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There is a sentence in the Book of Rites: "The father's tutelage, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fatness of the family." "Roughly speaking: father and son are close, brothers and sisters are harmonious, husband and wife love, and the wealth of this family will be gathered." Deeply believed, home and everything is happy, if the family, all day long is some chicken flying dog jumping things, how to have the heart and time to accumulate wealth.
But the old saying also says, "Father is kind and filial to his son." Whether a family can be harmonious, the big premise is on the parents. As the navigator of the family, parents should treat their children equally and lead by example in order to make the feelings between brothers and sisters harmonious. But many truths are easier said than done.
Because everyone has their own preferences and selfishness, parents are no exception. There are many parents around us who will treat several children differently according to their own preferences. Eccentricity or preference for sons and daughters, so that several children have a gap due to the allocation of family resources, and when they grow up, their natural feelings are not good.
In fact, it's not just the feelings between siblings that are determined by parents. The issue of parents' future pensions, and whether the relationship between parents and children is intimate, is also decided by the parents themselves to a large extent. In general, due to the blood kinship between parents and children, there are many children who are not favored by their parents, in adulthood.
Even if you are aggrieved, you are still willing to reconcile with your parents, willing to pay more, and only hope that your parents can share a little love for yourself. Among them, some parents will realize that their original words and deeds are really inappropriate, so as to make up for their children. But there are also some parents who do not feel that they are wrong, and even take the filial piety of children who are not liked to help their favorite children.
Wang Fengni met such parents:
Wang Fengni was born in a patriarchal family, her parents loved her brother in every way, as for Wang Fengni, she was just a dispensable punching bag. Wang Fengni went out to work early, and the money she earned was naturally given to her family, in other words, it helped her brother. This situation lasted until she got married.
Wang Fengni and her husband met at work, and with the increase of time spent together, they had feelings for each other. The choice of marriage partner is the first time that Wang Fengni quarreled with her parents, and in the past, all her things were arranged by her parents. The arrangements of the parents are usually able to bring benefits to the brother.
It may be that Wang Fengni is too insistent, or it may be that her parents feel that things are making a big fuss and will affect the reputation of the family. So after a stalemate for more than half a year, her parents agreed to Wang Fengni's choice. In this way, the parents and lions opened their mouths and took Wang Fengni's bride price, and after taking Wang Fengni's dowry, they did not prepare a dime, so they married their daughters.
Fortunately, the in-laws are more generous, and her husband also loves her, so Wang Fengni did not look up in the in-laws' family because of the dowry. For her mother's parents, Wang Fengni is not without complaints, she has always felt that she is very wronged since she began to understand things. Why do you obey and understand things, but you still can't let your parents love you a little. Why doesn't my brother do anything to please his parents?
But because of blood and affection, even if her parents treat her like this, she still believes that her parents will not care about her at all. Therefore, after she got married, she did not completely break off contact with her mother's family. Something that made her completely chill happened in her fifth year after marriage, when her daughter was 4 years old. At that time, she and her husband quit their jobs to start a business and opened a small restaurant. The business was not too busy at first, so the two of them had no problem doing business while taking the children.
But as the restaurant's business got better and better, after expanding the storefront, even if the waiter was hired. In order to save, but also because there are some things, it is better to do it personally, so Wang Fengni has to consider what to do with her children. Sending to kindergarten is not only too far away, but also the child is rejected. Later, thinking of her mother's parents, Wang Fengni knew that her mother was taking her grandson, but because the grandson was already 10 years old. As long as the pick-up and drop-off to and from school is good, one more child should be able to cope.
When Wang Fengni and her mother confirmed, there was a little trepidation in her heart, after all, from childhood to adulthood, her parents had never helped her because she had difficulties. But this time, the mother readily agreed, which made Wang Fengni very happy. She and her husband said: "I know that my mother's parents still love me, you see now that I am in difficulty, my mother is still willing to help me bear it together when she is old." I used to think that my parents were not good to me, and in the future, I would only fulfill my obligations in the future, and I was really unfilial. ”
At this time, Wang Fengni was immersed in joy and completely unaware that her husband had poured cold water. Yes, she did not think, behind the mother's promise, she proposed to give 3,000 yuan a month. In this way, within a few days, Wang Fengni sent her daughter to her mother's house. The next month is to transfer money to the mother on time, and from time to time to send things, snacks, toys and clothes to the mother's house. Naturally, Wang Fengni did not leave her brother's children behind, and basically prepared one every time.
Wang Fengni did this, just hoping that the mother could do more when taking care of the child. My brother and sister-in-law can also feel a little more comfortable. When the daughter first arrived at her grandmother's house, Wang Fengni and her daughter talked on the phone, and the daughter said a lot, which was in line with her daughter's original lively and cheerful personality. But after a month, the daughter was less willing to take the initiative to speak. It was Wang Fengni who asked a question, and she only answered.
However, Wang Fengni did not think much about it, she thought that her daughter had just not been with her parents for a while, and she was a little rusty. In addition, the business is too busy, and the distance from her mother's house is not close, so Wang Fengni only went back to see her daughter for the first time when she was separated from her daughter for a year. She and her husband took advantage of the light business months, bought a bunch of things in large bags, and rushed to their mother's house.
Seeing her daughter again, Wang Fengni was a little confused, and after a year, her daughter not only hardly grew up, but also had yellow muscles and thin skin. When I saw my mother, my eyes flickered and I was timid. Seeing Wang Fengni return, her mother complained about why she didn't greet her in advance, while reaching out to take away the things she had brought back, and in the blink of an eye, she didn't know where to put them. In the face of Wang Fengni's doubts, her mother said: "Children are picky eaters and disobey, and they will naturally lose weight." As for the problem of not being long, I know this, and it is estimated to be genetic. ”
Wang Fengni and her husband looked at each other, but they could only suppress their doubts and did not continue to say anything. She never dreamed that her mother was playing her. When eating, the daughter has not dared to pick vegetables, bowing her head and only pulling the rice in the bowl. Wang Fengni tried to let her daughter eat fish meat, but her daughter looked at Wang Fengni and hesitated for a moment before carefully clipping a little bit of fish meat on the tail.
Wang Fengni was vaguely uneasy in her heart, and she ignored her mother's efforts to say that her daughter was very picky. Let her daughter eat more meat on the belly of the fish, she remembers that her daughter likes to eat the fish on the belly of the fish. With the encouragement of Wang Fengni, the daughter finally extended her chopsticks to the fish again. At this time, the brother's son shouted: "My favorite fish, you can't eat anymore." The daughter was so frightened that she immediately withdrew her hand. At this time, Wang Fengni finally understood why her daughter had become like this.
At the age of my brother's son, he basically understands a little thing. Wang Fengni tried to reason with him, but he said: "This is my home, of course, you have to listen to me, and grandma said, cousin is an outsider, but also a girl, just have a mouthful to eat." If it weren't for the aunt sending money and sending things every month, the family would not raise outsiders? ”
Before he could finish speaking, his mother quickly covered his mouth, and while stopping him from continuing, she explained to Wang Fengni that it was a child's nonsense. Wang Fengni smiled angrily, and children would tell the truth. The facts were in front of her, and Wang Fengni finally believed that her mother really did not love herself, so she did not love her daughter and let her daughter suffer so much here.
Wang Fengni dropped the chopsticks, grabbed her husband who was already on the verge of rage, picked up the child and left. Before leaving, she said to her mother word by word: "In fact, I have already paid off your nurturing grace, but in order to avoid arguing with you, I will still give you living expenses in the future, but it is only living expenses." Between the two of us, there is no ruthless division at all. You asked me to add and replace all kinds of appliances to the house, as well as other requirements, you are counting on your precious son. ”
The end of the story:
Everything in the world has cause and effect, and everyone's current situation, whether good or bad, is the result of his own words and deeds. Between parents and children, between brothers and sisters, blood is connected, and it should be a relationship that can give each other warmth and comfort. However, because of the preference of parents, there is a gap between brothers and sisters, and it is even more caused for the parents' children who do not like to chill, thus affecting the relationship between parents and children, which is too sad.
"Eggs can't all be put in one basket", this truth is understood by everyone, in fact, in the issue of parents' pension in their old age, this is also the truth. In the future, no one can predict in advance, so even for their own later life, they cannot be too generous in the process of raising their children. The more the child who is favored by his parents, the less filial he is? They are all their own children, and I hope that parents can treat them equally, for the good of their children, in fact, it is also for their own good.
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