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Jia Min divorced her ex-husband last month, during this time she has not come out, always feel that everything is like a dream, before she has time to sort out the clues, life has opened a new chapter.
Calm down and think about it, and marry him with joy and anticipation, as if it happened yesterday. In the blink of an eye, the two people were strangers and would never see each other again.
When exactly did he start to change his mind? In fact, everything is not empty, but there are early signs, but I am not willing to admit it.
Men change their minds, often starting from these changes. If you can be sensible, you will not be at a loss when the other person files for divorce, or when things can't be cleaned up.
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One: Suddenly become very busy, there are always all kinds of reasons not to go home
A man's change of heart often begins with becoming very "busy" at the beginning. Why "busy" here should be put in quotation marks, because he is not really busy, but looking for reasons for his own change of mind.
They will come home later and later, and some will not return at night. You ask him where he went, either overtime, or errands, or just don't get back to you.
You continue to ask questions, and he begins to lose his temper, thinking that you have managed so much, which is particularly annoying.
In fact, he may not be really busy, but the object of busyness is not you. Where a person's time is, where the heart is, suddenly becoming busy is not for no reason, most of them are people or things that care, and they have changed.
Two: No longer sharing his feelings with you, not letting you know his whereabouts, becoming more and more unpredictable
Remember when you first got married? Every day after work, he will share with you the things he has experienced during the day, as well as his own things. At that time you always had a lot to say, but then you had nothing to say.
He no longer shares his feelings with you, or even lets you know his whereabouts, as if his affairs suddenly have nothing to do with you.
He became more and more unpredictable, you wanted to care about him, but he was ruthlessly turned away. You don't know what you're doing wrong, or you're not doing anything wrong, you're still the same person you were before, it's just that he doesn't love anymore.
Three: Too lazy to argue with you, gradually indifferent to the affairs of the family
I often feel that all couples who can quarrel are not so easy to get separated. Because think about it from another angle, quarrels are just one of the forms of communication, and if you can argue, you can at least find the problems in the marriage and the misunderstandings between two people.
When one day, even the quarrel is too lazy to quarrel, it is when the relationship is really not saved.
Only when people are dead-hearted and when they are not hopeful, will they show a state of self-abandonment. Marriage is the same, quarrels at least can find problems, quarrels are not quarrelsome, it means that most of them have died.
If a man doesn't even bother to argue with you, and gradually loses care about things at home, it often means that his heart is no longer at home.
Four: Forget everything that has to do with you and feel that you are getting bored
This is the most powerless, but also the most desperate and sad. He gradually stopped caring about you, didn't remember everything related to you, and felt that how to look at you was not pleasing to the eye.
I remember when you were together, he never let go of any opportunity to please you. On your birthday, on your anniversary, he will carefully prepare gifts and surprises, but later, he can't even remember.
You try to comfort yourself, old husband and wife, where is there so much romance? Maybe he's just too busy. In fact, what is the use of self-deception? His love for you is dissipating little by little.
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We have all longed for the love of one or two people in our lifetime, but we find that on the road to the pursuit of love, everything is not always smooth and smooth.
Many couples who enter marriage gradually forget how to be each other's lovers. Forget that you once loved each other deeply, forget that you have had many beautiful vows. But with the passage of time, many things have gradually faded.
No matter whether we have the opportunity to continue to hold hands in the future, we hope that we will not pursue stars in love. It's about learning to be a person like a star.
Don't try to grow up dependent on the light of others, but become your own light.
In this world, the only constant is change. If you find that the other party has changed his heart, please be sure to find a way to stop the loss in time, rather than letting the other party hurt yourself all the time. A good marriage doesn't just bring tears.
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