I believe that many parents are deeply touched:
The teacher's words are simply holy will for children, not only will they listen attentively, but they will also be carried out to the letter!
On the contrary, mom and dad's words, that's air! Whether you're talking nicely or badly, don't listen! Don't listen! Just don't listen! What can you do with me? Many parents are helpless and can only scare their children with teachers...
Why is there such a sharp contrast? What exactly do teachers rely on to gain the awe of their children? What is the real reason behind this?
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The teacher sets clear rules for the child
And parents didn't
The school teacher clearly stipulates what the child must do and what cannot be violated.
At school, teachers require children to arrive at school on time, dress neatly, sit in a correct posture, understand politeness, and say hello when they see the teacher! When you go to class, you should prepare books and pens, take notes carefully, listen carefully to the class, actively raise your hand to answer questions, and complete homework as required after returning home from school.
No snacks, no mobile phones, no swear words, no hands-on fights, no small notes, no small actions, no ear to ear in class, no influence on others to listen to, no copying homework, no cheating on exams...
It is precisely because of such a set of rules that the teacher will not be helpless in the face of dozens of children in the class, and can control the overall situation.
And parents, think back to whether there is such a set of regulations in your own home, and if so, how high is the implementation rate?
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The teacher clearly honored the reward and punishment
The rules written on the paper are empty words, and only those that are really put into practice are the rules.
In school, the implementation of rules is reward and punishment. Teachers don't make easy promises to their students, but once they do, they will keep them.
For example, from kindergarten onwards, there are small red flowers that we love and hate. Children who perform very well, the accumulation of small safflower will become large safflower, and even the real safflower with fragrance ~ ~ ~ let the child's little vanity get great satisfaction.
What about parents in most families? More often than not, it is easy to promise and never to be fulfilled.
I don't know if your family often stages such a situation, such as in order to let the child complete the homework quickly, tell the child that as long as he can complete the homework before eating, he can play with the children. The result? The child thinks about finishing his homework as soon as possible and going out to play, so-so it is not easy to finish, waiting for you to check all the mistakes. Suddenly angry, going out to play? No way.
Children's homework procrastination is the most distressing thing for many parents, in order to urge children to finish their homework quickly, have you ever promised him anything? For example, after writing homework, you can watch TV? In order to be able to watch TV, the child seizes the time to write quickly, and after writing it, you take out a workbook...
In order to encourage their children to study well, some parents say to their children, if you enter the top few in this exam, they will buy you an IPAD, and the child will try his best to test for the IPAD, and enter the top few, but they will not be rewarded.
In fact, there are many undesirables for the above commitments, for example, some things are the child's own business and must be done, at this time, there should be no promises, and rewards for the child. There is also the fact that when you casually promise but do not keep it, this will erode the child's trust and respect for you little by little, and after accumulating, your credibility will naturally decrease.
The reward is only one aspect of the rule, and more importantly, the reward is honored.
In school, if a child makes a mistake in some way, the teacher will punish him in a timely manner according to the rules.
For example, if a student cheats, his grades will be canceled, and even criticized in front of everyone in the school, and in severe cases, he will not even be able to graduate successfully.
On the other hand, children treat the rules as if they were nothing in front of their parents. This is mainly because as soon as the child makes a fuss, the parents will give in softly, and in the long run, the so-called rules in the mouths of the parents are just empty words written on the paper.
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The teachers set a good example for the children
Teachers convey positive, positive images to children, and teachers generally demonstrate in advance before asking children to do things. In contrast, many parents often think of themselves as outsiders, only knowing what to ask their children to do, but never asking themselves.
The school requires that students cannot be late, and the class teacher, the teacher on duty, and the principal lead by example, waiting for the students at the school gate or class door early. Teachers who are not on duty will also go to the office in advance to prepare the materials and tools for the class, and when the class bell rings, they will appear on the podium on time.
Teachers require students not to speak casually in class, and they are also strict with themselves, and they cannot answer the phone during class.
The teacher asked the students to complete the homework on time, and they also worked overtime to complete the homework and examination papers, and timely feedback the situation to the students.
Moms and dads forbid their children to play games and mobile phones, and the result? Holding the mobile phone all day long, even eating can't help but touch it a few times, just imagine, how can this prevent children from playing with mobile phones?
Ask your child not to watch TV, and what happens? When the child writes homework, he watches TV in the living room by himself, and even laughs, just imagine, how can the child study with peace of mind?
Ask the child to write homework seriously, be self-motivated, go home from work but directly go to the mahjong table, even the time to cook for the child, just imagine, how to let the child get positive energy from you?
Teachers set good examples for children, they lead by example, so when teachers criticize students, they are willing to listen, because the teacher does better than he does!
Some parents not only fail to set an example for their children, but are typical of negative education. At this time, if you ask the child, it will stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, you can't do it yourself, but also ask me to do it?
Children are not born rebellious and disobedient, as long as parents communicate with their children in the right way and make a positive role model for their children, I believe that children will definitely be obedient!