When the two-child policy came, many mothers had ideas. It's just that some mothers are a little hesitant, that is, the problem of age, and now they have passed the optimal age for childbearing, almost 40 years old, which can also be regarded as super old age. Xiaoyu is such a super-old mother, she insisted on going her own way and finally chose to have a second child. During the confinement period in the confinement center, the second child is born to the mother of the best childbearing age in the next delivery room, and the confinement can see a significant gap.
When Xiaoyu gave birth to the child, she was already 40 years old, and it was medically judged to be an ultra-old mother. And the next delivery room mom Nana because of the early marriage, a baby is relatively small, only 3 years old, so her age is not large, only 26 years old, from a medical point of view, 25-28 years old is the best age to have children.
Where is the difference between confinement, postpartum repair is one aspect. Both over-age mothers and optimal mothers to give birth are natural births. But the best fertility moms jump around alive within a few days. Over-aged women, on the other hand, basically lie in bed and recuperate. It's just that if you move, the wound cut on the side will always hurt. This is due to the fact that a person's ability to heal wounds slowly diminishes with age. Therefore, the wounds of over-aged women heal more slowly than those of the best mothers.
In addition, the best fertility mothers resume their diet within a few days of giving birth, and there is plenty of milk. On the side of the over-aged woman, even though she had been in labor for several days, she still had a low appetite and a poor appetite, and she found that her breast milk was insufficient and she could not feed the baby at all. The main reason for this discrepancy is that over-aged women are older and have insufficient hormones secreted by their bodies, resulting in insufficient milk.
Even if many over-aged women have such a hard time giving birth to a second child, they are still very grateful for their bravery to make this decision. The doctors were trying to persuade her not to have the child. After all, Dabao is very big, and they are all old in high school. Don't be so embarrassed about yourself, but Bao Ma finally insisted on her own principles.
The over-aged mother chose to have a second child, and naturally there are her reasons. In the past, she belonged to the career type of woman, when Dabao was born, she was in the career upswing period, so at that time, she basically did not have time to manage children, if there was a reasonable mother-in-law, did not blame her. Instead, let her let go and do what she wanted to do, and take on the task of taking care of the children. Therefore, over the years, the daughter-in-law has been grateful to her mother-in-law.
Bao Ma's career finally went up to a higher level, but she also missed a lot of Dabao's growth and did not participate in Dabao's parent-teacher conference. Every time Dabao fell ill, he was accompanied by his grandmother and father. Even if sometimes Bao Mom takes Dabao out to dinner, the phone rings non-stop. Later, Bao Ma finally felt tired in the workplace, but she also found that the distance between her and Dabao was also far away. This has also become her biggest regret.
Wanting a second treasure is that her elderly mother does not want to continue to struggle for her career, and after so many years of struggle, she can also be considered to have fair economic ability. It is more than enough to have a second child, in order to make up for their regrets, so they will take the risk.
For super-aged mothers and age-appropriate mothers, there are also differences in other aspects. Super elderly mothers should pay more attention. Now postpartum depression is a very common disease, and many female friends face a lot of pressure after childbirth, such as the pressure of taking children. Month-old babies, often wake up many times a night, the super elderly mother itself sleeps badly, plus to feed the child, there is to change diapers, it is easy to mentally collapse.
In this way, the probability of postpartum depression in overage women is relatively high. Mothers themselves should pay attention to maintaining emotional stability. When you are too busy to come, or when you need to rest, you should seek help from your family in time to let your family share a little more. Of course, the husband and mother-in-law must also show understanding, so that the family relationship can be more harmonious.
Especially husbands, many mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is not good, is because the husband is sandwiched in the middle, will not deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the son shows great importance to the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law will also see the son's face and be more considerate of the daughter-in-law. People's hearts are all flesh, and the daughter-in-law will also feel it, and she will be more filial to her mother-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is naturally easy to get along with.
When the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have a conflict, they must be impartial on the surface, and buy gifts behind the scenes to comfort the daughter-in-law and the mother. And to tell them about each other's difficulties, the most important thing is to understand each other, with such a husband in the middle, how can there be a difficult family relationship.
The bringing of the second treasure can also bring more laughter to the family. Dabao also has companionship and will begin to have a sense of responsibility. For family relations, the arrival of the second treasure is a kind of adjustment. However, there will also be problems, such as Bao Ma and Er Bao going out and being mistaken for grandma, but as long as they are alive and happy, the eyes of others are not important. Moms are great and not easy, so enjoy the good times of being a mom.