If a person wants to accomplish something, it can be said that self-confidence is half the battle. But self-confidence is not innate, how to cultivate children's self-confidence from an early age, and then share with you the method of cultivating confident children.
First of all, take your child's needs seriously.
When children put forward some needs with expectations, as long as this request is not excessive, parents should try to pay attention to it.
If at that time, the parents are working outside and cannot meet him for a while, then be sure to tell him the specific time; if the child's requirements are excessive, touching some bottom-line problems, then parents must explain the reasons with the child, and must not directly ignore the needs of the child, which will make him lose confidence because he is not valued.
When your child doesn't have a clear need, give him a range of choices, such as not asking," "What do you want to eat," but asking," "Would you rather eat chicken breast or fried steak?" "Letting him make his own choices and increasing her dominance will increase confidence in himself."
Second, properly let the child meet the needs of the adult and give him a sense of accomplishment.
Use a deliberative tone to let the child do what he can, such as "Give the fruit to the mother, okay?" ”。
Occasionally, you can also let him touch some things that he can't do, such as he can't calculate the account, but knows that he has to pay for things, and the parents can hand over the pending payment to her and let him hand it to the cashier. Letting children know that they are needed is the best way to improve their self-confidence.
Finally, and most importantly, children cannot be belittled.
When teaching a child math, the child is not wrong, do not get angry.
Don't laugh at how he is so stupid, and you can't say to him, "You see whoever is next door will be everyone, why can't you?" This sentence will greatly dampen the child's self-esteem, and even discourage the child's independent learning, and henceforth resist learning.
The right thing to do is for parents to teach patiently a few more times and encourage him to think for himself.
When a child makes a mess in the house and makes a doodle all over the wall, there is no need to get angry and blame the child.
Saying that the crying child is angry with himself is simply not worth the loss. Parents should teach him how to pack his own toys and do them with him. Mother's tolerance is the soil for cultivating children's self-confidence.
In addition to the above three points, parents only need to pay attention to some small details, such as giving children enough personal space to let him have his own small territory; specially get a display cabinet to display his paintings and so on.
As long as parents give their children enough tolerance and patience, the child will grow into a confident and strong person.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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