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composed
Haiqing, Tong Yao, Zhang Songwen
and other starring
"Heart Dwelling"
It is nearing the end, but many viewers said that although the actors of this drama are basically online, they are a little tired of chasing the drama.
It is also true that film and television drama works, out of the need for dramatic tension, often concentrate infinite contradictions on a limited number of characters, but
This looks like people who are bad at people, and they are really tired and do not love.
But think of it another way, maybe, either
Feng Xiaoqin, who works hard and wants to stay in Shanghai,
Still is
Gu Qingyu, who seems to be shrewd but is too idealistic,
Or
The strange relatives of the Gu family's three sisters and six wives
The contradictions and discussions caused by the two-sidedness in them are more realistic.
In contrast, most of the audience's voice for one of the characters is more consistent: that is, Ge Yue, a good girl who has encountered Gu Xin's marital infidelity.
Watching Ge Yue circle around the unconscious mother-in-law and the husband who is bent on cheating every day,
"When will Ge Yue get divorced"
Every day on the hot search, can I say with all due respect:
Sympathy to sympathy, even if you have not met Gu Xin, it is difficult for a girl like Ge Yue to marry happily
Why? And listen to the entertainment bunny shallow analysis.
01: Ge Yue, who has a good family condition, has never been a girl who is "rich"
Girls want to be "rich", this educational concept, I am afraid that many people's ears have heard the cocoon, but unfortunately, although Ge Yue's father is the deputy director, Ge Yue's family conditions are also very good, but it is obvious that she is only a spoiled child, not "rich" to grow up.
Why "enrich" girls?
Because only a girl whose inner world is rich enough and has seen enough of the world will not give a sugar casually, and she can easily feel sweet.
It is even more impossible to lose your lifelong marriage and happiness for that little bit of sweetness.
In this matter, Ge Yue is a completely negative teaching material.
Gu Xin and Ge Yue have only been in love for half a year from love to marriage, and in this little half year of getting along, Ge Yue and Gu Xin have gone from love to marriage, and Ge Yue is still pregnant with a child in her belly.
So the question is, how long did it take Gu Xin to chase Ge Yue? Or did Gu Xin ever "chase" Ge Yue?
What's more, before meeting Ge Yue, Gu Xin also had a model girlfriend Sun Qi, who had been in a relationship for 10 years and was well known to the Gu family.
The love between Gu Xin and Ge Yue, it is even very likely that Ge Yue took the initiative, in the work accidentally met Gu Xin Ge Yue was attracted by the other party's handsome appearance, took the initiative to show goodwill, after learning that Ge Yue is the daughter of the deputy director, Gu Xin, who moved his mind, deliberately concealed the fact that he had a girlfriend, casually showed kindness, Ge Yue became Gu Xin's so-called girlfriend.
The Ge family was already arranging to talk about marriage, the Gu family's parents didn't even know who Ge Yue was, and Gu Xin only casually mentioned it when his mother just saw Ge Yue together.
There is only one reason for this situation: Ge Yue, who has no experience in love, is really too good to "fool".
Even in the process of this love, Gu Xin revealed something
"Flawed"
For example, in the early days, he may have interacted with Sun Qi and Ge Yue at the same time, and for example, he never took Ge Yue to see his family, or he knocked on the side to inquire about the situation of the Ge family, etc., but Ge Yue's "love brain" could not really detect anything at all.
And as soon as Ge Yue became pregnant, all the initiatives would probably fall into Gu Xin's hands in an instant.
This "love process" that makes Ge Yue feel very sweet may be just a trade-off in Gu Xin's eyes.
02. The strong mother did not teach Ge Yue the way to run marriage
Compared with the Gu family, the ge yue family's family situation and conditions are undoubtedly more than 1-2 grades higher.
However, as the deputy director's wife, Ge Yue's mother's pattern is not much higher than that of Gu Ma, who is full of worldly temperament, and even inferior to Gu Ma.
This pattern has nothing to do with the quality of the conditions at home.
At the dinner table, Ge's mother undoubtedly knows more about table manners, and Gu's mother will only wipe her mouth with a napkin, but on the subject of how to deal with the marriage problems of the juniors, Ge's sense of proportion is even worse than Gu's.
It is said that the mother-in-law is picky about the daughter-in-law, but the mother-in-law looks at the son-in-law, but the more she looks at the son-in-law, the more she likes it
These words, put to Ge Mama's mother-in-law, are not at all brilliant.
Her mother-in-law looked after Gu Xin, but how to see how unpleasant.
Although Gu Xin is a very "scumbag", in all fairness, since he can
Sun Qi, Ge Yue, Feng Xixi
The 3 girls with different conditions in all aspects are obsessed with it, and he must still have superiority, which is not only outstanding appearance, but also reflected in other aspects such as his ability to work.
The Gu family is not as rich as the Ge family, but the 7 million that the two should pay for buying a house, the Gu family should still pay it, so the Gu family to the Ge family, and even Gu Xin to Ge Yue, may not be how high they climbed.
The mother-in-law likes the son-in-law, not because she thinks the son-in-law is good, but because she hopes that through her kindness to the son-in-law, he will treat her daughter equally.
Ge Mama, the mother-in-law, regarded Gu Xin's son-in-law as useless, and she looked down on Gu Xin, although it was not the main reason for the disintegration of this marriage, but at least it was a catalyst.
Ge Mu probably did not realize that her denial of Gu Xin was actually a denial of her own daughter, in her opinion, Gu Xin chose this marriage to completely value the Gu family, it was Ge Yue's father who stood behind Ge Yue, not her daughter.
Ge Mu's strength, in addition to making her daughter form a cowardly character, instead of handing over the way to manage her marriage, became a stumbling block to this marriage.
03. Ge Yue's own personality and charm
Ge Yue is kind, there is no doubt about this.
This is also the main reason why the audience will feel sorry for this girl.
But leaving aside the element of compassion, only kindness alone obviously does not help Ge Yue to have a unique charm in marriage.
In terms of appearance, Ge Yue is very general, especially standing next to Gu Xin, whether it is Sun Qi or Feng Xiqian is definitely more suitable than her.
In terms of work ability and hard work, she not only cannot be compared with the female elite Gu Qingyu, but also cannot eat the bitterness of Feng Xixi, who has worked hard step by step, and even Feng Xiaoqin, who has been a housewife for a period of time, has a better performance in the workplace than her.
On running the family, Ge Yue is even more clueless, which she is even more than her mother, even if the family has declined, Ge Yue, who can't cook, still invites her aunt and lives the life of a rich wife.
Obviously, the accident in her mother's family did not affect Ge Yue's life in the slightest.
It is reasonable to say that such a big thing happened to her father, who was the pillar of the family, at least during that time, she did not see growth in Ge Yue, even if this was something she should have grown up and faced earlier.
Many people blame Gu Mu for worshipping high and stepping low, and even a 5300 yuan mattress is not allowed to buy a pregnant daughter-in-law, but there is one to say, and many of Su Wangdi's words are not rough.
Even, when the Ge family was down, Gu Mu's sneering was also a valuable lesson in Ge Yue's past too smooth life.
Ge Yue's personality
Cowardly, evasive and somewhat flattering personality
This is because Ge Yue, who is already married and a mother, has not yet walked out of the ivory tower built by her parents and has not faced the real wind and rain outside.
04: The kind Ge Yue is under the misunderstanding of being rich, and it is difficult to harvest happiness without supporting it
Feng Xiaoqin told her sister Feng Xixi:
Ge Yue has not come easy along the way, we can't bully honest people.
But there is also a very cruel truth is that Ge Yue, an honest person, even if Feng Xixi does not bully, there will still be Li Xixi, Zhang Xixi, and Wang Xixi to bully.
This "bullying" is not necessarily a disruption to a marital relationship, but it can also be something else in work or life.
Whether it is marriage, or other interpersonal relationships, it needs the wisdom of management, Ge Yue obviously has not yet cultivated to home, so what Ge Yue needs is not only divorce, but how to support herself.
How to support himself is the key to Ge Yue's ability to get out of the predicament of marriage and meet his new life. Otherwise, even if she and Gu Xin are divorced, it will be difficult for her to harvest happiness in a new relationship.
We all hope that a kind girl can be blessed, but luck is not only because this person is kind.
How to face and solve the problems with Gu Xin in this marriage relationship on his own is far more important for Ge Yue, who has not experienced setbacks, than directly divorcing Gu Xin.
Even if she is divorced from Gu Xin, she will still face a second new marriage relationship when she is young, even if she does not get married, she has already had an extra mother's identity in this marriage.
Women first have to understand what they want and need in relationships and marriages
Feng Xiaoqin did this very well. It is worth learning from Ge Yue
Summary: Ge Yue's marriage tragedy is worth pondering
In the eyes of the Ge family's parents, they must still think that Ge Yue should be a girl who is "rich".
However, this is also the misunderstanding that many young girls are now facing "rich support" and "happy marriage":
There is no shortage of material things, and the ability to face problems independently.
Too dependent on parental marriages, and marital relationships that cannot communicate alone.
They seem to be protected under a safe protective veil, but in fact, it may be just a bubble that will burst apart with a single poke.
This is the problem that the kind girls who face the tragedy of Ge Yue's marriage need to think about in their growth and marriage