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01 After defeating 6 women, this man finally belongs to me?
Xu Li is 37 years old and product manager.
I met him at a cocktail party, and he was the business manager of the company I worked with, not only with high emotional intelligence, but also with strong business ability. The main one is very handsome and is my favorite type.
I have been with him for a year and a half, and I have successively invested 500,000 in him, when he said that he wanted to start a business for our future, the project was very good and the return on investment was very high, thinking that sooner or later he would get married, he gave him 500,000 to start a business.
Until, one weekend night, he drank too much, I inadvertently glanced at his mobile phone, are 12 o'clock still news? Unable to resist curiosity, I opened his phone.
I found out that he was in contact with 6 women at the same time besides me. They have been together for the longest 3 years, and the 3 months of recent dating are 20 years younger than him.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a man spending time, on the contrary I think his ability to attract women 20 years younger than him is his ability and proves that there is no problem with my vision.
Several of us were not far away, and the farthest taxi from me was only 10 minutes. They also spent a lot of money for him, the most of which was 500,000 yuan, and one of them not only spent 170,000 yuan to start a business for him, but also lost a child for him.
And he would go to a different person's house every Monday to weekend to spend the night, sometimes the evening arrangement could not be opened, and he would choose to meet during the day. I even foolishly thought that he had returned to his parents' house in filial piety.
When I told him that I knew he was splitting his legs, I didn't expect him to be stunned at first, and then he directly admitted it, and said that he had planned to break it off with them a long time ago, but he hadn't had time to say it yet.
I don't believe his, after all, the most recent one has only known him for 3 months.
However, he wept bitterly in front of me, saying that at the beginning he did deceive me, and it was his fault that he let me be a third party, but he only loved me now, and everyone else was playing a trick. Seeing that I did not respond, he actually knelt down and begged me, saying that the boy had gold under his knees, and I was really distressed to see him like this, and I forgave him for a moment of softness.
I watched him come to me every day for the next few days. I also began to feel that he really had a heart for me.
He said he didn't delete the women because he had lent them money and would have to pay them back later. I used to think that if he really took care of it, I would help him cut off these women, but then I felt that it would take some time to test.
Until a month later, he told me that the project he had invested in had an accident, and he suddenly had more than 3 million foreign debts. He wanted me to borrow some more money from him.
And part of the fund I just invested in can be redeemed immediately, there is a 200,000, but thinking of his previous leg splitting problem, I hesitated whether to give this money or not to give?
02 Knew 3 months of flash marriage, until the door of the reminder did not know that he was deceived
Aya is a professional manager in Shanghai who has accumulated nearly 10 million assets through business in the early years.
But at the age of 30, she has a face and money, and the requirement for her other half is that the economic conditions must be above herself.
So in 2011, she spent 80,000 yuan to participate in a high-end marriage on a well-known dating website.
The site matched her with 4 quality men, and she chose Lin Chuhan, a divorced man who does business in Guangzhou.
According to the data, Lin Chuhan was born in 1977, a Canadian national, a successful businessman, and has a villa property on the shore of Coral Bay in Guangzhou.
After the two met, Lin Chuhan said that he was engaged in maritime work, and he lived abroad with his children in the early stage, and there was basically no contact.
At first, Aya did not have any special feelings for Lin Chuhan, but as the contact slowly came down, the patience and gentlemanliness of the other party, gentleness and willingness to spend money were gradually impressing Aya.
Even in 2012, Aya quit her job and went to Guangzhou to live with Lin Chuhan.
When he arrived in Guangzhou, Lin Chuhan took Aya to visit several of his mansions, and changed cars every time he went to a place, his luxury cars totaled 11, which made Aya believe that he had really met the masonry king Lao Wu.
Aya moved into his villa worth more than 30 million yuan on the shore of Coral Bay and began a cohabitation life.
Soon, Aya became pregnant, and Lin Chuhan also showed a responsible attitude to the end, which made Aya more convinced of this man.
At this time, they had only known each other for less than 3 months, met only 7-8 times, and even Lin Chuhan's parents had not yet met.
Aya offered to meet Lin Chuhan's parents, and he said that his parents were in Canada, and they were very busy, and their mother was not in good health and could not take a long-distance flight.
Since Aya is pregnant, their children can be admitted to Canada, and the marriage procedure can be done in Canada.
In July 2012, Aya got the Canadian "marriage license" of the two people, and two months later, her son was born.
At this time, Lin Chuhan's business encountered a shortage of funds and borrowed money from Aya.
Thinking of being husband and wife and having money of her own, Aya began to help Lin Chuhan.
The first time he borrowed 800,000 yuan, until the end of 2014, Lin Chuhan had borrowed nearly 8 million yuan from her, and then he disappeared, until the rent collection came to the door, she did not know that she had been deceived.
It turned out that Lin Chuhan's real name was Lin Moubin, who had been married as early as 2009, and the single rich people were all fake. Not only are the 60 million villas rented, but the properties visited by Aya are also rented...
03 The house that paid off the mortgage for 2 years does not belong to me
Lily, 29, is a bank clerk.
Here's what she said:
When I met Lao Liu, I was just 24 years old and had just graduated from college.
Lao Liu was my leader, and when I first entered the industry and didn't know anything, it was he who patiently taught me the rules of the workplace.
He's 10 years older than me, from Beijing, married for 7 years when we first met, and has a 6-year-old daughter.
When we talk, we also talk about his wife. I found that he was not happy at all, his wife was fierce every day, and called him back at twelve o'clock on time, and they were married because of an unexpected pregnancy. His wife also has an ex-boyfriend who is in regular contact.
He also told me a lot, that his daughter-in-law is also a bit of a loser, mahjong a dozen small losses of thousands, big losses of tens of thousands.
However, the daughter is very sensible, and he said that even if she divorces, she will have to wait until the children go to college.
I didn't expect that such a good person would not be cherished, and slowly I began to feel sorry for him.
From time to time, I made an appointment, and gradually I found myself in love with him, and when I confided my thoughts to him, I didn't think that he also liked me.
So we started together, and he would take time out of my place on weekdays, but on weekends he would go back to take care of his daughter.
Thinking that such a responsible father is not cherished, I want to hug him even more.
When we were together for 3 years, he told me that he wanted to buy a house, and it turned out that the house he was living in now was purchased by his parents, but in order for us to get married in the future, he also needed a house, and he also told me that he wanted to divorce and marry me when his daughter finished elementary school.
I was so touched that I couldn't imagine that he was willing to put his daughter aside for me.
He said he wanted to write the house in my name, and we would pay off the mortgage together. But I wasn't qualified to buy a house in Beijing at the time.
So, the house was written in his name, he paid a down payment of more than 1 million, at this time the savings were very few, and he still had to support the family, I proposed that I pay the mortgage, anyway, this house is mine sooner or later.
But who would have thought that after I paid my mortgage for 2 years, he would suddenly tell me that his wife knew about the house.
His wife suddenly came to me and said she wouldn't divorce him and the house wouldn't be given to me.
And I found Lao Liu, Lao Liu just said let me wait, wait for him to deal with, look at the man in front of him who is overwhelmed, and then look at the mortgage bill that has been paid for 2 years, and instantly feel stupid.
04Why women are willing to spend money on men with a dead heart
1. To prove that I love you
I have seen such a sentence on Weibo before: There is only one reason why women are willing to spend money for men: in her heart, you are more important than money.
In love, women feel that only unreserved giving is true love, so spending money for a man is proving their love for him.
Spending money for a loved one is actually an instinctive impulse. Spending money is an ability to love him.
And in the process of investment, there will be love, and the more you invest, the more you love. The more a woman invests in a man, the more she can't put it down.
Just like Xu Li, she has invested 500,000 yuan for the other party, and these 500,000 have not yet seen the return, and the return she wants is naturally that he marries her.
Because of the man's leg-splitting behavior, she began to doubt whether the other party could keep her promise, but at the same time, she felt in her heart that she had defeated 6 women and become the only one of men, and she was the other party's true love.
So, she got tangled.
Engagement is the most important catalyst in a relationship, and people are more willing to guard the fruits of their efforts.
The more they invest in a relationship, the harder it is to give up on it. This is similar to what economics calls "sunk costs."
2, in order to prove that they are independent enough
Women spending money for men in love is not only an expression of love, but also a way to maintain the right to speak, and a way to reduce each other's burden.
And they worry that they are too dependent on each other in the economy and lose their voice.
In the process of falling in love, it will not blindly ask for it, or enjoy the man's pay for it, but is very reciprocal and willing to pay for this feeling.
3. Have a certain economic strength
Many modern women live a rich life, not only enough for their own lives and expenses, but also extra money to invest in love.
They don't care who must pay in the relationship, and out of love for the man, they will take the initiative to bear most of the expenses.
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