After many parents have children, all eyes are fixed on their children, and the daily topics and things are around their children. Children are important, but is that all we parents live? Don't forget, parents should not relax their own pace of progress, after all, fight for children's education, in the final analysis, it is still spelled on the attitude and life perception of parents.
How do you understand that your own childhood upbringing will have a profound impact on the way you educate your children? As we age and deepen our self-awareness, we are gradually able to provide an environment in which children can be emotionally comfortable and grow up healthy. Studies have shown that children's attachment to their parents has a very important link to their parents' perceptions of their early experiences.
Knowing ourselves thoroughly, the way we communicate with our children can greatly affect their growth. Careful, reciprocal communication can give children a sense of security, and this mutual trust and safe relationship can help children achieve in many areas of the future.
How parents perceive their parenting experiences can greatly influence their ability to communicate with their children and help them feel safe. Understanding the meaning of life can help us properly handle our childhood experiences, accept them, and make them part of our present lives. We can't change what happened to us in childhood, but we can change the way we see those things.
Thinking about life differently means that we need to understand our present experiences—including our emotions and cognitions—while also understanding how previous events affect the present. Understanding how we store our memories and how we position ourselves can help us understand "how the past was able to influence our lives in the present."
Why can having a clear understanding of our own lives help our children? Only by freeing ourselves from the shackles of the past can we establish the natural and stable parent-child relationship with our children that they need to grow up. The more thoroughly you understand your own emotional experiences, the more smoothly you can communicate with your children, enhance their ability to recognize themselves, and ensure their physical and mental health.
In contrast, the lack of self-reflection can lead to a repetition of history, in which it is easy for parents to pass on their past unhealthy behaviors or mental patterns to their children. Research proves that children's attachment to us is affected if we do not properly recognize and face our own experiences in childhood. By reflecting on our own lives, we can learn more about ourselves and integrate our own emotional experiences and perceptions of the world into our communication with our children.
Of course, the development of a child's personality will be affected by many factors, including genes, temperament, physical health and personal experience. Relationships with parents are an important part of a child's childhood experience and can directly affect a child's unformed personality. Emotional intelligence, self-esteem, cognitive abilities, and social skills are based on this early attachment relationship.
The way parents think about their lives has a direct impact on the direction of this relationship, and research has shown that children who have a positive connection to their surroundings are more resilient when they encounter setbacks. To build positive connections with our children, we need to be honest about our upbringing.
In the process of reflection from the inside out, you can sort out your life and improve your relationship with your child. No one's childhood is "flawless," and even people who have gone through a lot of suffering can have a meaningful, valuable relationship with their children. Studies have shown that people with incompetent parents or childhood pain can still find meaning in life and build good relationships with others.
How to understand and deal with what happened in the past means more to ourselves than to our children. In the future life, we will always have the opportunity to change and grow. There is a saying in the world of science that "chance always favors a prepared mind". As long as your heart is full of love and gratitude, you will get more in return. While creating a harmonious and healthy environment for children, they are also nourished.
The king of educating children is to cultivate themselves persistently. The ideal state is that the child understands, we understand; what the child does not understand, we also understand, at least, we have to intersect with the child. This long process of searching is both for yourself and for your children. The starting point of the child is the shoulder of the parent. In this way, the child will never have the same starting line.
I am a creator of happy pregnancy, quality parenting, family education instructor, loving and thoughtful parenting and education master. Welcome to follow, like and comment, more parenting knowledge and education issues can communicate with me, make parenting easier, make education more effective!