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Recently, the hit drama "Heart Residence" has won the attention of many people.
The TV series revolves around housing issues that are closely related to residents, exposing many problems in real life.
One of the details allowed me to see the most heartfelt scene in the marriage, and also unveiled the poignant truth in the marriage.
In the play, Haiqing plays a woman who has neither education nor background, who comes to Shanghai from the countryside to work hard - Feng Xiaoqin.
She is very competent, taking good care of her in-laws and taking care of the housework in an orderly manner. The family was also accustomed to having her clothes to open her mouth.
But in this family, the in-laws treat her as a nanny who doesn't want money, as an outsider, which makes her very insecure, even though she has paid a lot.
So she was desperate to buy a house of her own and gain a foothold in Shanghai.
In order to buy a house, she consulted with her husband and asked her sister to borrow money and make a down payment. But the husband who has a munatural personality and does not seek self-improvement cannot open his mouth and does not know how to say it.
In order to force her husband to do it, Feng Xiaoqin ran away from home.
On the morning she left home, her husband panicked, called and asked where she had gone, and blurted out: "What do we do when you go out?" ”
Feng Xiaoqin teased: "One father, one grandfather, one grandmother in the family, three people can't get a child?" ”
As a result, the Gu family was chaotic into a pot of porridge: the husband was busy waiting for his son to get dressed and washed; the father-in-law was in the kitchen hurrying to prepare breakfast for the child...
In the panic, the husband took his son downstairs to send him to school, but found that the mobile phone was not brought, and when he was in a hurry to return home, he fell on the lawn in a panic because he was too busy, and his thumb broke.
One morning when Feng Xiaoqin was not at home: her son's breakfast was simply coped with; her husband's thumb was broken; her father-in-law's eight treasure tea was not brewed well; her grandmother's bitter melon juice and standing medicine were not prepared...
Feng Xiaoqin is not at home, and her husband Gu Lei cannot take care of her children and family.
Meals will not be done, sending children to school also broke the thumb, even the job is still entrusted to find, without the face of A sister, I am afraid that I have long been laid off.
What can this man do at home?
In fact, many people's marriages are like this, women take on too many family responsibilities, and men slowly lose the ability to assume family responsibilities in self-exile!
A person's sense of family responsibility permeates the small things in life!
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Coincidentally, an incident that happened in Shanghai during the recent epidemic has also triggered widespread discussion on the Internet.
The epidemic in Shanghai is serious, and medical workers work all night in the front line of epidemic prevention, abandoning their small homes for everyone.
A gentleman from Shanghai's Pudong New Area, a family member of a medical worker, was in a hurry.
His wife and mother are both fighting on the front line of epidemic prevention, and due to the severity of the epidemic, they have not returned home for a month recently.
He and his father and a 2-year-old son are also in the family.
It is reasonable to say that two adults are no problem to take care of a child. However, he and his father could not cook, and the 2-year-old had not had a good and normal diet for several days.
Now the children in the family are the heart of the family, a treasure in the family, the child is the time to grow the body, even eating can not be guaranteed normally, you say that the two big masters in the family can not be in a hurry?
Let the wife or mother who is fighting in the front line of epidemic prevention come back? This is unrealistic!
After all, the epidemic situation in Shanghai is serious, they are busy, how can they be funny? But what about the child's three meals a day, he is the child's father, can he not be in a hurry?
Fortunately, there is an enthusiastic neighbor in the community, who heard about this and contracted the child's meal and cooked for the child every day.
After all, the child's mother and grandmother are busy on the front line of the epidemic, and they can't let them have worries!
But if the mother and grandmother are not at home, the father and grandfather will not be able to raise the children and take care of the family? What do the men in this house do? Is it a home decoration?
In order to work and for the safety of everyone, women have stood on the front line of the fight against the epidemic, and the hardships and fatigues in them have been silently endured alone.
The home is not only of women's, there are also men in the family.
They just hope that men can take good care of their children, take care of housework, and do a good job of backing them at this critical moment, so that they have no worries and wholeheartedly fight the epidemic!
Is this too much to ask? Not too much at all!
The family is two people, taking care of the children, taking care of the housework should be the common responsibility and obligation of two people.
But why can't men take on the responsibility of caring for children when women go out to fight?
Widowhood is the sadness of many families at present!
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Housework is not a woman's duty alone.
In marriage, if the man loves you, he absolutely cannot bear to let you be consumed alone in endless trivial chores.
Loving you will hurt you.
Some people say: a woman's best dowry is a considerate and warm heart, and a man's best dowry is a lifetime of responsibility and love.
When my cousin was pregnant, her reaction was very strong, she couldn't eat or sleep well, what to eat and what to vomit, making people very weak and tired.
The brother-in-law's work is very busy, and he is just in the ascending period, and he has a lot of socializing. But no matter what time he arrived home, he would greet his cousin warmly and care for him, no matter how tired he was, he would tell his cousin to pay attention to rest, and the housework would wait for him to come back from work.
After the birth of the child, he learned to coax the baby to take the baby, make milk powder for the child, and change the diaper.
He understands his cousin's hard work of taking the baby during the day, and when the baby wakes up at night, he gets up to make milk powder and coax the baby to sleep.
The cousin said that she was fortunate to be married to a responsible husband who loved her, otherwise she would have been really depressed during the days when she had a baby.
I once saw a video where my mother let her child call out to my father and uncle, and my father asked why in surprise, and my mother said: From the first day of the birth of the child, I am a single mother.
Yes, the father has not changed the child's diaper once, has not tutored the child's homework, always has something to find the mother, and he has always been holding the mobile phone in his hand, immersed in his own world.
Isn't this an uncle?
There are still people who think that doing housework and taking care of children is what women should do!
But the family is two people!
In marriage, a man's attitude toward housework determines the temperature of the marriage.
The ideal married life is that both people have a job they love, and when they come home, they cook and stir-fry together, clean up together, smile at each other, and hug each other to sleep!
May you and I both have a job that you love, an ideal marriage, and a happy life!
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