In order to let Fang Yinuo give birth to a child for his younger brother Xie Tianhua, Xie Dan threw a thud and gave Fang Yinuo a kneel.
Fang Yinuo didn't help it, and then dodged it.
Xie Tianhua lifted up his sister, and then gently wiped his sister's knee with his hand. Seeing this, what I saw was not the so-called deep affection between sister and brother, but what I saw was Xie Tianhua's extreme nest, Fang Yinuo's extreme selfishness and Xie Dan's humility of being willing to be an evil person.
Xie Tianhua's "pathology".
Seeing this stage of the TV series, I can't see anything warm and righteous from Xie Tianhua's body, what I see is pathology.
Before a man talks about love, he must first talk about self-reliance, self-improvement, and self-esteem, and then he is qualified to talk about desperate love.
A man, married to a divorced woman with children, dragged the whole family to be good to this woman, good to this woman's children, even if this woman's children are sick and need him to go bankrupt, even if the child's father pays for it, he is likely to recognize this child in the future, but he endures and accepts. However, this woman actually carried him to open a room with her ex-husband, hoping to have another child.
Marriage is absurd to such an extent that Xie Tianhua can actually endure and accept it. Compared with Xie Tianhua's "selfless love", I really think that Dong Fan's collapse and divorce are the emotions that normal couples and normal love should have.
And Xie Tianhua's kind of resignation is not love, it is a disease, it is a kind of disease that "knows that it is hurt and is willing to accept self-abuse" disease.
There is a kind of person who is like this in love, he just likes to be humble, likes the feeling of masochism, so as to show his so-called great love and his so-called "goodness." But does he really love each other? Not. He did not love the other person, but his own painful feelings of love.
In this drama, there is a plot in which Xie Dan rejects capers for Xie Tianhua. At first glance, this detail has nothing to do with the plot, but if you think about it, this is a microcosm of Xie Tianhua's "willingness to be bullied to present a good state".
Xie Tianhua is not a child, he is a middle-aged man who is almost 40 years old, there are old and young, it is said that he should be able to support his family with a pillar of heaven, but he is not. He is the sorrow of the Xie family, a "strange thing" who knows that the neighbor has bad intentions, exchanges capers for his good food and good dishes, and is willing to change, and his sister helps him stop it, and he also blames his sister for the "strange thing".
Here's a key point: Is he really willing to trade good food for his neighbor's capers? He didn't want to. However, he obviously did not want to, and he wanted to show a good look to accept this matter. And when his sister helped him, he blamed his sister for being preoccupied.
Here I have to say that a kind of "fake good guy" who blindly wants to be a good guy but never looks at reality, and many times, his good guy sacrifices more people who love him for the sake of those who don't love him.
Don't say anything about great love, if a person's love has reached the point of hurting others and hurting himself, then it is not called love, that is called injustice, that is called debt.
What is even more frightening is that when a person who is obviously very kind accepts too much of this "negative energy hurt", his emotions will form a squeeze, and once the straw falls, he accepts too many things without a bottom line, and he himself can easily become without a bottom line to achieve a balance of tit-for-tat.
Really, don't be a man like Xie Tianhua in this life, don't think of people being good and being deceived as a virtue, otherwise this is not a promotion of goodness, but the greatest irony of goodness.
Fang Yinuo's selfishness.
Watching this drama, I was shocked again and again by Fang Yinuo's selfishness.
Procreation is a woman's right and freedom, and I don't deny it. But, what I'm going to deny is that children are a woman's own business and have nothing to do with men.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage failed, which was the result of the joint creation of the two of them and had nothing to do with Hehe.
Hehe is Xiao Lu's biological daughter, and Fang Yinuo, because he hates Xiao Lu, tries in vain to completely block the blood affection of all the xiao family members for Hehe. And when Hehe is sick, until she needs xiao's family to contribute bone marrow, then Xiao Lu only has the obligation to contribute bone marrow to the child, but has no obligation to be a father.
This point, whether from the point of view of humanity or from the law, is completely untenable. But Fang Yinuo justifiably did it.
What is even more incredible is Fang Yinuo's second marriage, she does not love Xie Tianhua at all, she just wants to find a good father for her children. Because she didn't love, she didn't care about Xie Tianhua's thoughts at all, even if she was pregnant with Xie Tianhua's child, she didn't feel the need to tell Xie Tianhua.
She knew how much Xie Tianhua had paid for her, she knew that the Xie family had already given everything she could for her, but when she was pregnant with the Xie family's child, when the Xie family was all overflowing with happiness and ready to be better for her and better for Hehe, what she actually thought was not to tell the Xie family about the existence of this child, and then not to have this child, and then to have a child with her ex-husband.
In order to save the child, can you violate all the bottom lines? In order to save the child, can we ignore even the minimum moral right and wrong?
The most frightening thing was that Xiao Lu was reluctant to do this. When Xiao Lu learned that Fang Yinuo was pregnant, when Xie Tianhua told Xiao Lu the news, Xiao Lu completely dismissed the idea of having another child to save Hehe.
It was true that he wanted to save Hehe, but his child was a child, Xie Tianhua's child was also a child, he didn't want to be so selfish, for his own children, ruined Fang Yinuo's second marriage, and also ruined Xie Tianhua's hard-won child.
But Xiao Lu was unwilling. Fang Yinuo actually didn't want to give up that ridiculous idea. Did she really want to save Hehe, or had she never let go of Xiao Lu in her heart?
Whether it is the real prototype of this story, or in this TV series, there is a neglected point, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo in order to save this child who is born again?
He is not the crystallization of love, he is a tool to save people. Hehe is a dear child, is this child not a dear child?
In the TV series, Hehe is a dear child, is Xie Tianhua's child not a dear child?
Why would anyone think that Fang Yinuo's move was the so-called great maternal love?
What was even more shocking was that Fang Yinuo's mother actually said that the child was in her daughter's belly and had nothing to do with others.
Her daughter has a marriage, and the child in her daughter's belly has a father, so doesn't the father have the right to speak?
You let your daughter do whatever she wants, and you don't care about others at all, and the children brought out by such a mother are mostly selfish. On this point, Fang Yinuo and Fang Yinuo's mother are typical.
Shedan's willingness to be the "wicked man."
To be honest, people like Xie Dan are quite annoying.
But Shedan is just as good as he is, not duplicitous. She saw the reality clearly and said it for sure. She was the most emotionally normal person in the whole Xie family. She can't pretend, she always helps the Xie family out, and the one who is not good yet.
Especially, between her and Xie Tianhua.
That plate of capers, Xie Tianhua did not say, she would not know. Xie Tianhua was obviously reluctant in his heart and told his sister, but when his sister took the lead for him, he felt unwilling again.
Such things often happened to Xie Tianhua and Xie Dan. Especially in the case of Fang Yinuo, in fact, Xie Tianhua has been accumulating emotions, he completely ignored the true thoughts in his heart, he obviously could not accept Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu to have another child in his heart, but he was stunned to press himself to agree. He even said that the child who was born again would let him raise it.
As Shedan asked, wouldn't he want to have a biological child of his own?
He thought, he thought too much. However, he didn't say it, he held back, and when Fang Yinuo was really pregnant, he didn't even tell him, he could still forgive. And when his sister was forced to kneel for Fang Yinuo, but still could not exchange a promise from Fang Yinuo, his morbid love was finally torn apart.
How ironic, Fang Yinuo did not leave that child in the end, but, probably with Xie Tianhua's generosity and selflessness, it is estimated that he will still love Fang Yinuo as before.
Liu Yong wrote in "Human Nature You Must Know":
When you find that a person loves you more than he loves himself, even at the expense of his own relatives for you, think hard about whether he will sacrifice you one day.
I have never felt that Xie Tianhua's love of sacrificing his relatives for the sake of Fang Yinuo is normal. I also never think that Xie Tianhua, who has no bottom line in order to be a "perfect husband", is worthy of praise.
If love is all this kind of hurtful and self-inflicted, one party is completely sacrificed, the other side is completely demanding, then love is really terrible.
In my opinion, Xie Tianhua is a very terrible person. Sacrificing oneself to distort human nature completely distorts man.
Good is so good that there is no principle, there is no bottom line, and good is easy to create evil.
In fact, how good Xie Tianhua was to the other party, then how evil he was to himself and the Xie family. What is even more cruel is that there is a point here that the object of his evil is the person who loves him the most, and the object of his good is the person who does not love him at all.
It's a vicious circle in relationships.
The more Xie Tianhua was so selfless, without a bottom line, without principles, the more it would encourage Fang Yinuo to ignore him, and even ignore his arrogance. From this drama to the present, I have not seen Fang Yinuo really regard Xie Tianhua as her husband, she does not respect him, nor does she care about him, or even she really uses him, calculates him, and then does not hesitate to betray him and abandon him.
Xie Tianhua's process of being hurt by Fang Yinuo was also a process of hurting Xie's family. He wanted to be the wronged boss, the Xie family had to follow him as the wronged boss, he wanted to ruin the family, the Xie family had to follow him to ruin the family, and even if he wanted to accept Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo to have another child, the Xie family had to accept.
As for the feelings of the Xie family, he completely ignored and ignored them, just as Fang Yinuo ignored him.
Didn't he feel guilty when he saw his sister being forced to kneel down to Fang Yinuo? Even if he himself is humble in love, he must let the whole family have no principles and the bottom line of humility.
Looking at Xie Tianhua, I just want to say that there is no difference between a man's "love brain" and a woman's "love brain", but it is just ruining himself, dragging down his family, letting outsiders see all the jokes, and being looked down upon.
Finally, I really want to say: in marriage, don't emphasize Zhang Ailing's "love humble theory", regardless of men and women, you can love, but you also have to have a little backbone, don't lose self-esteem, lose self-love, and finally even lose personality and humanity.
A very cruel sentence: A person who cannot stand up on his own cannot get true love, and all he gets is pity.