Parents hope that their children can become talents and have a better future in the future, but in the process of cultivating their children, they are often biased. Only pay attention to the child's IQ and academic performance, but wait until the child grows up to know that "emotional intelligence" is the key to the success of the baby.
"My baby is studying well, and the rest is not important"!
Jelly is in the third grade this year, and her academic performance has always been good, and she has been able to get into the top three in the class every time. It is reasonable to say that a "good student" like Jelly should be very popular with teachers and classmates, but in fact it is not like this.
Although Jelly's grades are relatively good, they usually show some deficiencies in the process of treating people and things. For example, every time a classmate encounters a problem that will not be able to ask Jelly, Jelly often answers: "Such a simple question will not, you will not be a pig, right?" Think for myself, I don't have time."
At the beginning, when some students wanted to invite Jelly to play games together, Jelly always refused: "I never play with people with poor grades, for fear of making me stupid." Gradually, the other students in the class all disliked jelly and basically stopped playing with jelly.
However, in the face of this situation, Jelly's mother did not care at all, but instead arrogantly said: "My baby is not wrong, as long as he studies well, the others are not important." ”
In this regard, the teacher is also very helpless, walked to the office, shook his head and sighed at other teachers: "Unfortunately, a good seedling, what is the use of good academic performance?" ”
In fact, the teacher is right to sigh, students like Jelly, typical of high IQ and low emotional intelligence. In the future, even if the academic performance is good, the emotional intelligence cannot keep up, and it is bound to limit the development of the child in the future, no matter how smart the mind is, it is difficult to become a big instrument.
Speaking of emotional intelligence, what exactly is emotional intelligence? Is it really that important?
In fact, many parents now often ignore their children's "emotional intelligence" when educating their children, and even some parents have no concept of "emotional intelligence" at all. So now, some children have a good mind, but they are often limited to the pattern and development space, which is a pity.
Professor Daniel proposed that the key to truly determining a person's success is emotional intelligence, not IQ.
Parents should be vigilant, if you want your child to be able to become a talent, do not only focus on the child's IQ, and ignore the child's emotional intelligence. Otherwise, it will be really difficult for children to become talents in the future.
Especially for children with these two performances, the emotional intelligence is usually very low, and parents must not be careless.
"Selfish, self-conscious and self-sufficient"
Whether it is an adult or a child, but all who behave more selfishly, are doomed not to be liked and accepted, often such people, emotional intelligence is also extremely low. So once a child is selfish, no matter what he does, he only thinks about himself, but often ignores the feelings of others, then parents must be vigilant. Such children seem to be "smart", but some are just small smart, no pattern and vision, no friends and social people, and they will definitely fall behind in the future.
"Inferiority or arrogance, which end is not good"
Like jelly, in addition to acting more selfish, there is also a full of "arrogance" in it. Always laughing at other classmates for being inferior to themselves, or even not playing with poor students, so that no classmate is willing to communicate and play with him, and in the future, such a child will definitely regret it.
In addition to arrogance, some children who are overly introverted and even inferior are also typical manifestations of low emotional intelligence. Such children often show strong inconfidence, dare not communicate, and refuse to integrate in the face of the outside world for various reasons. Over time, it will be outside the group, and there will be no development at all.
For children with low emotional intelligence, parents should make strategic adjustments in time and do not let the child's future be limited by insufficient emotional intelligence
I used to communicate with other mothers on this aspect, and eventually, at the suggestion of a retired teacher, I used some small stories to continuously improve my child's emotional intelligence.
Later, when communicating with the child's teacher, the teacher also recommended a picture book to me, which was also the book, which made a lot of changes for my child.
Lately, teachers have been reacting that my daughter is doing much better in class than before. Not only is the pinyin mastered firmly, but some Chinese characters are also well learned.
Because there are not only a variety of small stories of enlightenment and improving emotional intelligence, but also the small stories in it are also intimately marked with "bilingual labeling".
Sometimes I am busy and have no time to tell stories to the baby, the baby will hold the book by herself and nibble with relish. It must be because of this reason that the baby's classroom performance has also improved a lot.