After experiencing the encouragement of only children in the 70s, to the current two-child and three-child opening to encourage multiple births, the policy is changing with the social situation, but people's hearts are also changing with social progress, before trying to give birth to one more, but now willing to give birth to only one. In addition to economic reasons, many parents feel that having a second child is "cruel" to a child, because one more child is bound to divide a part of love and material, and the only child can enjoy all the love from the parents and everything from the family.
For one-child families, their lives will indeed be envied by many people, spiritual and material sufficiency, and parents will share everything for them, but in the long run, can their living conditions remain unchanged? After 40 years, they enter the ranks of middle age, facing a series of "mid-life crises", when the parents are dying of old age, then this part of the life of the only child may begin to have two different divisions.
Mr. Liu from Hubei is 45 years old this year, his job is not stable, he has recently been under great pressure, his parents are more than 70 years old, his health is getting worse and worse, two children one goes to college and one goes to high school, and he has to use money in all aspects. Because he is an only child, Mr. Liu has not suffered any hardships since he was a child, although his parents are ordinary workers, he also tries to give him the best, and he has always had the help of his parents after marriage. When he was young, Mr. Liu had a very easy life, but in middle age, the real crisis came, and his parents, children and work were like three mountains.
But the 42-year-old Mr. Li is completely different, he is a company executive, the job is stable and manageable, the parents are also in good health, and the two elderly also have pensions, do not need him to worry too much. The child goes to school in the key high school, the results are also very good, usually the child lives in the school, the parents also live alone, Mr. and Mrs. Li go out to travel in their leisure time, and life is not comfortable.
It can be seen that for the only child family for the parents of the pressure is relatively small, and the life of the only child is much better than the family of many sisters, the strength of the whole family is a child, in a short period of time it seems that life is very relaxed, but after 40 years, when the parents are old, the child has become an adult, then this part of the life of the only child will indeed show a polarizing trend.
Some people are facing old parents and in-laws to support, but also to bear the child's schooling and various burdens, financial pressures and life pressures emerge; the other part of the people still live very well, without the pressure of these aspects, life is still easy and rich, the reasons for these two situations are nothing more than the following.
The most basic is the economic reason, if this part of the only child family economic conditions are better, there is enough ability to cope with the life of family members and medical expenses, especially the parents have formal jobs, there are pension blessings after aging, the economy will not drag down the children, then the life of this part of the people will not change much. On the other hand, if the family economic conditions are relatively average, and there is not enough economy to support certain changes, then life will gradually become difficult when many pressures come.
Then there is family education and their own situation, if the parents are cultivated when they are young, have certain academic qualifications and abilities, and also have stable work support or other talents, know how to be self-reliant and self-reliant, then this part of the only child has also been working hard, life will naturally not be too bad, and it will be better able to resist the pressure from all sides. However, there are also some only child families that carry out "doting education", so that they have been growing up in a pampered environment, the sense of struggle is relatively poor, the work is unstable, and when all the pressure of the family is pressed on a person, it will be overwhelmed.
The last very critical is the physical condition of the parents, if the parents are relatively healthy, self-care ability, and they have a certain economic foundation, then this will be a great way to reduce the burden of the only child, they can also concentrate on the work to support the family; if the parents are not in good health, often sick and hospitalized, they have no economic foundation, on the one hand, the children have to bear too much economic pressure, which will affect their work and life.
Of course, the series of problems faced by only children are not all because of the only child, and family education also has a very far-reaching impact on the future of only children. Parents should cultivate their children's independent ability from an early age, so that they should not rely too much on their parents and have the courage to dare to solve problems; at the same time, parents should not spoil their children too much, let their children develop good character and character, have a better ability to deal with the world, have the correct three views and the will to be self-reliant.
The life of an only child has mixed advantages and disadvantages, but there is no guarantee that families with many children can be exempted from this series of troubles, and now the two-child and three-child policy has been opened up, whether born or not, in the end, it is necessary to combine their own conditions in all aspects to decide.