In the old age, it is a "bloody storm".
You will have conflicts with your children, you will have conflicts with your wife, and even you will provoke a lot of right and wrong, making you helpless and embarrassed.
If people are still relatively young and have the ability and energy, then we naturally will not be afraid of any contradictions in life, and it is a big deal to start over.
However, when people are old and have no time and no energy, then we will be afraid of everything in life, let alone start all over again, and we will not even be able to take risks.
The reason why there will be a "bloody" crisis in the old age is because we are old, there is no room for turning, as long as the next step is wrong, then the subsequent life will be completely ruined.
There is a saying that "life is like a chess piece, one wrong step, one wrong step." ”
In the early years of life, it was a flexible chess game, taking any wrong step, at most just not making money, not finding a good job, no big deal.
And the life in the later years is a dead cycle of chess, as long as there is a problem in which step, what awaits us can only be the pain and lament of loneliness and old age.
I thought that I could be safe in my old age with money, but I didn't know that no matter how much I saved, I also needed to grasp these few life-saving straws.
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First of all, we must "make good relations" with the people around us.
The daily relationships and feelings paid are all for the purpose of "pocketing" at some point in the future. Behind all relationships is an invisible network investment.
Have a good relationship with relatives who have not hurt us, do not easily offend them, and do not have too much psychological burden. In fact, it is still possible to find two or three relatives with true feelings.
Make a good relationship with the children around you, don't worry about what they have done in the past, we all need to think from their point of view, at least, it is better to have children around than to have no children around.
Make a good relationship with your wife, you will be surprised to find that the original wife is the person who is closely related to our interests in this world. To be good to them is to be good to ourselves.
People are old, in fact, there is no need to care about the so-called face. What love and hate, what small favors and small grudges, can leave them in the past. All we have to do is to build a virtuous network of relationships in later years, and we cannot live like an island.
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Second, we must have the wisdom of "three or seven points".
At any time, we need "three or seven points" to deal with the world. These three-seven-point law can be applied in all situations of life.
In the matter of spending money, we can't spend all the money, seven points of enjoyment, three points of storage, then it will be enough. At the very least, give yourself a guarantee.
In the matter of communication, we can't leave the sincerity to others, seven points of truth, three points of hiding, that is enough. At least, grasp a degree, the relationship can be more long-lasting.
In the matter of diet, we can't eat too much, we can't eat too little, seven points of food and clothing, three points of spare, that is not bad. At the very least, give the body a little room for digestion, and that's the solution.
For "three or seven points", most people do not understand, why can't we do "ten points"? Why can't we get closer to perfection?
There is no perfection in this world, and there is no perfection. Whoever it is, there will be flaws. That being the case, as long as we achieve "seven points", we can basically embrace the stability and happiness of our old age.
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Third, we must know how to "live for ourselves."
Once we talk about "living for ourselves", basically 90% of people will oppose it, thinking that living for themselves is too selfish, and that it is noble and dedicated to live for others.
In fact, we can also accept this view, because everyone's choice is free.
However, we only have seventy or eighty years in this life, if we have not lived for ourselves in our whole lives, but have interfered in the lives of others, then our lives will not be meaningless?
As far as getting a trip is concerned, some people want to go around and see it to make up for their regrets in the early years. However, they finally stayed in order to take their grandchildren, and until the day they returned, they could not fulfill such a wish.
If there is reincarnation in this world, and we live like this every lifetime, then isn't our whole life like a meaningless "puppet"?
In the old age, there is no need to think too important of themselves, and there is no need to live completely for others, put the "seven points" of the mind on themselves, and live happily, is it not worth it in the world?
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Finally, no matter how much you save, it is not as important as good living habits.
No matter what age we are, we need to maintain good habits.
If you can go to bed early and get up early, you must not stay up late; if you can eat grains and grains, you should not eat any mountain treasures and seafood all day; if you can exercise in time, you must not hide at home.
The human body is a flesh and blood machine, and to put it ugly, there will be a day when it will fail. We can't change the outcome of a failure, but we can delay a failure.
Some people fall ill in their fifties, which is the consequence of overdraft; some people leave in their sixties, which is also a kind of helplessness; some people can still jump in their seventies, which is real luck.
Life is a long run, running fast, can only return as soon as possible. And if you run regularly, you can survive longer in the journey of life and laugh to the end.
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