Children are the most adorable when they are 2-6 years old, and parents and kindergarten teachers are their idols, who can express their wishes and demands and obey their parents and teachers. After entering the primary school stage, due to the problem of academic burden and the child's playful nature, parents began to have some anxiety, because of learning habits and academic performance problems caused by the chicken flying dog jumping things in the family from time to time, but the child is still young, the words of the parents are done, you can't figure it out, you slowly think about it.
With the increase of the child's age, after entering puberty, the child's emotions will gradually make the parents unpredictable, the emotional changes are somewhat inexplicable, unwilling to communicate with the parents, is a veritable "dog ignores" and "ten thousand people hate", often the parents a sentence and its usual question will trigger the child's emotional fluctuations, I don't know which nerve triggered the child. If parents do not understand the psychological changes of children during this period, or follow the educational methods of children's early childhood and primary school, and impose their own will on their children, it is easy to trigger personal conflicts and even vicious events. In general, adolescent children want to pour gasoline firewood, one point. The formation of this extremely sensitive psychology is multifaceted, there is academic pressure, there is also physical anxiety, if the parent-child relationship continues to be tense, some negative emotions if it has not been released, it is very easy to cause depression to occur, then parents must be clear, not the child is not well-behaved, but the child is sick, in the family education parents must maintain extreme patience, do not add fuel to the fire when the child has symptoms of depression, do not act as the last straw to crush the camel, The pathology that occurs in the growth of children needs time to heal, and in fact, many parents of children are still constantly exerting pressure in the name of love, and the continuous deterioration of parent-child relationship will push children into the abyss.
Adolescent mild depression is mainly manifested as low mood and abnormal behavior, including inexplicable physical discomfort, extreme thinking, like to be alone, difficult to communicate with others, and even violent tendencies and self-harm and self-abuse. Depressed mood is not equal to depression, then the child only appears a sad, irritable inexplicable mentality, is the surrounding repressive environment and stimulation of an emotional stress response, if the parents of the child more appreciation and tolerance, less blame and complaint, the child's depression will gradually be alleviated.
On the contrary, if parents are not aware of this pathology of their children, blindly complaining that their children are not self-disciplined enough and do not work hard enough, the child's condition will worsen and develop into major depression, at this time you have to go to the doctor and seek long-term drug intervention.
The main manifestations of major depression are: a headache after reading a book, it is uncomfortable to return to school and classroom, you can only take a break from school to go home, even at home can not read and study, you can only do some leisure and brainless activities, insomnia and dreams at night, wake up early in the morning but can not get out of bed, the brain is groggy, even severe headaches, inexplicable inferiority feeling, feeling that the future is boring, obsessive-compulsive disorder, standing at the water's edge, tall buildings and cliffs have the impulse to jump, life and death are only in a flash, and then suicidal behavior.
I have seen too many such children, parents are easy to misjudge, always think that the child is not hard enough self-discipline, the baby's heart is bitter, the pain in the heart is only known to themselves. Depression has caused serious harm to children, which should arouse the great attention of parents and parents, especially mothers must not keep nagging in the name of love all day long. If love only brings harm, really don't. If once a child sees you as an enemy and closes his eyes and ears, what is the point of your teachings? Parents should reflect on what causes your child's depression, accompany the child to outdoor exercise without talking about learning, just infiltrate your ideas into him when the child is in a good mood, think more, eliminate the child's worries, share worries for the child, appease the child's pain and anxiety, as far as possible to avoid the emergence of adolescent depression or accelerate the healing of depression, so that the child can get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible.