It is said that "marriage is the graveyard of love", but when the real director puts this tomb in front of him, he still feels too suffocated.
In the TV series "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo (Ren Suxi) is a teacher, has a stable job, her parents are also employees in the system, she grew up in a loving family, so she is very serious about everything.
And Xiao Lu 's (Qin Hao) family conditions are not good, his father died very early, his mother pulled him and his brother up, because the mother herself is not high in education, so there is no requirement for the quality of life, and the care of the two children can also be fed.
It is these two people who grew up in different environments walk together, Fang Yinuo ignored the opposition of her parents, insisted on marrying Xiao Lu, but she did not expect that she thought that she was married to love, but in fact, she let her life be trapped in a bottomless pit.
Fang Yinuo's hidden forbearance
Fang Yinuo married Xiao Lu, she never asked for a rich life, she just hoped that the two people could live a plain life, what she needed was when she needed her husband, Xiao Lu could appear around, she hoped that marriage gave her happiness, not another kind of loneliness.
But Xiao Lu is different, Xiao Lu has lived a hard life since he was a child, his brother is not a tool, and his mother has been bitter for a lifetime, he hopes that he can improve his family situation through his own efforts and make the living conditions at home better.
Therefore, Xiao Lu has no day and night work, marriage gives him more pressure and responsibility, he can only work harder, often drunk at the table with customers, just so that he can earn more money.
But it was such a Xiao Lu, ignoring what Fang Yinuo needed most, Fang Yinuo suddenly gave birth, he did not accompany him, and even when the child was just born, he threw down Fang Yinuo in the operating room in order to take the "placenta" for his mother, and finally even Fang Yinuo did not know that he had left the operating room.
Fang Yinuo has always been tolerant of Xiao Lu, before giving birth, Fang Yinuo can't eat spicy things, Xiao Lu himself secretly ate noodles with peppers outside, and then brought back the noodles without peppers to Fang Yinuo to eat, these Fang Yinuo even if they knew, they just smiled.
Because Fang Yinuo was still in love with Xiao Lu at that time, the love between the two of them was the most important.
But after giving birth to a child, in Fang Yinuo's eyes, the child is the most important, and Xiao Lu disappointed Fang Yinuo again and again, and gradually consumed the love between the two people.
During the month, the child cried at night, and Fang Yinuo had to get up many times a night to take care of the child, but Xiao Lu slept deadly and never said that he would take care of the child with a handle.
The child had jaundice, Fang Yinuo was anxious to sleep at night, but Xiao Lu said that she thought too much, and even like her sister-in-law, attributed the cause of the child's jaundice to Yinuo's breastfeeding.
In the end, the sister-in-law was afraid of the trouble on the stall and sneaked away, Xiao Lu could only let his mother come to take care of Yinuo, but he connived at the mother to smoke and play mahjong when she took the child out to play, resulting in the child being left unattended, slipping down the slope and almost causing an accident.
Fang Yinuo forgave Xiao Lu's inattention again and again, and also concealed his mother-in-law's unreliable behavior, but this time the hidden forbearance was at the cost of consuming the feelings of the two people.
Xiao Lu's derailment became the last straw that crushed Fang Yinuo, all the disappointments that had been accumulated were broken up at this moment, if she said that she had been patient before, it was because she at least trusted Xiao Lu to do everything to make this family better, but the derailment allowed Fang Yinuo to see Xiao Lu clearly.
Men have not experienced october pregnancy, did not walk around the ghost door to give birth to a child, never know what is "blood connection", Xiao Lu never thought to care more about his wife, he only had to cope and prevaricate.
In his heart, the child is the woman's responsibility, it has nothing to do with him, his responsibility is to earn money to support the family, and then coax everyone in the family to be good, but avoiding the problem again and again will only make him farther and farther away from that home.
Xiao Lu's betrayal
Xiao Lu is aggrieved? grievance.
For Xiao Lu, he is Fang Yinuo's husband and Gao Caiping's son, while meeting some of his mother's unreasonable requirements, he also has to take care of his sensitive wife at any time, and at the same time he also has to bear the responsibility of supporting his family, not only to support his own small family, but also to be responsible for the living expenses of his mother and brother.
At work, his boss's requirements for him are that everything is mainly based on work, men's careers are the most important, in the family, his wife requires him to come to the side at any time, and Xiao Lu can only cope with both sides.
Under such circumstances, Xiao Lu had no intention of paying attention to Yinuo's inner world, nor did he have the heart to coax her, so Yinuo said that he could not eat, so he ate the bowl of unsalted noodles by the way, even if Yinuo went back to the house and closed the door, he was not willing to spend any more time thinking about Yinuo's true thoughts.
After the birth of the child, Yinuo's attention was on the child, Xiao Lu felt that his sense of existence was getting lower and lower, no one asked when he came home in the early morning, only waiting for Yinuo to say "slow down, the child is asleep", no one waits for him to go home, and no one has any expectations for him.
So at that moment, Xiao Lu met Zhu Zhu, a girl who would be excited for half a day when he made a little rebellious behavior, zhu Zhu let him see what he looked like when he was in love with Yinuo, so he couldn't help but have a one-night stand with Zhu Zhu.
Xiao Lu's betrayal declared the failure of this marriage, not because they did not love each other, but because they both loved themselves more than they loved each other.
Hehe was terminally ill
This is just the beginning of Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's story, and their tragedy has only just begun from the divorce.
"Dear Child" is based on the movie "Left and Right", in the original movie, the heroine is called Mei Zhu (played by Liu Weiwei), it is a promise in the drama version, Mei Zhu married Lao Xie (Cheng TaiShen) after divorce, in order to give Hehe more love, she did not even think of giving Lao Xie a child of her own, even if pregnant, she chose to miscarry.
Unexpectedly, when Hehe was five years old, he was found to have leukemia, and if he did not undergo a bone marrow transplant, he could only live for two or three more years, which made The bamboo completely collapse.
But there is too much uncertainty waiting for the bone marrow, the uncertainty of time, the uncertainty of the matching, the doctor said that if Hehe can have his own siblings, this sentence makes Mei Zhu have an obsession.
She found Xiao Lu (Zhang Jiayi), who had been divorced for four years, and offered to have another child with Xiao Lu, but at this time, Xiao Lu was also married to Dong Fan, dong Fan always wanted his own children, but Xiao Lu never agreed.
Therefore, when Mei Zhu made such a ridiculous suggestion, Xiao Lu could not accept it, but as the child's condition became more and more serious, Xiao Lu could only persuade Dong Fan to accept this suggestion in order to save his daughter.
Dong Fan was originally ten thousand unwilling, but when she really saw a cute five-year-old girl who might lose her life because of her refusal, she softened her heart.
So she agreed to The Bamboo's request, at first the Bamboo and Xiao Lu were only artificially conceived, but because the Bamboo had miscarried and was not in good health, she tried three times without success, and even the hospital did not agree to them to continue.
In order to save her daughter, Mei Zhu can only further ask Xiao Lu to let him and her come to the truth, Dong Fan decided to divorce Xiao Lu after knowing it, and although Mei Zhu hid from Lao Xie, her mobile phone inadvertently dialed Lao Xie's phone, and Lao Xie also knew her plan.
The last two people were successfully conceived, and the movie did not explain whether Hehe was eventually saved, but the helpless entanglement of this bamboo and Xiao Lu was enough to let everyone see the helplessness and compromise of life.
Even if they are married for the second time, they still love themselves more than they love each other, and their obsession is cruel to Lao Xie and Dong Fan, And Mei Zhu is not willing to have children with Lao Xie, and Xiao Lu is not willing to give Dong Fan a sustenance.
But at least, they all found the person who was willing to tolerate themselves, Lao Xie was willing to treat the two children of Mei Zhu as his own children, and Dong Fan also returned to Xiao Lu's side.
brief summary
Life is bitter, just because there is too much bitterness, so a little good thing will feel very sweet, Fang Yinuo is very bitter, but Lao Xie's tolerance for her is enough for her to endure all the injustices brought by fate.
Xiao Lu's life is also bitter, but fortunately, there is a reasonable Dong Fan who is always willing to accompany her, so that the life can still go on.
This life of a person is a disaster, some people may successfully complete this life, but most people will always encounter large and small obstacles, in the face of these ups and downs, there are only two results, either die, or pass, as long as they do not die, everything will pass.
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's life is just a small microcosm, after reading their stories, I also hope that everyone knows how to cherish the present, cherish the people around them, and be healthy and happy.