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Life after marriage is never just about living your own life behind closed doors, and it is inevitable to deal with your in-laws. The status of the daughter-in-law in the eyes of the mother-in-law is related to the quality of life of a woman after marriage.
In the eyes of the in-laws, there are generally two views on the daughter-in-law, either looking down or not looking up. Most in-laws have such a mentality, their sons are the best, the most outstanding, even if the girl is excellent, she is not worthy of their son, the girl can marry his son is completely high, so as to look down on the daughter-in-law. In this way, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be indispensable.
There are not many in-laws who can look up to their daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law who can make the in-laws look up to her must have something outstanding in itself. So what kind of daughter-in-law will be looked up to by the in-laws? Many people will say obedient, obedient daughter-in-law has few things, do not argue, the family is harmonious, there is such a daughter-in-law is a blessing, the in-laws of course look high.
But the experience of people's blood and tears tells people that people are picking up soft persimmons and pinching. The more obedient and honest the daughter-in-law, the more she is bullied by her in-laws. Then the filial daughter-in-law will definitely let the in-laws look up to it. Daughter-in-law filial piety, in-laws' life is worry-free, of course, we must look at the daughter-in-law differently, people who think like this are too naïve, filial piety daughter-in-law meets unreasonable in-laws that will only hold back. What kind of daughter-in-law will be looked up to by the in-laws after marriage? Not obedient, nor filial.
Economic independence
It turns out that the economically independent daughter-in-law has made the in-laws look up to them. Women have a job of their own, have their own income, maintain financial independence, and are the greatest capital. The daughter-in-law, who is economically independent, does not have to rely on others to live, her own income is at her disposal, she does not rely on others, and her life is orderly. And money can also be bought from others.
The economically independent daughter-in-law not only does not let the in-laws subsidize, but also gives the in-laws money to spend from time to time. Buy clothes for your mother-in-law, buy jewelry, buy good tea leaves and good wine for your father-in-law. For a daughter-in-law who often spends money on herself, the in-laws can still talk, even if there are many places to be dissatisfied, it is not too calculating to see the money. Money can buy people's hearts. "I bought it myself, and what qualifications do you have to point fingers is the most brutal slap in the face to some mother-in-law."
Be assertive
Looking at the daughters-in-law who are always bullied around them, most of them have no opinions, only promises, and cannot carry things. The daughter-in-law has no opinion, and she does not know what to do. Then the in-laws want to mix everything, everywhere to be the master of the family, the daughter-in-law has no sense of existence, there is no help to the family, the in-laws will only look down everywhere, feel that the daughter-in-law is incompetent.
On the contrary, many women who are housewives at home have no jobs and no income, but they are not angry and are looked up to by their in-laws. The most important thing is that they have an opinion and can carry things. When things happen at home, you can show courage and handle things well, so that your husband does not have to worry about the family. At the same time, you can say goodbye to the intervention of your in-laws, and you can say to your in-laws with a straight face, "I will handle my own affairs in my family, and I don't need to bother you." And it is handled beautifully, so that the daughter-in-law will make the in-laws look up.
【Topic Discussion: What kind of daughter-in-law do you think is looked up to by your in-laws?】 】
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