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Many parents admit that today's children do not know how to educate, and many grandfathers and grandmothers find it difficult to communicate with current children; they find that children are disobedient, and only the words of teachers are "holy will". Play games, rebellion, competition with you, etc., especially boys, the bigger the more difficult to manage, the greater the rebellious psychology is more intense, only a few children are well-behaved.
What are the main causes of adolescent boredom
1. Physical and psychological immaturity, excessive pressure
Because children in adolescence are not mature in terms of psychological and physical development, and the learning of students at this stage is considered to be more arduous. Usually, at this stage, the school and parents put too much pressure on the teenager, which will cause the teenager to have some bad emotions and behaviors. In the face of huge pressure, there is very little free space for young students, coupled with poor communication, they may suppress all aspects of difficulties in their hearts, resulting in attention deviation and boredom.
2. Adolescent sexual and psychological conflicts
According to relevant surveys, it is found that the phenomenon of adolescent boredom has a lot to do with the sexual and psychological conflict of adolescence, especially when the first time girls have menarche and boys have their first sperm, at this time, under the action of nerves and endocrinology, the vigilance of such adolescents is enhanced, and through the conversion defense mechanism of the transfer of flowers and elderly, this overwhelmed sexual psychological pressure is temporarily alleviated by abandoning school.
3. The goal is not clear, or the method is improper
Teenagers with good service and strength are tired of school? Service institutions are strong, and adolescent students will also be hit hard because of unclear learning goals or because of improper learning methods, or because of repeated failures in examinations.
In short, the main causes of adolescent aversion to school, in addition to the above-mentioned several, the survey also found that the current depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder are also one of the reasons for adolescents' aversion to school. Therefore, once parents and schools find the phenomenon of adolescent boredom, do not rush to make an evaluation, we must deeply investigate the main reasons for the phenomenon of adolescent boredom, and treat the symptoms.
What are the manifestations of adolescent aversion?
First, the cognitive bias of learning
Children with school aversion are manifested in cognitive bias in learning, believing that reading is useless. In this information explosion society, children will be affected by some bad habits on the Internet or society, and under the influence of negative information, they think that in this society, there is no background, no financial support, even if they read more books, it is useless. Once children have this kind of thought, they naturally do not like to read.
Second, adopt a negative attitude towards learning
The most obvious manifestation of children with school aversion is a negative attitude. Many children hate learning more and more under the pressure of their parents, family and teachers. Even when they think of studying, their emotions begin to get out of control, with nervousness, anxiety, trepidation, disgust, and so on. These unpleasant experiences are prompting children's emotions to intensify. But whenever the mood is affected, they will clearly show it and treat all learning activities with a negative and sluggish attitude.
3. Acts of rebellion
School aversion is not only reflected in children's emotions and attitudes, but also directly reflected in their actions. Bored children are often reluctant to go to school, often late and leave early, looking for various reasons to take time off, or even skipping class. Some simply abandon school or drop out of school, and the learning requirements of teachers and parents often deliberately resist confrontation, and they will feel as if only by leaving learning can they achieve psychological balance.
The dangers of children's boredom
First, it seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, affect interpersonal relationships
Children's self-esteem is very strong, poor academic performance, will also be excluded by teachers and classmates, plus the teacher will arrange children with poor grades to the end, so that it will form a gap with those who study well, and interpersonal relationships will be affected.
Third, endanger self-confidence and self-esteem
Then, if the teacher and the classmates are excluded and sit in the back position, there will be a big gap in psychology, there will be no self-confidence, and over time it will cause the child's retaliation.
Therefore, children are not necessarily tired of learning is not necessarily their own reasons, want to change the situation of children who are tired of learning, you must first adjust your own mentality, to learn a scientific method to guide children, so as not to let boredom continue to plague children, after all, the harm of boredom to children is also quite large, parents if they do not know how to correctly guide children, you can privately believe me.
How should moms and dads treat school-weary children?
1. Mobilize children's interest in learning. Pay attention to the use of different learning methods, for example: the comprehensive use of listening, speaking, reading, writing, to avoid learning time too long to cause children to have psychological boredom. Families with conditions can also cooperate with electronic teaching methods such as audio recording and video recording to improve children's interest in learning.
2. Cultivate children's good learning habits. The formation of good habits of parents for children should start small, and the learning of children can be guided in principle, but it must not be replaced by arrangement, so that children can establish a sense of responsibility and independence in the process of learning.
3. Help children establish correct learning methods. Rational use of time and brain, can not engage in fatigue tactics, to win with quality.
4. Help children establish good relationships with teachers. Develop his ability to interact with children and improve his psychological adaptability to group life. For low-energy children, targeted functional training should be carried out and some special educational methods should be adopted. In this regard, expert guidance should be accepted.
What should I do if my child is bored with school? When a child is bored with school, parents should not worry or get angry first, because it is useless. We have to realize that this is the way children express themselves to us in a way. Therefore, we should take a deep look at what is wrong with the child, and then step by step help the child adjust and guide them. I believe that with the help of their parents, children will fall in love with learning.
The above is the article brought to you today. If parents feel that it is helpful to educate their children, please share it with other friends in need, and we will escort the growth of children together.
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