Once, Venus's sister, who was married to a Korean, called her and cried, "Star, what should I do?" My mother-in-law, my eldest sister and my great uncle took turns bullying me every day! ”
Venus said, "It's useless to cry!" You have to be cruel, they don't dare to bully you, I give you 3 tricks to ensure that they will be obedient. ”
Venus comes from a poor family, and she also has an older sister who is 3 years older than her, named Jin Xianglan, who has been very protective of Venus since she was a child.
After growing up, Jin Xianglan went to college in the United States, and after graduation, she became an executive in the North American region of a well-known cosmetics company, with an annual salary of several million US dollars.
Later, the sister married a Korean living in the United States, and the sister-in-law was very good and considerate to the sister.
Jin Xianglan thought that married life would be like life in American dramas, leisurely and comfortable, nothing to drink afternoon tea with her little sisters, have a party or something.
Unexpectedly, she actually met a very traditional Korean mother-in-law and lived a "miserable" life like a Korean drama.
In Korea, the status of women is very low, although Kim Heung Lan has a successful career, culture and beauty.
But her mother-in-law seemed to be useless, and she would not do the housework, let alone take care of her precious son.
In fact, her mother-in-law is not easy, she was widowed at a young age, and she lived alone with 3 children in a foreign country.
After a lifetime of strong habits, the brother-in-law is filial piety, very distressed about her mother, basically dare not fight with her, so the sister is even more angry.
Because the mother-in-law has been widowed for more than 30 years, she has not remarried, or lives in the same building with her children.
Every day, my sister came home from work, and my mother-in-law followed on her hind feet, wearing snow-white socks, and walking around the corners of the house.
If there was a little ash on her socks, she would shout as if she had discovered something terrible:
"What have you been doing all day?" The floor is full of ash, can't you see? Hurry up and wipe it clean! ”
The sister could only drag her tired body to wipe the floor, and as a result, she just squatted on the ground, and her mother-in-law's two socks also flew over:
"By the way, I washed my socks, oh, really, I got my socks dirty, it's really not like that!"
Jin Xianglan was an angry little daughter-in-law, and she couldn't help but complain to her husband, but her husband said, "It's not easy for you to see your mother raise me so big, don't see her in general."
My sister could only endure.
But when the mother-in-law saw her, she still chattered: "Since you married here, you must abide by the rules, do not require you to do everything perfectly, but the family must be clean..."
Moreover, her big sister was not a fuel-efficient lamp.
Every New Year's Festival, Korean women have to make kimchi and make some traditional food, but Kim Xianglan will not do it at all, she scolded her brother on the side:
"I said you don't want to marry a Chinese woman, why don't you do anything, you can't make kimchi."
The eldest brother did not look at her well, thinking that she always annoyed her mother, was not filial at all, and counted her down all day.
My sister was alone abroad, not even a supporter, she could only call Venus to complain, crying while talking, very pitiful.
Venus said, "Don't cry, it's useless to cry, you have to find a way to cure them."
My sister stopped her tears when she heard it.
Busy asked, "Is there any good way?"
Venus said, "First of all, you have to let your brother-in-law unite with you, and you have to let him support you, otherwise everything will be in vain."
My sister said, "Your brother-in-law is still good to me, or I would have turned my face to them a long time ago."
Venus said, "As long as your brother-in-law supports you, then everything will be easy to do, and then, do as I say, and make sure that they will obey."
After listening to Venus's advice, the next day her sister resigned and announced to the whole family:
"From today on, I'll be a full-time housewife, but I'll also move out of this house."
When the mother-in-law heard this, she was confused, not because she did not work or make money, but because she felt that her son was leaving her, which made her unacceptable.
Sitting on the couch, he collapsed and cried: "Now that your wings are hard, you don't want your mother, and you still have to separate your family, it is too humiliating, how do you let others look at our family..."
The mother-in-law was crying there, and the eldest sister-in-law and the eldest brother were also adding fuel and vinegar to the side: "You have married this Chinese woman, you have to move out, you are really filial piety!"
But Jin Xianglan has long been accustomed to their style, and she can perform at every turn, why not simply become an actor?
Originally, they wanted to move closer and take care of some mother-in-law, but seeing their pie, they simply moved to other states, and they were not bothered.
In the second step, the sister collected all of her husband's salary and paid him only a little pocket money every month.
Although there is no job, the financial power of the family must be in their own hands.
This is also very strange in the eyes of the macho Koreans, but the brother-in-law completely agrees.
Because the sister does not go out to work to take care of the family and children, the two people are paying for the family, and giving her the money will give her more security.
Third, the sister used a large part of the family's money to invest in stocks and real estate, and also made a lot of money.
In this way, within two years, the two of them had a more prosperous life than before, and her mother-in-law could no longer say anything.
In fact, why should women be embarrassed by women?
As a woman, you should still be self-reliant and self-reliant in order to gain the respect of others.
In a family, whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or not, the man is the key.
As husbands and sons, they have a responsibility to lubricate from the middle.
The most feared thing is to meet pig teammates, will not solve the contradiction, and pour oil on the fire is a master.
It is said that home and everything is happy, if there is a husband who does not act, I am afraid that there will never be a peaceful day in the family.
Will you also choose to live with your in-laws after marriage?
