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Have you found this a great opportunity to educate your child about love?
Let's not discuss how to educate children cleanly and politely, parents think about it: If your daughter is dumped by two young and unsuspecting lifelong preparatory boyfriends, the reason for dumping is [my mother doesn't like you], and the parents are still busy with self-examination?
If you really do it, you won't grasp the main contradiction.
When I was young, my mother told me a story called The Proud Little White Goose.
The gist is that the little white goose thinks that it is a unique white lotus in the world.
Met the piglet is dirty, so do not play with the piglet,
Met the little white rabbit suspects that the little white rabbit is timid, do not play with the little white rabbit,
Encountered the puppy disgusted with the puppy noisy, do not play with the puppy.
In the end he had no friends, and no one played with him.
Of course, later he may have encountered some things, and found that the friends he originally disliked were very good to him, so he put aside his prejudices and played with other friends.
When I was a child, my thinking was more than Qingqi, and what most children can understand in this story is: we should not dislike the shortcomings of others, but should look at the advantages and make good friends. Perhaps parents will also want to guide their children from this direction.
But when I read this story, I substituted those abandoned piglets and puppies and rabbits. Because I know I'm not a little white goose. Most people have all sorts of advantages in my eyes.
I know: I may have all kinds of flaws in me, but because some people have the proud perspective of a little white goose, they will look at me unfavorably. But it's not my fault.
So until now my mother still tells my husband with relish: My daughter has a very personal personality since she was a child, and she doesn't care if others like her or not.
Yes, as a little pig, although it is dirty and messy, but I am generous and willing to work.
There are more people who like me, you little white goose doesn't like me, how old are you? Are you little white goose perfect again?
Don't like me to pull down, I and the puppy bunny are not unable to be friends, you hate me, indicating that you also have no value in being liked by me.
I'm not the same as the piglet in the story, the little white goose is in trouble and goes out to help.
I don't help you, you hate me, you deserve to fall into the mire one day. I don't throw a brick on it because I'm of high quality.
I only help people who like me.
Friends who came here clicked on my homepage to see how many million followers I knew.
200,000.
I tell you, I'm on the blacklist right now, about 6,000 people. The rule of blackout is that they don't like me, so they're rude and unkind to me.
Do I need to change some of my traits for these 6,000 people who don't like me? What if that trait is why these 200,000 people like me?
Therefore, I think that a person should change whether he is unpopular or not depends on whether his current state is open in society.
If most people hate him, then this matter must be changed.
Just like I am now an emotional counselor, some girls told me that all her blind dates were men's side, and few men continued to chase her.
Then when I give her a review, I will ask her why the other party is not enthusiastic when they are enthusiastic in the first place, who are these people? What kind of object was chosen in the end? What exactly did you say? What was done? Where is there room for improvement?
But if a well-known girl says that a boy doesn't like her, I'm sure I'll ask her if she has any other suitors?
After you have done your best to this person, the other party is still exploiting you, oppressing you, rejecting you, and plundering you, then you may not be hanged on this tree.
Even if there are no suitors now, can you take a look, go out and expand your social circle, increase your social reach, and find some other opportunities for yourself.
The same is true for the workplace.
I allow myself to be a piggy with flaws, but likewise I will play to my strengths and avoid weaknesses, and I have some advantages that are enough to make these shortcomings less obvious and less annoying to balance my shortcomings.
But the picky little white goose, he is flawed and does not know that he is still too good to be suspicious of the east and the west, this kind of talent is a clown good?
I am a little pig, I don't have to live like a little white goose, I don't have to live as a little white goose, you little white goose has the advantages of a little white goose, my little pig has the advantages of a little pig.
Who is more noble than whom?
I have the courage to be hated without a teacher, and this courage comes from the liking of more people to me.
I didn't want to please everyone, and I didn't care what people who didn't like me hated me.
In fact, my mother has a bit of a flattering personality, but this part is not inherited to me at all, and I think heredity is really quite magical, because this point is realized by myself. I was three years old.
Oh, yes, there's one thing that's interesting.
I did meet this kind of kid in kindergarten, and he said he didn't like me, and he thought I was going to be scared of it, expecting me to be scared like a needle and a needle to come and him or whatever.
Now think about it as a self-taught PUA, and there are really people who eat this set. I was really afraid to seduce him.
And then I said very calmly, "Oh, well, you don't like me, you go play with someone else."
Then he saw me playing something more hilarious, and wanted to rub it over, and I said to him very seriously: You say you don't like me, then you don't come over and play with me, I don't take you to play, you go, find someone else to play.
The other party was so angry that he cried at the moment, and his mother still had the face to find my mother to ask me to reconcile with him.
I blackmailed him for a piece of cream cake before I reluctantly brought him one when it was difficult to play.
But I knew I didn't like him. Because he didn't like me before.
I have a vendetta.
Figuring out this is called a strong personality.
I, as a girl, have never had a scumbag on the love scene ever threatened success with something I don't like about you, and if you don't change we'll break up.
I was actually very sloppy and didn't do housework at all. My skill points are all about making money and sweet mouths.
Playing with female friends and organizing and storing me is completely bad, but I will grab bills and carry bags. Taking me out the door also saved the photographer money to shoot with.
As long as a person has sufficient altruism, it is called "this person is good" in society.
And my altruism is not to please anyone, but to exchange kindness.
I'm sure I'll only continue to release altruism to those who are willing to give back to good intentions.
Altruism is fluid, it is alive, and I am free to choose when, to whom, and how much altruism to release.
Do you think the female compatriots who have been warmed and taken care of by me like me or not? Will you help me when I need it?
However, I only have a sweet mouth for those who like me to approve of me, and poison the mouth for those who clearly say they don't like me.
If the subject's girlfriend is really as the subject said:
Enthusiastic and generous to help others can suffer losses, and this girl's popularity will not be bad.
In the eyes of others, at most, it is a particularly noisy crazy. As long as it is time to observe discipline, the teacher will not bother such a child.
Who among the teachers doesn't like to raise their hand when asking questions is the most positive activist?
What's up?
Whose rice did you eat? Is it that the clothes are dirty and let others wash them?
If I cause you trouble, I apologize to you and compensate you.
But you don't like me now,
I accept your dislike,
At the same time, I can't look down on you.
I have confidence that you left me as your loss.
The tube is really wide.
Love is nowhere to be found.
Or did the two agree to get married later?
If this is my daughter,I will educate her immediately: some men use chrysanthemums to talk, and the big things will immediately listen to their mothers, this kind of man is called Ma Bao Nan, there is no bit of assertiveness and responsibility, and talking is but not with chrysanthemums.
No matter how civilized and polite they are, they are all hypocrites. You have to stay away from this kind of man when you grow up.
I can teach my children:
[Don't speak loudly in public],
【Wipe your hands with a wet tissue for eating】,
[Be quiet in other people's cars, don't affect the driver to cause trouble to others],
However, these
Not for
[Otherwise, others will hate you and won't play with you.
As a parent, you can't help outsiders pua their own children.
Children cannot be educated in order to please others.
Self-esteem, self-love and self-improvement are the main logic of educating a child to have a sound personality.
There is no error in this main direction. Let's talk about socialization.
How to achieve a balance between individuality and socialization.
The above is from the big pig's affection for the little pig.
Unfortunately, under the flickering of a group of people, the follow-up of the subject is like this:
I don't think this mother deserves to have a good girl.