Raising children is a profound science, in this process, parents should pay attention to scientific ways and methods, in order to let their children grow up healthily, the future will not be crooked. Especially in the first year of a child's birth, there are some things you have to do in place, often to play a multiplier effect.
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In the first year of the child's birth, the mother has to do one thing well
Professor Li Meijin, a famous psychologist, once put forward a point of view:
"Before the child is one year old, it is best to be brought by the mother herself, if you miss it, the child's psychological nutrition will be missing."
In short, it means that in the first year of the child's birth, the mother must bring the baby herself. No matter how tired you are, please accompany your children, give them love and care, and let them feel that they are loved.
Doesn't this matter sound simple, but can it really play such a big role in the future development of children?
Babies within one year of age are the attachment building period
Studies have found that infants and young children within 1 year of age are during the attachment establishment period, and they will have a special attachment to their mothers.
The so-called "attachment" refers to a special and lasting emotional connection between the baby and the mother (or other relatives), which is an important emotional experience in life for the baby.
This experience can often give children the following help:
★ Make your child feel more secure
Experts believe that it is very important to meet the attachment needs of infants and young children, which allows children to gain a sense of security, bravely explore the outside world, and step into unknown areas, even in the face of unfamiliar environments, they will not feel fear.
Because he understands that some people love him, he is happy and safe, so he has the courage to dare to fail in the face of challenges, the determination to start again, and the perseverance to fight to the end. And these qualities are undoubtedly beneficial to the future development of children's lives.
★ Make your child more emotionally stable
Studies have found that many adolescents who are emotionally unstable and misguided when they grow up often do not have a close relationship with their mothers from an early age, which experts believe is mainly due to the fact that he did not get enough attachment from his mother.
In infancy and infancy, the sense of attachment formed between the child and the mother will often plant positive personality seeds such as "joy" and "positive emotions", so they tend to live more open-mindedly in the future, and their views on everything are mostly positive.
And if he feels from a young age that his mother is alienated, indifferent, or manic and suffocated, the emotional feedback left behind is negative, and it is often easy to cause the child's emotions to be easily affected, their psychology is not sound enough, and the future is easy to be extreme.
★ Let your child build an intimate relationship
If we carefully observe the people around us, we can find that children from a happy family are mostly extroverted, and can get along with others in harmony, which is very popular in interpersonal relationships.
This is mainly because such children have a rich attachment emotional experience from an early age, so their feedback on love is positive, and the love they get from their mother leads to their heart being abundant and knowing how to give.
Children who lack attachment emotional experience from childhood often appear slightly indifferent in interpersonal communication, they do not know how to establish intimate relationships with others, do not know how to love, and do not know how to respond to the love of others.
The first year of a close mother-child relationship is important
In addition to the above attachment relationship period, there is another important reason for the call for mothers to personally raise their one-year-old babies: this year is related to the relationship between you and your children now and in the future.
There has been an opinion put forward by education experts: pregnant in October, not as good as the first year after birth.
This means that even if the mother is pregnant for Ten Months, and the mother and child have been together for so long, it is not as good as the parenting grace of the first year after their birth.
In the first year after the birth of the child, they will have a natural sense of dependence on the nurturer, in their hearts, there will always be that person's figure, if the mother in the first year after the birth of the child, immediately participate in the work, the child is lost to the elderly in the family, then they later in life, you may be difficult to participate in.
In the future, when the mother and the parent have a conflict, the child will often be more toward the nurturer, and the relationship between you and the child will gradually drift apart, and then his education problems will not be able to interfere. When the elderly raise grandchildren (daughters), it is easy to appear the phenomenon of "generational pets", which may lead to children becoming arrogant, selfish and rebellious, and it is often more difficult for parents to intervene in the future.
Therefore, if parents want their child not to go wrong in the future and the parent-child relationship is more harmonious, then they need to act in the first year after he is born.
【Write at the end】
"Lucky people spend their whole lives being healed by childhood, and unfortunate people spend their whole lives healing childhood."
A happy childhood has a profound and lasting impact on children. What we, as parents, may be able to do is to give our children a "childhood" that is good enough to let their children reminisce about a lifetime.