most of their rest time with themselves, not even a little time to accompany children and the elderly.
People who have brought children know how tired it is to take care of children, the old man wants to take care of his grandchildren after retirement, enjoy the love of grandchildren, and reduce the pressure on his children by the way, so he volunteers to stop the pressure on himself.
This is a good thing, but if you have not given the elderly and children time to accompany, and say some "what is tiring with children" and "how good it is to enjoy the blessings of children at home", this will not only hurt the hearts of the elderly very much, but also lead to children who do not get close to themselves or even children do not recognize their parents when they grow up.
If you do not want the above situation to appear, you must give the child and parents enough time to accompany, the elderly in the child can see the understanding of young people, see the closeness of their children and grandchildren, but also happy and more satisfied with the image of "family fun" in the heart of the elderly. Even if you are bitter and tired, you will be satisfied to see such a good scene.
2. Give parents enough financial foundation
Even if young people ask their parents to bring their children, they must give their parents enough financial foundation, rather than not paying a penny and letting parents use their own pension to raise their children.
How much can a parent's pension be? Not only to raise children but also to ensure that parents and young people have a mouthful of food, the pressure of bringing children is already great, if the economy is also harsh on parents, is it not to increase the pressure and psychological burden on parents?
Parents are old, it should not be too hard, with the child's annoyance and different degrees of pressure in all aspects, all piled up on the parents' body, long-term, not only will increase the parents' three high, long time is more of a torture of the body, even if it is a young man himself think a light and fluttering sentence, but it is likely to make parents angry, fainting.
So those of us who do children, please parents with children should have a lot of guilt, we must give parents enough economic foundation, so that not only can bring good children, but also less pressure on parents.
Parents work hard all their lives, don't covet your parents' pensions and pensions, you should let your parents enjoy their old age in peace, after all, your parents have paid a lot of effort to support you.
The disharmony of the family will also lead to the child's psychological inferiority, and the ultimate goal of our hard work is not to make the child inferior in front of others and give the child enough self-confidence?
Don't let a momentary greed become your rightful consideration, this is not what parents should do for you, these children when they are young let their parents worry about old age, and when they grow up, they can't let go of their parents, which is really unfilial.
3. Give positive emotional feedback to parents
Parents understand the fatigue of our work, so even if there is something that bothers them, they will not say, at this time, those of us who do children should pay more attention to the emotional and psychological changes of the elderly, and we can also take the initiative to ask our parents, if it is something we can solve, then try to help our parents solve.
Parents understand that we are stressed at work, busy life, and are not willing to let our own things disturb us, but this does not mean that we have to ignore it, we must understand our parents and give positive emotional feedback to our parents.
We must use practical actions to tell parents, although we are busy, but our hearts are still in the parents and children, we understand the parents' fatigue and pressure, if there is any troublesome things, the first time to talk to parents, solve the problem together.
Only by understanding and understanding parents can parents reduce their own life burden and psychological pressure, the word "busy" should not become an excuse for us to be lazy and filial piety, only "heart to heart", will not let us become "old people".
Finally, XiaoRui suggests that young people who see this article put down their mobile phones and spend more time with their parents and children around them, they are the people closest to you, and be sure to give them the right emotional feedback.