For couples, weddings are a testimony of love and the beginning of a new life.
Since ancient times, marriage has been discussed, and men have paid dowries to women. In today's society, this has also become a marriage custom, which is more of a material basis for the parents of both parties to prepare for the newlyweds.
But I don't know when the dowry became no longer mentioned, and the bride price became higher and higher.
Marriage is based on feelings, not conditions, and if conditions are mandatory, then it can only be said that it is not feelings, but "transactions".
The appropriate bride price is a commitment to the woman and a sense of security. But not all girls are materialistic, and sometimes all she wants is a clear attitude.
"Stories From Fan Sharing"
Girls and boyfriends are almost 30 years old when they interact, although the family conditions are good, the work is decent, but the age is getting older, and even the best people are easy to be talked about when they are old and not married. Girls have always been picky in previous years, and as they get older, the standard of mate selection has also been lowered.
Under the introduction of a friend, the girl met her current boyfriend, he is a rural person, the family conditions are not good, but he is diligent and self-motivated, and after his own efforts, he was admitted to a prestigious university, a typical phoenix man.
In the process of getting along with the two, the girl can feel his efforts and steadfastness, feel that he is a potential stock, material conditions can be created, and slowly fall in love with him.
The girl knows that the boyfriend's family conditions are not good, so she deliberately said to her parents: she does not want material, the bride price is just a formality, how much to express her heart, can not be used to measure sincerity and love.
In her opinion, if the parents say too much will make the boyfriend sad, for his self-esteem, he needs to communicate with his parents in advance.
After spending almost a year together, the two felt that the other was the one who spent the rest of their lives together, so they received a marriage license and then lived together.
It wasn't long before the girl became pregnant, and she excitedly told her husband about it, but although he was happy, he didn't mention the wedding. The month is getting bigger and bigger, it seems that it will be four months, it has begun to show its nostalgia, and the girl can no longer bear to say: "I can't wear a wedding dress soon, where to buy and when to do the wedding?" ”
But the husband said indifferently: "They are already legal couples, what else to do?" Besides, the child also has it, and this will be the time to install the fetus. ”
The girl was obviously a little disappointed, and said: "Many people don't know that we are married, if you go out and see me with a big belly, people think that I am pregnant before marriage, can't you consider me?" The bride price only needs to be meaningful, and our family also has a dowry. ”
The husband was a little impatient and said, "Don't you want face?" Why is your family so face-saving? What family situation I have, you don't know, where there is so much money to do a wedding! ”
All day, the girl was sullen and unhappy, thinking that the house where she and her husband lived was still bought by her mother's family, and her heart was even more unpleasant. In front of people, she could not even have a decent wedding.
The mother's family has been urging herself to do the wedding, and the husband does not want to do it, in desperation, the girl had to go to the in-laws, but the answer was that she added her own house to her husband's name, in the face of the in-laws' answers, the girls were extremely disappointed, and it turned out that they had been calculating their premarital property.
You can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, just as you can never touch someone who doesn't love you. Faced with her husband's indifference and in-laws' calculations, the girl went to the hospital alone.
A few days later my husband called and said, "Have you figured it out?" Now that there are children, those provinces should be saved. ”
In the face of her husband's schadenfreude, the girl said firmly: "Think clearly, in a few days I will go through the divorce procedures, and the child is gone." Instead of living with someone who has always counted me, it is better to love myself. ”
Despite the husband and in-laws interceding, the girl still did not let go, and the phoenix man who delayed the wedding again and again finally regretted it.
To know that the most taboo thing in marriage is calculation, the basis of life is love, and love has no remuneration, only pay and return.
Before deciding to divorce, there is a long, painful, and difficult process of thinking about reasons, that is, the process of comprehensively basing one's decision from the perspective of personal needs, interests, opinions, and values. - Sechenko