A Tsinghua mother shared her experience of yelling at her child
On a sunny morning, when the mother was drying clothes upstairs, she heard the laughter of children playing nearby, out of curiosity, looking closer, it was the daughter Xiaoli and the playmate playing together in the mud pit, the mother saw the anger rise, scolded the daughter on the spot, the children who played together saw the gray and ran away, but the daughter was frightened by the mother's momentum, and after a while, she cried out.
The smart mother immediately expected that her excessive behavior would scare the child.
After a few days, my daughter's expression slowly eased.
Soon, the daughter's good friend again to find Xiaoli to play, Xiaoli was happy to be invited, three or five friends played again, this time more than the last time to play, Xiaoli and friends in hide-and-seek, but these naughty children hide and hide everywhere, make the whole body dirty, this time was found by the mother, this time the mother did not find and did not scold, the mother grabbed Xiaoli's small hand, and took it home, Xiaoli thought that she was going to be scolded again, the mood was very nervous, while walking and asking her mother what to do? After returning home, my mother first let Xiaoli take a bath, and then gave advice, saying that she could not play like this in the future, and that she should stop playing moderately, and slowly left.
Xiaoli's mood immediately relaxed, and she hugged her mother happily, and Xiaoli said: I will not make mistakes again in the future. Mom smiled and nodded, and her heart felt a burst of beauty.
When a child makes a mistake, what are the advantages and disadvantages of the mother getting angry or not getting angry?
Advantages when mothers are angry: Mothers can mostly control the current children's problems, such as procrastination, naughtiness, etc.; disadvantages: it will cause long-term harm to the child's psychology.
Advantages when the mother is not angry: the mother uses positive guidance to guide the child's problem, most of which can be solved, which will have a positive effect on the child and will not cause harm to the child; disadvantage: the mother must do it repeatedly.
Moms don't yell at their children, they can use these 2 tricks
1, in the heart to think "control not to get angry"
As an adult, learn to control your emotions.
For example, when you see that the child or the family is not doing well, the first time the anger will definitely come up, hint at yourself, control your own fire, this is very effective.
2. Seek help from family members
Learn to "let go," seek help from family members, and change family members to see your child when you're angry. If you still can't help yelling at your child, be sure to sincerely apologize to your child.