With the continuous implementation of the multi-child policy, many families have officially entered the era of second and third children, and with the increase in the number of children in the family, many parents have felt unprecedented pressure.
This kind of pressure is not only limited to economic and material life, but also the problems of getting along and educating children, which triggers parents' anxiety.
However, when seeing the warm picture of children playing together and accompanying each other, many parents also have a very satisfied smile in their hearts.
A few days ago, after Chen Xiaochun posted pictures of two children laughing and playing at home on the Internet, it instantly triggered a crowd of onlookers.
The brother Jasper's touching and killing of his brother has warmed the hearts of countless people.
On the other hand, the younger brother's appearance with small pigtails, and Chen Xiaochun is simply a mold printed, which also makes many netizens sigh: I have simply got the true biography of my father.
Although in this photo, Chen Xiaochun only wrote 4 words: brother and brother, but the happiness between the family and the child is unreservedly conveyed.
After seeing this scene, many netizens sighed: why their two children are in a state of chicken flying dog jumping every day, there is no such harmonious picture at all.
In fact, when there are multiple children in the family, as a parent, you must understand the following things, and only by understanding these things can you provide a better environment and space for your children to grow.
[These things are important when there are multiple children in the family]
1. Maintain a state of equality
When there are multiple children in a family, the attitude of parents is absolutely important.
Treat each child to maintain a state of absolute fairness and equality, although it is very difficult to keep a bowl of water flat, but it can not be ignored.
Especially in the face of younger children, parents' excessive connivance and cover-up will only increase the resistance of the boss.
If parents can maintain an equal state, the boss's sense of responsibility will also be quickly stimulated, which will make the relationship between multiple children in a more stable state.
2. Pay attention to the creation of atmosphere
When there are multiple children in the family, parents should pay attention to the creation of a family atmosphere and the fairness of the educational environment.
The so-called atmosphere creation, in other words, is to set an example for the second eldest to learn, to use the boss as the blueprint for education, to cultivate and restrain.
In the study and life of the eldest, many behaviors will become the object of imitation by the second eldest.
Therefore, parents should maintain this more attentive state in the education of the boss.
In the education of the second eldest, it will also play a role in doubling the results with half the effort, and even have an unpredictable positive impact.
3. Establish a stable order
When there are multiple children in the family, it is very necessary to set up a certain sense of order and rules for the children.
The reason for saying this is purely empirical.
Before the second eldest in the family, the eldest monopolized the family and could enjoy the pampering of all members exclusively, and his heart was very proud.
However, when the second eldest is born, all the pampering and items must be divided into two, which will only make them feel a strong sense of discomfort, and even increase the sense of resistance to the second elder.
If the parents set up and stipulate the personal space, objects and pets of the eldest and the second eldest after the birth of the second, they will know from the depths of the child's heart that the concept of equality and abiding by the rules is more beneficial to their subsequent getting along and growing.
4. Cultivate children's sense of autonomy
When there are multiple children in the family, the parents' energy is limited, and there is no way to take care of the child's every move and emotional changes, which is also the root cause of the contradictions between many children.
Therefore, in the education of multiple children in the family, parents must cultivate their children to be more hands-on and cultivate their autonomy.
Strive to let them handle their own affairs well, parents can assist from the side, but they will definitely not be in a state of doing the work.
When parents have such a fierce heart and awareness, the benefits to their children's getting along and growing up are very great.
Even if they enter the kindergarten and primary school stages, their adaptability will be very strong, and the key is that parents will be very worry-free.
5. Pay attention to the way to resolve contradictions
When there are many children in a large family, the most headache for parents must be the conflict between children.
The way to resolve contradictions is the parents' educational philosophy and cleverness.
Many parents do not participate in their children's contradictions and disputes, and the children's problems are left to the children to deal with by themselves, but become simpler.
Without the help of their parents, the conflicts between children are fleeting, and even they will have smarter solutions.
Therefore, when parents deal with contradictions and problems between children, they must correct their attitude and pay attention to the way to resolve them.
Although it may be a kind help, it is likely to make the contradiction develop in a more serious direction, which is not conducive to the maintenance of the child's relationship.
【Author's Message】
Wang Chong once said that he even learned and did not ask or know.
The family is an important base for children's growth, and the family atmosphere is very critical and important.
When multiple children in the family constantly quarrel and fight with each other, it is also extremely detrimental to the child's growth and mental health.
The harmonious relationship between children is inextricably linked to the education of parents and the family atmosphere.
Therefore, when the family has multiple children, as a parent, you must first do the above problems, only in this way can you create a better growth environment for your children and keep the relationship between children more harmonious.
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