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The general capacity for independent thinking and independent judgment should always be placed first. — Albert Einstein
Before Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei's divorce incident was on the hot search, many netizens talked about whether to pay their wives after marriage.
In Carnegie's book" "Women's Patterns Determine the End," he said: "Independent women, with their own ability to create happiness, do not need to please and depend on men."
Qin Jianling: Women are unhappy, often do not have these three kinds of "independence"
If a woman is unhappy, she often lacks these three kinds of "independence".
Economic independence
If a woman is not financially independent, her future is easily pinched in the hands of men, and a woman who has a husband loves is very happy, but a woman will only feel truly secure when she is independent.
I saw a very encouraging story on the Internet: after Honey got married, she did not give up her job because of marriage, and when she continued to work, her natural economy was also independent, so she had enough decision-making power to buy what she liked and do what she liked to do.
Once, during the festival, Honey would give gifts to her parents and friends, and the mother-in-law who stood on the side saw it and kept nagging: "This is too expensive!" What a waste of money!
Even once, in the weather in Guangzhou, most people turned on the air conditioner, but the mother-in-law kept nagging on the side: "The weather is not very hot, what air conditioning is turned on, too wasteful of electricity...
He also said that his son also made money hard, how do you not know how to save him a little, you are such a loser..."
Honey often heard nagging, really annoyed, and politely told her mother-in-law: "Mom, this is the money I earned myself." We pay the electricity bill, don't bother you.
The mother-in-law stopped her mouth, thinking that she was still unhappy, and later, when Honey's husband returned, she nagged for a while, and her husband pulled her mother-in-law to her room and talked for a while.
From then on, the mother-in-law never came forward to tell her son about her hard work because Honey spent money.
It can be seen that only when she is economically independent can she gain the right to speak; if a woman is not economically independent, it is really difficult to be free and want to live a life; as Luo Li said, a woman will only have a real sense of security when she is independent.
Personality independence
If the personality of the woman is not independent, will ignore their own value, in life, found that many women will have a strange concept: think that after marriage, men should break into a career, women should quit their jobs, at home to be a good wife and mother, husband and son.
In the TV series "Dear Myself", Zhang Zhizhi and Liu Yang in it are a very representative couple.
After getting married, Zhang Zhizhi took care of the trivial affairs of the family, taking care of the family while working, and was also responsible for her husband's work and her daughter's schooling.
For her, you think it's her duty to take care of the family, and her husband and children are her whole world, so no matter how hard it is, it's a matter of course.
Until one time, when she was not working well and nagged Liu Yang, her husband not only had no comfort, but let her be a housewife at home.
She said, "But women must also have their own careers." ”
But Liu Yang replied: "I am your career, and Yuwei is your career." ”
Zhang Zhizhi listened to her husband's words, but what she finally got was the fact that her husband abandoned their mother and daughter and saw her husband cheating.
It can be seen that women with an independent personality are easy to be too attached to a man, because once you become an accessory, it is easy to lose self-esteem and self.
Thought independence
Women who are not independent in their thinking will give up their careers because of marriage. Men want you to be a housewife, and they want you to go up to the kitchen and take you out to meet friends, and the way you talk will make his face shine.
Yang Lanzhong said: "As a party to the marriage, please leave a certain distance to each other, which includes not only the scale of space, but also the scale of the heart.
I especially admire Tang Jing in "The First Half of My Life", and I can see a lot of beautiful words in her, such as: strong, independent, confident...
Later broke up with He Han, she was also very calm, not to mention crying, making trouble and hanging herself, when she saw Ling Ling was not pleasing to the eye, she would not think too much about other people's thoughts, and fired her in one sentence, she knew very well what she wanted.
It can be seen that women with independent thoughts have their own opinions and ideas, and they always try their best to solve things, and will never seek protection wholeheartedly, so the more independent a woman is in her thinking, the more advanced she lives.
Women do not rely on beauty to find good men, if they only like beautiful women, such men are limited no matter how good they are, and good men usually care about women's inner strength.
Women independent is the most charming, independent women, in order to live out the real light, if women are not independent, there is no way to make others respect you, so women who are not dependent on people are really wonderful.