The short video that bursts the circle of friends directly breaks the defense: poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is 3 kinds of poor thinking
Recently, I saw a very popular short video on the Internet
The protagonists of the video are a father and son, the father Xiao Xin is 30 years old this year, and the son Ozawa is 3 years old this year
As a single father, Xiao Xin not only has to earn money to support the family, but also has to take care of her son
So every day he goes out to deliver the courier with Ozawa
In order to create good living conditions for her son, Xiao Xin has to send tens of thousands of couriers every day
Sometimes I get busy and can't even take care of my food
And when he ran in and out with the courier in his arms, he was busy
Son Ozawa is also very well-behaved and sensible, always silently waiting for his father without a word
Although the two fathers and sons who depend on each other for their lives are poor, their economic conditions are poor
But they are very optimistic every day, just rest
Father Xiaoxin will tell stories and jokes to his children, and take his son to video chat with the elderly in his hometown
This year's Spring Festival, due to the impact of the epidemic, the two can only spend the Spring Festival in the rental house
But there was no sorrow on their faces, but they were very happy
Many netizens commented on this
"Such happiness and happiness are comparable to tens of millions of family properties."
"With such an hard-working, optimistic and positive father, the future of the child will not be bad, optimistic about you"
More netizens excitedly referred to Xiao Xin as a model for parents
Although the comments of netizens were slightly exaggerated, they watched the entire video
It's really hard for me to say; they're not happy in their hard lives
Because poverty does not limit them, but becomes their motivation
For children, this kind of spiritual enrichment is even more precious than material enrichment
In life, how many parents spend their lives trying to make money is to give their children the best and most expensive education
But in the end, the child may not be able to do as the parents wish
Instead, it becomes more and more "poor" and even ends up being useless
Robert Kiyosaki, author of the best-selling book Poor Daddy, Rich Daddy, once said
Poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is the "poor man's thinking" that is deeply rooted in people's minds.
The following 3 kinds of "poor people's thinking", parents must avoid!
01
"Saving money thinking"
Someone once posted a question on the Zhihu website
What is the biggest gap between the poor and the rich?
As a result, some netizens told such a story below
Coinciding with the cross-Chinese New Year's Eve, netizens took their sons to hang out in the square
I happened to see a balloon seller coming over, so the father and son were ready to buy balloons
As a result, a little boy next to him also shouted to buy balloons, and his mother looked reluctant, but she couldn't stand her son's soft and hard bubbles, and finally paid for a balloon for the child
Unexpectedly, the child just took over the hand happily, and was accused by the father who had just come on an electric car
"The stinky boy knows how to spend money, who is our family, and where there is so much money for you."
You don't save, be careful to sell balloons like that uncle later."
As soon as the father's voice fell, another father and daughter came
The little girl saw a small whale balloon at a glance, which can be said to be the most expensive inside
As a result, her father did not say a word and bought it for the child
Finished also educating the child said
"You see how clever and hard uncle is, and how he still comes out to sell balloons on such a cold day."
Not only did he meet the needs of the people, but the uncle himself earned money"
The same parents, the two practices are so different
From this, it is not difficult for us to think about the future direction of the child's life, and it must be completely different
In life, many parents like to save and often cry poor in front of their children
As a result, money is saved, but the child's future is also lost
I remember in the TV series "Reading with Mother", Chen Lili, the mother who opened the bun shop
That's what I say most to my son
"Our family is poor"
As a result, the son, who was originally inferior and sensitive, was educated by this kind of thinking
Her heart is even more inferior, and in the face of her classmates with excellent grades and good family backgrounds, her son always feels that he is a dwarf
In fact, although Chen Lili has an ordinary family, she is actually quite solid
The reason why she likes to talk about poverty is to control her son and force him to take responsibility for "revitalizing the family"
But forgetting this kind of education will only make children lack of security, become inferior and depressed
Even some children will feel that they are a drag on their parents
Over time, he completely denied himself and lost the ability to pursue happiness
02
"Exclusive Thinking"
There is no parent who does not love their children
But love is not pampering
In life, we often see some children who not only like to dominate things
Their own toys and snacks are even more reluctant to share with anyone
Even Mom and Dad didn't want to
What is even more frightening is that the parents of these children are still complacent about this, feeling that the children know how to protect their own interests and will "hold things"
In fact, such thinking will only make children become isolated when they grow up
Eventually it becomes an island, getting "poorer"
As Teacher Lu Qin said
"The more children who know how to share, the more sensible they become when they grow up, and the more they are liked, the more they are out of the ordinary."
And those children who like to enjoy exclusive possession from childhood will only become more and more selfish, and eventually become hated ghosts, making it difficult to obtain happiness. ”
There is an episode of the variety show "Parenting Master"
The boy Chong Chong was suddenly snatched away by his own brother
So the 4-year-old suddenly froze, and he looked helplessly at his mother
Mom asked her to give it to her brother, so he burst into tears, he wanted to get the toy back, but Dad rushed over and held him down, and said
"Just put this aside and cry, you cry well"
Is it that Chong Chong doesn't know how to share?
I think not, it is precisely the parents who misunderstand the meaning of "sharing", and also ignore the bad problem of the brother's exclusive possession, but instead fail to live up to Chong Chong's trust and dependence
The thinking of this parent is a failed educational thinking
Different rushing parents, a friend of mine knows how to educate their children
He will tell the child that the toy is his own, and the child has the right not to share, but he cannot force others to share and occupy other people's things.
As a result, his children, on the contrary, were very generous
Remember, a child is not born to share, and not everything can be shared with others
Therefore, in the process of educating their children, parents must guide their children correctly
Only in this way will children slowly change from exclusive to know how to share
03
"Risk Averse Thinking"
Visionary parents know how to invest in their children
When children are young, they will take them to see the world and will guide them to stimulate various interests and hobbies
Help your child challenge the endless possibilities
Poor-minded parents, on the other hand, are often hesitant, afraid that their efforts will not be rewarded
As a result, the child's hope is lost again and again
The famous figure skating goddess Chen Hongyi was able to shine in the Olympic games
It is because her parents, when they need to invest, did not choose to avoid risks
Instead, he seized the opportunity and raised his daughter fiercely
At the age of 3, Chen Hongyi was taken by her parents to skate wild ice
Before the age of 6, Chen Hongyi began skating practice with the support of her parents
After the age of 6, she went from interest to professionalism
From beginning to end, Chen Hongyi's parents have only done one thing, that is, unconditionally support their daughter's hobbies and choices
Dad has made many statements
There is nothing worthless in life, it all depends on whether you like it or not, experience is wealth
It is also because of this determination and maintenance of parents
Chen Hongyi can pursue herself without distraction, release herself again and again on the skating rink, and finally strive for honor for the country
In addition to skating, Chen Hongyi has also developed many other interests
For her, skating is an interest and a passion, but not the only one
In life, many parents want to avoid risks
From the beginning, the hope of the child was cut off, and I remember when I was a child, a primary school classmate loved to skate
But her mother was very opposed, thinking that skating was not a big deal
And for girls, it is also very dangerous
So every time she went to the skating rink, her mom would follow and tell her to hurry home
Once she secretly bought a pair of roller skates, but her mother was furious
"Serious learning you don't care, spend money on these messy things day by day, waste time and youth"
When she countered that skating wasn't a mess, it was her hobby
Without saying a word, my mother grabbed her skates and threw them in the trash
In this way, she went to high school and finally attended a vocational technical school
Now in my thirties I still have no strengths, and I am at home all day
As a parent, you must not snuff out your child's enthusiasm and hope in order to avoid risks
Remember, the biggest risk is that the child loses the motivation to move forward
True love is the love of foresight
True prosperity is spiritual enrichment
The greatest wealth that parents leave to their children is unlimited hope, infinite possibilities, and infinite happiness
Be a parent with a pattern, don't let your vision be short-sighted and limit your child's future
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