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Now parents will say that raising children is not for the elderly, but to accompany their children to walk in this beautiful world and experience the life of this world with their children.
I think this is the words of parents when they were young, and the ideas are good, and they are not so utilitarian about raising children. But when the day comes to the old age, the various organs of the body decline, the body functions are degraded, and life is inconvenient, at this time, when the parents hope that the child can accompany them, do filial piety, and let their rest of their lives be more comforting.
Therefore, raising children also hopes that they have filial piety, so that their old age will not be too miserable. Children who are not filial piety can actually see it when they are young, after all, three years old looks big, seven years old looks old. Children who grow up to be unfilial have hidden characteristics from an early age, but unfortunately many parents have been blinded.
The parents did not meet the requirements a little, so they turned their faces and lost their temper
Some children are very smart from an early age, and in order to get some kind of toy and gift, they know how to please their parents. If parents do not hesitate to meet any of the requirements made by their children, the child will feel that such parents are good parents and love themselves.
But once the parents combine the reality, feel that they can not meet the child's certain requirements, or in order to prevent the child from making mistakes, a little reprimand to him, the child immediately turned his face, lost his temper with the parents, felt that the parents were selfish and did not love themselves, and even planted the seeds of hatred in their hearts. Moreover, such a child is still relatively powerful, and he will be easily bribed, even if the person is uneasy and kind, but as long as he can satisfy some of his selfish desires, he can betray his parents and break his parents' hearts.
Most of such children will be the losers of their parents in the future, and when their parents are young, they cannot understand their parents. When his parents are old and have no use value, he will certainly not look at them squarely and have long been hiding away.
He only pays lip service to his parents, but does not take any practical action
Listening to him, everyone will think that this is a filial piety child, and even envy this parent for raising such a well-behaved and sensible child. But in fact, there are children who will only move their mouths without hesitation, but they do not want to use any action to express their hearts.
For example, some children often say to their parents, Mom, you cook so hard, but you will not put down the mobile phone to help your mother wash a dish and brush a dish. I will say to my father, it is not easy for you to earn money outside, and I will not let you work so hard in the future, but I will never give my parents a penny. I eat and drink spicy food outside, but I don't care if my elderly father is outside the steamed bun with boiled water, spending day after day.
Such children are indeed more likeable in life, after all, who does not like to listen well. It doesn't take much effort to coax parents to be excited with some good obedience, and many parents are biased towards such children, giving priority to such children and giving preference and resources to such children.
But once the parents really encounter things, such children run faster than anyone. After all, small things are not willing to make practical actions, let alone parents encounter big things, can they still expect him to fulfill filial piety?
Therefore, if parents send children to have these characteristics from an early age, they must be corrected in time to avoid regret when they are old.
【Topic Discussion: What kind of children do you think are easy to grow up to be unfilial? 】
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