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Xiao Lu in "Dear Child", from the first episode to the seventh episode, many viewers said "this man is good" and "much better than my husband" in the bullet screen.
To tell the truth, no one is perfect, and the same is true of lovers, it is impossible to be perfect, nor can it be considerate and flawless. Overall, he has a good temperament, always coaxing his wife, but also coaxing his mother, his brother, to the company still have to coax customers.
As he said, he also needs someone to coax him, he is also very wronged, and he is tired when he comes home every day to be afraid of being embarrassed.
Indeed, these are facts, and he is not easy. However, it is not easy for anyone who is not a rich second generation to rely on himself, and life is fair to everyone.
More importantly, it is not easy for others, especially the wife Who has a child, Fang Yinuo, with the child, the role of the mother is definitely more tired than the father, and the all-round body and mind are on the child.
Therefore, when she is mixed up by her mother-in-law and little uncle, who are unreliable and have different living habits, it is difficult not to lose her temper, plus her husband does not care about anything when he comes home, only one mouth speaks very well.
This man is very easy to be soft, and he is also very good at coaxing people to be happy, apologizing, drawing a big pie and saying anything, but the care for the life of his wife and children seems to be very small, I don't know if he is not careful enough, or lazy, or has a big heart, or only loves himself.
Anyway, there was always a little bit of wandering, it seemed that he was giving in everywhere, coaxing everyone to be happy, but in fact his action was very lacking. For example, when I came back from work, I made noodles for my wife in the confinement, forgot to put salt, and forgot that she loved to eat peppers.
The wife ate a few bites, couldn't help urinating, said to go to the toilet, and came back to see, the man ate the noodles...
I have to say that he is not really attentive to people, but he is very attentive to his mouth.
As for him, he is also very tired, not going home all day long to make money, for his wife and children to live better, this kind of thing many men will say.
The premise must be like his wife Fang Yinuo said: "Am I looking for you to ask for any substance?" Am I overly demanding? Am I just wishing my daughter and I were there when we needed you? ”
See, his wife didn't ask him to make more money, and their lives should be okay. He later said his true thoughts, but he himself wanted to get ahead, because he was not well-off since childhood, he was looked down upon, and he wanted to prove it to those who looked down on him.
There is nothing wrong with this, some people need to "fight for a breath", but you have wives and children, they should be put first, or don't marry and have children, work hard to make money, no one is holding back.
Since you have it, you should let them find you anytime and anywhere, not the child is sick, the wife can't get through his phone, the old man and the child can't get a car in the heavy rain alone, the old man falls, the child cries... That kind of thing is desperate.
After all, if there is no husband, he will be strong and carry it silently, but with a husband, he will naturally think of counting on him, relying on him, or at least asking him to be around to be his spiritual pillar.
Unfortunately, I couldn't find it when I needed it. And later? Directly drunk in the name of work, drunk into the bed of the female client.
There are also reasons, such as the wife does not let you touch after giving birth to a child, such as the wife only has children in her eyes, no one cares about herself, such as a small family, an old small room, home can not breathe, meals can not eat a good meal, such as for the sake of interests accidentally "make mistakes", not their own intentions, anyway, these so-called troubles and grievances sound reasonable.
If it weren't for listening to him and his friend Lao Xie and the two of them talking heart-to-heart, I really sympathized with him a little, and even felt that he was not easy, so it was understandable. But this understanding is limited to understanding and cannot be accepted.
As Old Xie said, "For work? You mean all men can make mistakes just by saying that they can make mistakes just for the sake of work! You have wives and children, and no girl can provoke you. ”
Xiao Lu said that he knew, and at the same time said that Lao Xie was standing and talking without waist pain, thinking that he was for this family, and said that after his daughter was born, life was all chaotic.
Lao Xie said: "You come less to this set, you still blame others!" If it were me, I wouldn't run away, it was a man who should be responsible. ”
However, Xiao Lu did not think so, and felt that Lao Xie was not married, of course, he said it easily.
Is this really the case? I am still willing to stand on lao Xie's side, thinking that he is right. That is to say, the men in this world will not be like some people think: everyone will make some kind of mistake. I will not make mistakes because life is stressful and family affairs are too complicated to understand pressure. Not to mention that there is no bottom line principle in work to make sorry for the wife and children.
There are definitely some men who are either absolutely loyal or not married, responsible when they are married, do not make excuses, do not find reasons, do not feel that they are tired and aggrieved, do not feel that they are making money for their wives and children, so it seems reasonable to make some mistakes.
This is not to say that they are Yanagishita, but that they will not fail her and hurt her if their wife has no error of principle. At the same time, keeping one's innocence and bottom line is also due to character, not for who is trying to stick to it, but to feel that it is the right thing to keep.
Ten thousand steps back, the couple's feelings are in trouble, or they have changed their minds, they will not try and make mistakes first, but to face, to communicate, to solve, even if it is a breakup and divorce, it will also settle the wife and children, deal with the previous relationship, and then start the next relationship between men and women.
There must be such men, but many people have very low requirements for themselves, and the excuse of making mistakes is easy. At the same time, he also pushes the problem on others, thinking that he is innocent.
Feeling that with children, they will not have a good life, and they feel aggrieved, which is also a manifestation of insufficient responsibility. The path you choose, you must carry it without complaint or regret. And both husband and wife are paying, the wife is paying more for the children, how can you feel that you are the less difficult one?
What's more, the man's wife in the play is actually very tolerant of him, and occasionally gets angry for the sake of the child, which is also a very normal reaction of a mother. She is no longer pretentious, she is already sensible and restrained.
In this case, he really can't find any excuse for making a mistake, and a mistake is a mistake.
What we have to do is to understand the position of this man, understand his difficulty, but can not accept not to agree with such behaviors and ideas, so that it can be regarded as the correct view of marriage and life.