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"Xi Bao": "To be a woman, you have to make it like a painting, don't make a dress, be tried and tried by men, but no one buys it, try to cripple the old, and it is difficult to sell it at a 50% discount." ”
While this parable is somewhat hurtful, it is not without reason. Love is such a thing, the number of spelling is never as good as the quality of the fight.
If you are the kind of person who has a "counting habit", no matter what the quality of love, you only want to compare the number of people with others, more than whose number of loves, in order to brag about yourself reading countless people, so that crazy love, it is not impossible, as long as you do not hurt people.
But if you are not such a person and want to talk about a relationship without breaking up, then you should pay attention to the quality of love.
Attaching importance to the quality of love, there are two key points to grasp: one is to manage yourself and manage yourself well; the other is to choose someone who really loves you together.
Although the reason is simple, some people have never been able to apply theory to practice, fainting as soon as they fall in love, being dumped and worried, their shoes wet countless times, and still walking along the river.
The following reader's complaint about his ex-girlfriend is about this aspect, let's listen to their stories together.
Hello Mr. Donglin:
I've been upset lately because I turned down my ex-girlfriend's marriage proposal. I rejected her because she hurt me too much.
I don't know if she's really stupid or fake stupid, so big a person that she can't even tell the difference between good and bad. I was really good to her, others just pretended to be good to her, but she abandoned me and threw herself into the arms of others.
She was dumped by the scumbag and turned back to me and asked if I would still like to marry her, what can I say? It's easy to say "yes," but I really don't want to say it because I've been fooled once.
She had made similar mistakes before we met, always refusing to turn away men, and she would accept whoever came after them. Failed again and again, still did not learn well, did not learn lessons.
I looked at her pitifully, always with her, and after slowly sparking out, love made me faint, thinking that she might have just met someone unladylike before, not her problem. I thought that I was in love with her and had always been good to her, and she would not go back to the old way.
If we are not in love, I can accept that she ran away with someone else; the key is that we are already in a relationship, what is the matter with her running away with others? Think I'm a good bully don't you? Think I should turn into a prairie on my head?
Just like the clothing samples in the store, anyone can try it on, others will leave after trying it, buy it and then return it, toss it to the end, make it dirty and old, why let me pay as a new dress? Do I only deserve to be the wrongdoer in love?
Is that the case, you say? Someone else tries on me to pay for it, on what basis?
Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:
For women, there are two very simple ways to make men forget you.
The first method: let him love you to death and live, firmly tied to you, inseparable from you.
If you can do this, even if you break up, men can't forget it, and they always think you're the best in memory.
The second method: let him hate you so much that he can't put it down, and if he can do this, men can't forget it either.
This method is best not to use, because harming others will eventually harm oneself, hurting others is an "evil cause", once such a seed is planted, there must be a "bad consequence" waiting for you, sooner or later.
The woman above uses the second method, although she may be unintentional, but for the person who is hurt, it does not matter whether you are intentional or not, because the injury he has suffered is real, the wound has not been healed, and the thought of you is faintly painful.
Sometimes, the people you think are not suitable for you, the people who don't love you, the people you hurt, are the people who really love you. If you don't even leave a way out for yourself, one day when you suddenly wake up and want to turn back, the ex who loves and hates you will not wait for you in the same place, because you have been depreciating in the eyes of the other party.
To be a person, you should be a person who continues to increase in value, and you cannot be a person who is constantly depreciating. There are two criteria for judging depreciation and appreciation, one in your own hands and one in the hands of others.
If you don't intersect with others, you can judge only by your own standards. And if you want to intersect with others, you should also refer to other people's standards. Especially when it comes to love, you should integrate two standards to make yourself grow continuously, so as to usher in high-quality love.