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From pregnancy in October to falling to the ground, from babbling to toddler, the mother participates in every minute of the child's growth, and even many babies pronounce "mama" for the first time;
Therefore, whenever the child is asked "like daddy or mother", the old mother must feel that her hard work can be exchanged for the child's equal liking, but this question will always turn over on the daughter.
A bao mother posted a text accusing her daughter of "eccentricity", when the mother took out the clip to dry the clothes to clip the father's ear, the daughter pouted and frowned at the unwillingness, and when the mother took out the clip, she also struggled to stop it.
The mother used the clip to clip to the father's ear, and the daughter looked worried, quickly removed the "murder weapon" from the father's ear, and looked at the mother who "committed the murder" with a look of contempt.
When the mother tested her daughter in the same way, she did not expect that her daughter's attitude had undergone a 180-degree change, and when she heard the three words "clip mother", her eyebrows flew and danced, without the slightest pain and reluctance, and she also exchanged eyes with her father to determine "carrying out the task". This made the old mother who worked hard day and night for her daughter feel very cold.
This situation is not unique, many times the daughter does not become closer because she is the same sex as her mother, but prefers to stay with her bearded father, who is intimate with her father, and somehow leaks the wind to her mother.
The mother has been working day and night, why is it better to please the daughter than the father who "throws his hands in the cabinet"? Or does the father have some unique cheats to attract his daughter?
Psychology Revealed: Why Do Daughters Prefer Daddies?
An American study once looked at 52 girls, boys, and their fathers, and the experimenters brought tape recorders on all fathers to record conversations between them and their children.
After the experiment, the experimenters found that compared with their daughters, the fathers spent 3 times the time to educate and criticize their sons; compared with the sons, the fathers spent 5 times as much time discussing problems with their daughters, singing and joking...
Another American scholar visited 680 families through a questionnaire and came to the same conclusion.
Under the influence of no feudal ideas, fathers generally believe that raising boys can be stricter, and treating daughters needs to be more tolerant, american psychologist Susan Gelman believes that from the perspective of children, fathers seem to love their daughters more.
In the eyes of the daughter, the father is gentle and kind, but what about the mother? Always be strict with yourself and limit your words and deeds, so your daughter may like her mother more than her mother!
On the other hand, men mature later than women, and many families are mothers who are responsible for trivial things, straight, calculating... And Dad seems to be more childlike and funny like a child.
Eat snacks without being afraid of dropping slag, going out to play without worrying about dirty clothes, and your own strange ideas can also be realized... In such a clear contrast, the daughter tends to choose a father who loves to play and laugh like herself.
Mother don't be sad, a good family atmosphere is indispensable to the mother's efforts
The nature of children is like this, does not mean that they do not like their mothers, but at this stage, they need to be happy to supply. From the long-term perspective of children's physical and mental health, what is more needed is a good family atmosphere, which requires the joint efforts of parents and mothers.
Mom should not think of herself as a slave to the family, abandoning all identities, and more importantly, loving herself and making herself happy. Housework and chores never stop, so don't neglect to be accompanied by your child and your significant other.
Hard-working mothers should also learn to slow themselves down, try to find their own childlike hearts, join between their husbands and children, do not pay attention to big reason, do not do hard work, and the family is happy to enhance their feelings together.
【Today's Interaction】
What impression do you make on your child?