I grew up in the city, grew up in a relatively good condition, although I can't say that I have traveled the world, I have also experienced exoticism in foreign countries, and I have been to many places. And the matter of tourism, it is not necessary to have a family wealth to afford, now people's living conditions are good, for tourism abroad most families can do. I went to so many places, but I patronized and played. So that's why my husband was obsessed with me.
He came from the countryside and his parents died very early. He also has an older brother, so he and his brother are dependent on each other and go to society very early. He was fascinated by the places I said, obviously he had never been there, he said the same as he had been, and when he sighed, he was particularly in line with my feelings. Most importantly, chatting with him always makes me feel new and makes me sigh inside: "Oh, there is such a thing." "People are divided into two categories, charming and boring. He was really charming, including a lot of ideas that made me think he was very thoughtful, and made me dispel a lot of the perception of rural people.
I would feel like he got rid of that thought, so I would feel like his choices and opinions were better than mine. In fact, it is, and certainly not entirely.
We were in love for three years, he also met my parents, the New Year also visited relatives on both sides, my parents are not very satisfied with him, one is that there is no house, the other is that people are also tall and thin, can not be said to be a table of talents. Because his parents died early, this year is the New Year at my house, this year I am 26 years old, he is 30 years old. So my father and my mother were also anxious for me, so on the evening of the fifth night of the Chinese New Year, we had a family meeting the day before we went out, called my uncle and my aunt and I, and asked him about his plans for marriage. His answer was that he would choose a good day this year and get married around the Mid-Autumn Festival
After going out for a few months without menstruation, I thought there was something wrong with my body, I thought the uterus was a big deal, so I went to the provincial Chinese medicine hospital for examination, the doctor was an old man, and his speech was not very sharp. I took my pulse, asked about the situation, and then prescribed medicine to me. I took my medicine for more than a week and didn't get better, so I looked at the clinic next to my home and said I was pregnant for three months.
I came home happy to tell my husband about my pregnancy. He was also very happy, sticking it on my stomach to listen, calling the baby.
Say baby, good, be obedient, don't bully your mother. When he went to bed at night, he said to me very solemnly, you have taken medicine for so long, it has little impact on children. I was also panicked and didn't know what to do. He said to stop the medicine and go to the hospital tomorrow for a check-up. After a while, he said, "Everything is still there, and don't lose the medicine." Then go to the Chinese medicine hospital to ask for an explanation. ”
After experiencing this incident, of course, I did not dare to go to the Chinese medicine hospital again. Went to the provincial maternal and child examination, once spent more than 20,000 yuan, the doctor did not recommend us to give birth to this child, said that the possibility of giving birth to a deformed child is very large. He suddenly had no idea, and there was no clear opinion on whether to keep the child or to exile the child. Just accompany me to the Chinese medicine hospital over and over again to discuss the explanation, to the provincial women and children for examination. Spend a lot of money back and forth. My parents and the people around me told me to kill them, I believe in Buddhism, I think the baby is also life, do not want to kill. Insist on being born. The complaint department of the Chinese medicine hospital is still very fair, so the hospital reimburses us for a large part of the cost of the examination.
I was pregnant, and the wedding day was certainly many days earlier than planned. Of course, my mother also urged him to buy a house. I know his concerns, I'm pregnant now, I've quit my job a long time ago, and I haven't been to work for months. Now he makes money alone, and the expenses of our family outside, rent, water and electricity, food and drink, are all waiting for him to feed. I just spent a lot of savings on the inspection fee, and now I have to prepare for the wedding again. Milk powder money after the birth of the child is to use money. I told my mother about his concerns, and my mother was also afraid that I would be wronged and insisted on buying a house. But she would pay half the money to buy a house. Just when I was moved, she said another request: "The title deed must write her name." ”
I am also afraid that my husband will not agree, he has strong self-esteem, and he also wants to buy a house of his own. He said, "I especially want a home of my own," and I know that the new marriage law stipulates that the house bought after marriage can be counted as the joint property of the husband and wife. I told him what I thought: "My mom paid half of the down payment first, and half of the mortgage on the back." In this way, this house is for the two of us. My mother has also given so much, and the most important thing is that she is afraid that I will be wronged. Anyway, the house is also ours, so my mother can rest assured. He still disagreed: "I have always wanted to have a house and a home, you said that the real estate deed is not our name, how to count our house?" "I said that the house is legally the two of us, so why are you bothering with that name?"
Everyone said, should he give in?