With the reform and opening up of the last century, China's economy has developed rapidly.
With a batch of tides of going to the sea and the tide of entrepreneurship, it has created one myth after another about getting rich.
This has truly changed the lives of each and every one of our Chinese.
People's lives are getting better and better, and they are starting to compare themselves with each other.
There are good days and bad days, and the gap between the rich and the poor has widened.
Especially in remote areas where transportation is not developed, roads are not developed, resulting in poor population mobility, poor cultural exchanges, and relatively more conservative cultural ideas.
In the 21st century, the contrast is particularly pronounced.
Rural areas, remote mountainous areas, or some smaller county-level cities are in stark contrast to the lives of people in super-first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen.
How rich are well-off families in super-first-tier cities, and how poor are "backward" families in remote areas.
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Many ordinary families do not pay much attention to the inner world of their children, let alone those of relatively poor families.
Parents are more concerned about whether their children are full and whether they are warm.
As children grow up day by day, after entering the school, contact with more children from different families will find that the gap between them is very large:
What other students often eat, he has not eaten;
Other students wrote pencils, he had never seen;
Other students wore designer shoes, he had never seen before.
Long-term exposure will make him feel inferior.
He will realize that the gap between families is so great that they cannot do anything about it.
Classmates will also inadvertently snub him, and the child's psychology will become extremely sensitive and fragile.
This inferiority will become more and more obvious as the child grows older.
Will become more and more introverted, do not like to communicate with people.
Seeing that other children have things, he can't have them, but he can't have them, and this sense of frustration and loss has a great impact on children's lives.
The impact of family poverty on children is far more than low self-esteem:
He will affect the child's future personality, living habits, including the way of thinking.
Social talking becomes less confident and always feels that others look down on them, all because of the troubles of poor families.
Parents of poor families generally have a common disease:
In addition to laziness and inability, he only cares about the child's academic performance, and rarely or never cares about the child's inner world.
Only tell the child to be serious and obedient, and only then can he eat sugar, but do not tell the child why he should be serious and obedient.
Family poverty is a matter for people in the previous life, and it may be the cause of the times.
Poverty is not poverty in money, poverty is poverty in thought.
Eating laziness, the evil of human nature, among their elders, the cash is vivid.
On the other hand, rich families are more concerned about the child's spiritual world, and cultivate children's self-confidence, independent ability, and independent and good three views.
Before parents want to change their children's concepts, they must start from themselves and start from the small things around them every day.
Caring for children is not just about academic performance in books.
Work hard to set an example for your child.
Let each other's lives become more valuable.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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