There is a lyric that goes like this: Companionship is the longest confession of affection.
Parents accompany their children to grow up, and children accompany their parents to grow old, so companionship is the longest confession of affection.
In the eyes of parents, no matter how old the child is, it will always be a child, eating and drinking Like a lasa sample tube, taking care of us like a child, this is a great parent.
But do children really want to live with their parents? Is it happiness for parents and children to live together, or is it better to live alone?
When parents are older, do children want to live with their parents? Listen to the truth that people have said.
01. Rather than the caution of parents, they would rather live the posture that the elderly should have
Xiao Liu, who has just graduated from college, vowed to earn a lot of money, buy a big house in the city, and then take her parents to live in the city and let them enjoy the blessings.
Those little Liu work hard, be diligent and thrifty, save up the money they earn, and plan every day when they can buy their own big house. Finally through his own efforts, Xiao Liu earned money to buy a four-bedroom house of more than 180 square meters, the house arrived, Xiao Liu began to plan the decoration, and soon the house was renovated. She went back to her hometown to pick up her parents to live in the city, but her parents always refused under various pretexts, saying it many times, but their parents were reluctant to come.
Later, Xiao Liu got married and soon gave birth to a cute little baby, this time Xiao Liu asked his parents to come to the city to help take care of his grandson, and the parents finally agreed.
On the day that my parents came down from the countryside to the city, they brought 2 large boxes filled with various vegetables and fruits, as well as various clean chickens and ducks, and dozens of native eggs, this pile of things, that is, half a month without buying vegetables is enough for several people to eat.
Xiao Liu's parents are diligent and fast people, and they can't stop for a moment. Xiao Liu's mother is responsible for taking care of her grandson and cooking, Xiao Liu's father is responsible for mopping the floor and washing clothes, Xiao Liu and his wife only need to go to work and leave work every day, and all the rest of the things do not need to worry about, so the days last for many months.
One morning, the month-old child rolled over and fell off the couch, waking everyone up crying. Xiao Liu only saw his mother look nervous, the mother constantly apologized to her husband, the father also constantly scolded the mother, Xiao Liu's heart felt very uncomfortable, uncomfortable is not because the child fell, and when the parents who have been self-reliant have become cautious when they do things, they need to see the face of their children.
After having such a feeling, Xiao Liu found that when his father mopped the floor, he would wipe every corner clean, his father lay on the ground, carefully and the floor, holding the sofa up to support his waist, Xiao Liu came forward to help, his father quickly grabbed the mop, and did not want Xiao Liu to help. In addition to these, Xiao Liu also found that her mother was particularly afraid of her grandson wrestling again, and when everyone ate together, they always left the delicious food for themselves and their husbands, and when parents took their children out to play, they were always cautious and rarely communicated with the people around them.
Xiao Liu has insomnia, once worked hard to earn money is to let his parents come to enjoy the blessings, and now his parents are like a nanny, everything must look at the face of their children, which makes Xiao Liu feel very uncomfortable. Xiao Liu wanted to find a nanny, but his parents said: The nanny has done things, what do we do?
Xiao Liu knew that his parents were diligent people and could not idle, here they had no friends and were not used to life in the city. In the countryside, there are people chatting, growing vegetables and raising chickens and ducks, and they have become accustomed to such a busy life.
After thinking about it again, Xiao Liu decided to let her parents go back to the countryside to live, she said: Rather than their parents being careful in the city, they would rather live out the attitude that the elderly should have in the countryside. After the parents returned to their hometown to live, they were happy all day, the physical pain was gone, and they rarely got sick.
If you really want to accompany your parents, go back to the countryside to see them, once thought that they were to receive their parents to enjoy the blessings, but after experiencing it, they understood that their parents are old, and the way they are used to is the best way to provide for the elderly.
02. Parents are old, so don't toss them around anymore
Xiao Wang and his wife have been married for eight years, and one daughter is in the first grade, because the two couples have no time to pick up and drop off their children at work, so Xiao Wang has to let his parents help take care of his granddaughter. Xiao Wang's parents live in the county town, receive a pension every month, the old two buy vegetables and cook together in the morning, walk in the park together in the evening, and go to the suburbs with a few good friends on weekends.
Now the son needs help, the old couple agreed, and immediately moved in with their son and daughter-in-law.
Xiao Wang and his wife are busy, so they pick up and drop off the children and tutor the children's homework all to Xiao Wang's parents. The homework arranged by the school often shoots videos and recordings, which is difficult for them, so they often call and ask Xiao Wang how to do this and how to do that. Many times, Xiao Wang taught many times, his parents still can't, when he is anxious, Xiao Wang will scold his parents a few words.
Once, Xiao Wang's father went to pick up his granddaughter from school, it was raining heavily that day, and his daughter almost fell, xiao Wang's father grabbed his granddaughter with one hand in order to prevent his granddaughter from wrestling, and as a result, he fell and his ankles were misplaced. The father did not tell Xiao Wang, or the daughter told him that his grandfather had fallen, Xiao Wang sent his father to the hospital, because his foot was injured, Xiao Wang had to take leave, while taking care of his father while picking up the child from school.
In the past few days, Xiao Wang has to pick up and drop off several times a day, and at night, he also has to help his children do homework, all kinds of strange homework, what to shoot videos, recordings, posters, handicrafts, etc., Xiao Wang was tossed and collapsed. At this time, he understood how hard his father had worked during this time, and then looked at his parents, it seemed that the white hair had become a lot more, and he had become much older, and his parents often blamed themselves for being useless and could not help much.
Xiao Wang looked at his elderly parents, his heart was very unhappy, once his parents took care of themselves, now that he has grown up, he also wants his parents to help take care of his children, he has never been considerate and helped his parents, and now he blames his parents for all kinds of not, so that living with his parents is not filial piety, but under the slogan of filial piety, in fact, it is to let parents be "free nannies" at home. Xiao Wang thought more and more uncomfortable in his heart, and finally he decided to let his parents go back to the county to live, he and his daughter-in-law worked hard to take care of the children, the parents are older, long-term care of the children will definitely be sick, the health of the parents is more important than anything, so it is a wise choice to let the parents go back to the county town alone.
In the end, the parents happily returned to the county seat to live, and occasionally transferred 2,000 yuan to Xiao Wang, who said that the money was for the granddaughter.
Yes! Parents are old, can not withstand the toss, rather than let parents and children live, it is better to let parents live by themselves, enjoy the blessings.
Write at the end:
This is the true words of the people who came over, Xiao Liu yixin wanted to come to the city with her parents, only to find that her parents became cautious and were not accustomed to life in the city at all, so she would rather her parents go back to the countryside to live and return to her comfort circle. Xiao Wang is also like this, maybe he is busy, maybe he is afraid of his parents being lonely, so he takes his parents around, but it backfires, his parents are old, they can't stand the toss, and their health and happiness is the greatest blessing for their children.
So when parents are older, do their children want to live with their parents?
Maybe they want to, maybe they don't want to, but for the good of their parents, they may not really want to live with their parents because of understanding and filial piety.
What about you? Ever wondered? When your parents are older, do you want to live with them?
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