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Children's learning is undoubtedly the most concerned topic for many families. They want to have a bright future through learning. However, many children are tired of studying, do not want to go to school, and do not want to go to school, which worries many parents. Only by finding the cause can the problem of children's school boredom be solved
The causes of childhood aversion are probably the following:
Lack of correct motivation to learn, lack of psychological motivation to learn, which is related to being overly pampered in the family and lack of interest in the content of the knowledge learned;
Do not have a good relationship with teachers and classmates, or have a hurt self-esteem, and have negative feelings about the school;
Lack of hard-working and tenacious will, only love to listen to praise, can not withstand criticism and setbacks, poor psychological self-defense ability.
You know, what children hate is not learning itself, they hate those who can't choose, the difficult learning content and the tedious and rigid learning process, as well as the evaluation system based only on the score.
The superior living environment makes children less motivated and more inert. As the old Chinese saying goes, "Heaven will descend upon the Scythians, and they will first strain their bones and bones, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and do what they do in a disorderly manner, so they will be tempted to endure and gain what they cannot do."
Today's children grow up in an environment where they have no worries about food and clothing, they have not suffered, they have never known what is bitter, so they have never known what is sweet, and they have no way of knowing that sweetness must be obtained through hard work.
As a common learning psychological problem, boredom is common among primary and secondary school students, learning participation is a measure of the degree of adolescence of an adolescent index, according to the change of learning participation, we divide the boredom into several different stages:
Stage 1: The Negative Emotions Phase
This stage as the initial stage of school aversion is mainly manifested in: normal learning tasks are involved, but the enthusiasm for participation is not as strong as before, negative emotions appear, and a certain slackness is shown in behavior. Occasionally late.
The second stage: the passive action stage
At this stage, children will often not write homework, sleep in class, and are often criticized by teachers for this. Participation in learning dropped dramatically, and asking him what he had learned often didn't know what to do. But the child will continue to insist on going to school. Attendance began to decline significantly, with occasional absenteeism.
The third stage: the loss of power phase
The characteristics of this stage are: not turning in homework, not listening to lectures, not going to school one after another, disgusted with learning, and having no desire or interest in learning. He was no longer willing to participate in all the learning activities in the school. Attendance is low or even no longer available.
The dangers of children's boredom
First, it seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, affect interpersonal relationships
Children's self-esteem is very strong, poor academic performance, will also be excluded by teachers and classmates, plus the teacher will arrange children with poor grades to the end, so that it will form a gap with those who study well, and interpersonal relationships will be affected.
Third, endanger self-confidence and self-esteem
Then, if the teacher and the classmates are excluded and sit in the back position, there will be a big gap in psychology, there will be no self-confidence, and over time it will cause the child's retaliation.
Therefore, children are not necessarily tired of learning is not necessarily their own reasons, want to change the situation of children who are tired of learning, you must first adjust your own mentality, to learn a scientific method to guide children, so as not to let boredom continue to plague children, after all, the harm of boredom to children is also quite large, parents if they do not know how to correctly guide children, you can privately believe me.
In response to the feeling of boredom, how should parents guide it?
01, need to find out the specific reason
There are many reasons why children are bored with school. For example, the expectations given by parents are too high, the learning pressure is too high, the learning style is incorrect, the teacher's teaching style is not adapted, and even the children do not get along well, which may produce boredom.
If the child has shown a sense of boredom at present, parents should not criticize and scold. The first thing parents should do is to understand the dilemma faced by their children through heart-to-heart talks, and express their understanding of their children's psychology, and then propose targeted solutions.
02. Help children find learning interests
Some children learn to cope with their parents. Because only when playing games, these children's eyes will shine.
Learning for the sake of giving an account to parents is not enough to form a strong motivation, but also needs to find real learning interests.
In the stage of children's 2-6 years old, parents should take their children out to expand their "horizons" and let children maintain curiosity about things while experiencing life.
When children find that there are still many unknowns about the world, they will naturally have clear goals and interests in inquiry.
If the child always likes to ask "why", parents must not think that the child asks too much, which will suppress the child's enthusiasm for learning. A better way is to find the answer to the question with the child by reading books and looking up information.
03. Help children rekindle their faith
Children are bored with school, and if parents let go of their own ways at this time, their children will deviate more and more from the original track. Therefore, parents must intervene.
However, among the many ways to guide children, helping children to rekindle their faith is the way to cure the root cause. But what if to help?
Parents can remind their children to think back to the funny things that happened at school and the good friends.
You can also ask the child: "If you don't go to school, then your friends will be farther and farther away from you, because they know something, you don't understand, even so, are you willing to accept it?" ”
This is conducive to rekindling the child's inner desire to go to school and establishing the child's confidence in learning. Only after the child understands the meaning of going to school and realizes the disadvantages of not going to school, can he spontaneously and seriously devote himself to learning.
What should I do if my child is bored with school? When a child is bored with school, parents should not worry or get angry first, because it is useless. We have to realize that this is the way children express themselves to us in a way. Therefore, we should take a deep look at what is wrong with the child, and then step by step help the child adjust and guide them. I believe that with the help of their parents, children will fall in love with learning.
The above is the article brought to you today, if you feel that it is helpful in educating children, please forward it to friends who are also in need, and we will escort the growth of children together.
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