Cao Cao wrote in The Turtle Although Shou:
"Old Ji Futuo, determined to be in a thousand miles." The martyrs are in their twilight years and their hearts are full of excitement. ”
Even if people are old, they have always had passion in their hearts, and they want to exert more light and heat to illuminate themselves and illuminate the people around them.
Among them, how the elderly should care for their children is a frequently mentioned question, perhaps in the answer of many people, leaving a house and leaving a sum of money is the best care.
As the saying goes, "It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish." ”
It is true that the savings of the elderly may help their children alleviate their urgent needs at certain moments, but they do not play a crucial role in the life path of their children. On the contrary, catching up with greedy, lazy children will only backfire and encourage them to fail step by step.
Therefore, the role of money is limited, and every family has a difficult scripture, each family's economic situation will not be the same, not necessarily have the ability to leave more money, more importantly, through other ways of inheritance, so that children can benefit for a lifetime.
In old age, whether poor or rich, people must leave these things to their children.
1 The law of survival that leaves the child to live and make him a good person
Writer Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Sending":
"The so-called father-daughter-mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that in this life and this life, you are constantly watching his back drift away."
To tell the truth, parents and children will not be the fate of a lifetime, parents will only give their children a ride, let them travel the world independently, and can live as much as possible.
During the Song Dynasty, there was a Zen master named Jing Cen who liked to go around preaching The Buddha, and gradually many people followed him to learn the Dharma.
One day, a monk asked him, "What if I don't stand there?" ”
Zen Master Jing cen replied, "Then where do you live and live?" ”
In fact, this is the origin of settling down, which emphasizes that a person's life must have a foothold, the spirit must have sustenance, and can be down-to-earth.
This is the root and foundation of a person's life can obtain happiness and happiness, so for parents, when the child is young, he should cultivate his independent, struggle, positive values, so that he has his own skills, in order to stand in the present, have the ability to support themselves, and have the ability to treat their loved ones well.
The elderly can teach children the life experience along the way, so that they have the ability to settle down, which is the greatest love for children in their lives.
Only in this way can children have the ability to live their own lives well, and will not fall into a complete failure after losing the love of their parents.
2 The best gifts for kids are your health
Emerson once said, "Health is the first wealth." ”
In fact, health is especially important for everyone, especially for people who are old.
If you wait until you are old, having health can not only get rid of the disease, reduce the torment of the disease, but also as a gift to your children, so that they can focus on their work and life, this is the best care.
Some elderly people always feel that saving children a little money is the best reward by saving money in their own way of saving money. As everyone knows, usually under the premise of not being willing to eat and drink, let their bodies deteriorate a little bit, and eventually get sick and hospitalized, spend too much more money than the money saved, and let the children accompany them day and night, watching them work to make money while taking care of themselves, the heart is very guilty, originally wanted to help their children, did not expect to eventually backfire.
Worse still, when the other half of the child is unaware, it often causes many conflicts to the other's family.
Therefore, in the old age, the best thing for children is their own health, do not need them to worry, do not need them to take care of, they have a healthy body, do not need them to be distracted to take care of themselves, is the greatest care for them.
Therefore, no matter how much money you leave, it is better to have a healthy body, which is the best gift for your children.
3 Inherit the good family style to the children and benefit for a lifetime
In the Yi Kun, it is said: "The house of accumulation of goodness will have a remnant of celebration; and the house of accumulation of unwholesomeness will have a remnant of disaster." ”
The so-called accumulation of goodness, for a family, is to have a good family style, passed down from generation to generation, so that generations of people can benefit.
Zeng Guofan attaches great importance to the education of his children, and once left a sixteen-character proverb family style: "A family is prosperous when thrifty, and a person who is diligent is healthy; he can be diligent and thrifty, and he will never be poor." ”
Speaking of frugality, Zeng Guofan asked his family to live frugally and away from luxury. He once saw the children of the family in the capital blindly extravagant and corrupt, profligate, and did not allow their children to live in Beijing.
Speaking of diligence, he wrote to his son Zeng Jize, asking him to get up every day, get dressed neatly, first greet his uncle and uncle, and then clean all the houses and then sit down to read, practicing 1,000 words a day. At the same time, he also urged children to continue to learn every day, develop the habit of being diligent and studious, and let their children benefit endlessly for a lifetime.
When the youngest daughter Zeng Jifen was 90 years old, she still had to write Zeng Guofan's "trick poetry" several times, carefully absorbing her father's virtue and grace from one stroke and one painting. In the Beijing and Shanghai areas of that year, decent families had her ink treasures.
A good family style can really benefit children for a lifetime, which is due to the parents' usual words and deeds, which is the greatest wealth of a person's life.
The old man does not have to make such a magnificent achievement, as long as he does the good deeds and good deeds within his ability in his daily life, he can accumulate virtue and blessings for his children.
Plant one millet in the spring and harvest ten thousand seeds in the autumn. When people are old, they should put love, kindness, and diligence into the hearts of their children, so that we can truly understand the true meaning of life, inherit good character from our parents, make the whole family more and more prosperous, and let everyone live better and better.
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