In the traditional concept of the countryside, there seems to be an extraordinary attachment to the succession of generations and the multiplicity of children, even if the family is not rich, it is still difficult to shake the vision of the grandchildren, but this traditional concept is placed in the current view, more and more people have expressed doubts about it, and even think that this is actually an extremely selfish idea.
The growth of children is inseparable from a solid material foundation, but also inseparable from the parents' family affection, blindly just the pursuit of the number of "leading", then the seemingly happy and harmonious warm scene of a family, in fact, are the heartache of reality helplessness, the child is guilty, and family affection has become an excuse to satisfy their own selfish desires.
In a village in Anhui, from the photos taken, it can be said that the family is surrounded by four walls, in a corner of the house, scattered with tools that are usually used for farming, and next to the labor tools there is a broken table with a wood that has long been cracked, on which is messy with a bunch of children's colorful clothes, winter and summer clothes are so chaotic and mixed together, some clothes are even patched, it can be seen that the living conditions of this family are indeed very difficult.
At the same time, a family of 7 people eating noodles in the dim light, one is a white-haired old man, the other is a woman who looks relatively young, plus 5 young children, eating in this simple environment.
The old man looks white-haired and very old, in fact, the insider said that he is only nearly 50 years old, because in the countryside for many years of wind and sun work, so he will look much older than the actual age, but his wife is indeed much younger than him, quite a bit of old husband and wife feeling, which gave birth to 5 children for him.
The dining table is actually a very broken wooden table, some places the wood has long been cracked, the 5 children are said to be the oldest in elementary school, and the children's clothing looks dirty and sloppy, it can be said that it is not as clean as the overalls on the construction site.
The wife and 5 children are pulling noodles in the sullen head, there is only a black and invisible shape on the table, which is most likely to be the leftovers left over from the last meal or even the last meal, it is difficult to imagine that this is the eating environment and standard of a family of seven, which really makes people look sad.
And people with hearts have noticed that even if there is no dish, this uncle still poured himself a glass of white wine, on the leftovers, a mouthful of white wine and a mouthful of dishes, drinking it comfortably, seems to enjoy the warm moment of the family in front of him.
From the perspective of bystanders, it is difficult for us to understand why such a poor family condition still chooses to give birth to so many children, which will not only have a serious adverse impact on the growth of children, but also the economic burden of the couple itself will be very large, but in the face of this question, the uncle did not feel a lot of pressure, and even said that he was ready to continue to work hard to have another child.
This idea shocked the visitor, so he asked the uncle what was the idea and original intention of having so many children, whether he had considered the child's future schooling and life, not that the child was born to eat, raising the child is not raising livestock, to consider their future future, otherwise the child will only repeat the parents' old path when he grows up.
In the face of soul torture, the uncle simply said that with children, life has goals and hopes, and vaguely believes that raising children is poor and poor, rich and rich, and the boat to the bridge is naturally straight, and the problem is not big.
When the video was released, the netizens' attitude towards this was mainly divided into two parts, some people understood the uncle's idea, thinking that the simple rural uncle did have many children and many blessings, and there were not a few people who had this deep-rooted idea.
At the same time, some people criticize the uncle's behavior as irresponsible to 5 children, and even bluntly say that they have fallen into the vicious circle of "the poorer and more raised, the poorer they are", they already have 5 children, and they want to have another one, think about it is terrible, poor these children may not be able to grow up with high quality.
The uncle's idea is very simple and simple, the so-called "there is a child has a head" is a realistic reflection of the idea of many children and many blessings, but children are not so simple as raising puppies and kittens, they are all living people, in addition to material needs, they also have emotional needs.
Parents and children are naturally established by blood relations, in daily life, as parents, should strive to improve the living conditions of their children, and strive to create more superior conditions for their healthy growth, parents' love also needs to be reasonably distributed within their specific ability range, a certain degree of love, in the face of more and more children, this father's love and maternal love will inevitably be diluted.
The most important original intention of having children should be from the perspective of children's growth, rather than starting from their own inner needs, blindly giving birth endlessly, perhaps to meet their own psychological needs for children and grandchildren, but undoubtedly greatly weakened the allocation of resources needed for children's growth.
What's more, there is no problem with running heads, but the number of children has nothing to do with the number of children, not the more children, the greater the number of children, on the contrary, the increasing number of children may make this head add great pressure, so that the affection between parents and children is covered with a hazy unknown shadow.
The uncle is less than 50 years old, life is not as long as we think, in the remaining, uncertain rest of life, as a father, should do their best to give children better conditions for growth, as far as possible to accompany their childhood growth, to leave a precious trace of this family affection may be more meaningful than the pursuit of the number of children.
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