【Motivation】2.3 Children do not have a sense of responsibility, what to do?

Hello moms and dads who love to learn!

An important topic for you to discuss today is called responsibility. For a child, the sense of responsibility may be greater than his academic qualifications or ability!

For example, if your husband is responsible for the family today, then your family still has huge room for development in the next ten years; if your husband has no responsibility for the family, then the next ten years, the development will basically be very difficult.

A child, the size of his sense of responsibility also determines the size of his future achievements.

If he can take the family as his responsibility, he will carry the motivation of the family;

If he takes the team as his responsibility, he carries the motivation of the team;

If he takes the state as his responsibility, he will carry the impetus of the state;

If he takes the nation as his responsibility, he will carry the national dynamics with him.

If a child only thinks about himself and is very selfish, such a child, the motivation is very limited!

Excellent parents should know how to cultivate their children's sense of responsibility, because the sense of responsibility is the source of power for children to continue to grow!

But the reality is that not every family's children have a sense of responsibility.

A friend came to me from hangzhou with her child from abroad, and I felt that this child lacked responsibility.

When this friend kept complaining to me about how irresponsible her husband was, I laughed and said to her: You complain every day that your husband has no sense of responsibility, but you are using the wrong way to cultivate a son who is less responsible than your husband, and in the future, after your son gets married, another woman will also complain that your son has no sense of responsibility.

Have you ever wondered: Why are different families and children's sense of responsibility different?

Some children from some families are very responsible, you let him do anything, he is very considerate of his parents, while some children from families do not care about anything.

Why is there such a big difference between children and children? What's the difference?

By observing thousands of families, I found that whether a family's children have a sense of responsibility, there is a very important reason, that is, in this family, is there a kind mother?

Reflecting on my own life course, I am a very responsible child, and what does my sense of responsibility come from? It came from my parents' patience with me.

When I was young, my father worked outside for many years to earn money for me and my sister to study; my mother, as an ordinary woman, took on all the responsibilities at home. Mom planted a field for four people alone! Many families are laborers for both men and women, and my mother works alone in the fields. In order to make the work faster, people cut rice back and forth, and my mother cut around the field, and my mother felt that the time to stand up and straighten up was a waste. My mom is a well-known local woman who can endure hardships.

One thing I was very impressed with was that during the summer vacation, our countryside was called "double robbery", and there was a lot of work and very hard work, when my sister and I were still relatively young and could not cook.

Mom finished working in the fields and came home late. Other people's children have already eaten, bathed, and rested on the mat, while our house is still black and blind, and the pot is empty. My sister and I are hungry, and there are a lot of mosquitoes in the summer, and it is very uncomfortable to be bitten by mosquitoes, so we are very emotional.

When my mother came back, we said to my mother: You see how nice people's children are, you see we are all starving to death, and so on, and a lot of complaints. I distinctly saw my mother, who was actually very tired, and at that moment she could have lost her temper and said: Do you know I'm hard? It's not easy for me to wait! Her heart should be very wronged, but my mother did not complain, just smiled slightly, and said: Child, mother knows that you are hungry, mother will cook for you now. At that moment, we were very touched and very guilty, so we immediately went to my mother's side and became her good helper, helping her cook together, washing vegetables, adding firewood, and so on.

My sister and I have been very responsible for the family since childhood, because we can feel the hardships and grievances of our mother.

But I reflect on it, if at that moment, my mom complained: You see your dad is not at home, how hard I work at home alone, am I easy? If my mother complains, my sister's emotions may be very conflicting in the heart, and the psychology may say: you deserve it, you deserve it!

In fact, parents in the world are not easy, very hard, especially for the sake of children. But why can some children feel it, but some children can't feel it? It is because when some mothers are suffering at home, they often complain, often complain about their grievances, and desire others to understand, but the child cannot understand, and the child feels your emotions! When your emotions are bigger, the child can't understand you, he can't feel your hardships, and the child has no sense of responsibility for you.

Why is it so important for a loving mother to have a sense of responsibility to her children?

Because when the child is understood and accepted, his heart can also feel your heartache, he can feel the responsibility of the mother, and he can also feel the responsibility of the whole family.

Many mothers often tell me: My temperament is more urgent, and my emotions are easy to lose control. What I want to tell them is: all you have to do is control your emotions, and if you don't change your ways, your child has no sense of responsibility.

Everyone must bear the corresponding consequences for his own actions, so the level of parents is very important to the child!

I have taught so many classes across the country and observed a large number of families, and one sentence is very certain, that is, to this day I have not found that low-level parents can raise excellent children by just spending money.

I think for everyone, they are willing to spend money for their children, but there are very few parents who are willing to learn and change themselves for their children. Therefore, I would like to appeal to everyone here to be a wise parent who is willing to learn and improve himself for the sake of his children.