The 5-year-old child was "dissuaded" 3 times, the kindergarten teacher told the truth, and the parents did not take it seriously

My daughter attends the same kindergarten as a neighbor's little boy.

When I went to pick up the child from school, I found the neighbor Bao Mom talking to the kindergarten teacher, but Bao Mom seemed very emotional and kept shouting at the teacher.

I thought to myself, this child will not be "dissuaded" again. Sure enough, when I got home, the neighbor boy came to play with his daughter, and as soon as he opened his mouth, he said that my mother was going to change kindergartens for me.

I sighed silently in my heart, this is the 3rd time.

The neighbor boy is 5 years old and can say at home that "clothes come to open his mouth, food comes to reach out". Mom and Dad hardly wanted him to do anything, and helped with everything.

My daughter is more than one year old and can use chopsticks to pinch peanuts, he grew so big that the spoon is not very good, and he has to be fed for eating. My daughter can carry her own pants when she goes to the toilet when she is 2 years old, and she can wear her own clothes when she is 3 years old. But he opened his mouth and called out to his mother, never done it himself.

After going to kindergarten, his mother not only did not teach him these life skills, but also asked the teacher to help him in all aspects. Even if this is it, the child hardly knows how to get along with the child, everything must be dependent on him, see his favorite toys to grab, grab but fight.

This made his classmates and teachers not like him very much. The first kindergarten was only one semester old, and the teacher refused on the grounds that the child was too young.

At the second kindergarten, the teacher kindly reminded the neighbors and parents to guide and educate the children. However, Bao Mama felt that the teacher's work was not responsible, and she was directly in the group. Before staying for a month, the child was successfully "dissuaded".

This is the third kindergarten, and Bao Mom still feels that her children are no problem, it is someone else's problem. The teacher talked to her, and she was angry and went back in anger. The angry teacher said that the kindergarten does not accept children who cannot take care of themselves.

The neighbor's mother was again trying to change the kindergarten for the child. Kindergarten is easy to change, what can children do when they go to primary school after this? Is it also exchanged in this way?

When I chatted with the kindergarten teacher, the teacher also sighed and told the truth, in kindergarten, this is when children learn life skills, cultivate their own dress, eat, understand politeness, and get along with their classmates. The child's parents hope that the teacher can be a nanny and help to do a good job. Even if the kindergarten teacher is used to you, and this child goes to elementary school, does the teacher get used to it?

After listening to the teacher's words, I deeply agreed. In the first few years of school age, the child has mastered life skills, so that when he enters primary school, he can study with peace of mind without having to toss back and forth because of these small things.

The teacher also said that the child usually lost too many opportunities to exercise, resulting in his large movements and fine movements being imperfectly developed. The other children are very coordinated in everything they do, but he seems to be "clumsy" and messes up everything. Social skills can not keep up, parents continue to spoil like this, the future loss is the child himself.

Yes, too spoiled children, it seems to be "for his own good", but in fact, it brings deep harm. The child has been in kindergarten a few times, and he has no idea at all?

No! Children will also doubt themselves in their hearts, feeling that it is because they are not doing well that they have led to being dissuaded. The seeds of inferiority were sown silently.

Therefore, parents, if they want their children to adapt to kindergarten and adapt to society in the future, they must be "fierce" and not too spoiled and spoil their children.

During the chat, the teacher also mentioned that if they do not want their children to "suffer" in kindergarten, parents should be prepared for the following 3 points.

Learn to express what you have to say

I believe that many parents will have such an experience: as soon as the child encounters something, he will start crying, and the parents will turn around in a hurry, and then guess one by one, guess the child correctly before stopping crying.

Because children get along with their parents day and night, many habits parents understand, so they can guess the child's mind. But the teacher has to bring so many children, and the energy is limited, it is impossible to guess the mind of each child.

Therefore, if children want to get the right help, they must learn to express themselves clearly. For example, when you are thirsty, you want to drink water, you want to take off your clothes when you are hot, you have to go to the toilet when you hold back urine, and you have a cold knee pain. Only when the child describes it clearly with the teacher in detail, the teacher knows what to do.

And if the child can't express it, he will only cry and lose his temper, and only he is wronged.

Familiarize yourself with kindergarten routines in advance

Children aged 2-3 years will have "separation anxiety" about being separated from their parents and a fear of going to an unfamiliar place. If parents don't say anything and send their children directly to the kindergarten, this will make it difficult for children to adapt, and they will become particularly vulnerable and anxious because of separation.

I also took my daughter on a tour of the kindergarten, so she could see what life was like in the kindergarten and get acquainted with the environment. He also told her that every day after school, I was waiting for you at the door.

The child is familiar with these things, and after going to the garden, he immediately adapts. Unlike other children, it was better to cry for ten days and half a month.

Teach your child how to get along with his classmates

I asked my daughter, what if you want to play with someone else's toy in kindergarten?

My daughter thought about it and said, I will ask her if you can borrow me to play for a while.

I asked again, what if she wouldn't?

My daughter then replied that I would exchange them for other toys or snacks.

Well, that's a good idea, but it's her beloved toy, and she still can't lend it to you?

My daughter folded her hands and said, then there is no way, I have to play something else, and I will play when she is willing to borrow me.

I then asked, what if other children want to borrow your toys?

Borrow if I want to, and don't borrow if I don't.

What if the other party grabs it?

I would stop it loudly and say, this is my toy and you can't grab it! You can go play something else. Or ask a teacher for help.

I was relieved to hear her answer. When children socialize, they are often more self-centered. Coupled with insufficient language skills, they can easily achieve their goals in simple and rough ways. However, the "little bully" is generally unpopular, which in turn leads to children not being social and producing inferiority complex.

Therefore, we should teach children more, how to get along with children, and improve social skills. For example, to be polite, love hygiene, queues, etc. Don't be afraid to be bullied, be brave enough to stop it loudly, and seek help from teachers and classmates. This can help children adapt to group life and enhance self-confidence.

I don't want my child to be "guilty" when I enter kindergarten, but I think it's really important to familiarize myself with it in advance and improve my adaptability and social skills.

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