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Many children are trapped at home because of the epidemic online classes, parents are also trapped at home to work from home, the family lives together 24 hours a day, I believe that even the best feelings will be provoked.
Online saw a mother complain about her son, the child is in primary school for 4 years this year, although it is an online class at home, but in addition to online classes, can not see the child consciously learning.
On the contrary, children spend most of their time playing with mobile phones, as long as the mother does not pay attention to the child will secretly pick up the mobile phone to play, playing games, brushing videos has become the child's biggest hobby, sometimes looking at the child's back are trembling and laughing.
The mother said that she also knew that the child played with the mobile phone is not good, often prevented the child from playing the mobile phone, and even confiscated the child's mobile phone directly for a period of time, but the final effect was not obvious.
Children not only did not change the habit of loving to play with mobile phones, but even intensified their secret play. In front of the mother, the child behaves very well-behaved, but the child will keep playing with the mobile phone behind the mother's back.
Children's love to play with mobile phones has become a major heart disease for parents
Nowadays, children have a mobile phone, and mobile phones have basically become the standard for children.
For children with strong self-control, they can also restrain themselves and control the time they spend looking at their mobile phones. But for many children, self-control is very lacking, many children are not able to exercise self-control, once tempted by the outside world's novelty will be unable to extricate themselves.
In the current Internet age, information is very rich, and children can see all kinds of rich lives through mobile phones, which is a very impactful thing for children.
In addition, many software is specially designed for children, such as various game devices, children are constantly upgrading and fighting monsters, it is difficult not to be attracted.
On the other hand, the child's thinking at this stage is in the stage of development, the personality is not fully formed, and the difference between the child's independent thinking and practical ability will cause great trouble to the child.
Children will find answers in the virtual world, and children will be able to obtain a sense of accomplishment in virtual situations.
This is also the main reason why children love to play with mobile phones, and once children develop the habit of loving mobile phones, it will be more difficult for parents to intervene.
Many children love to play mobile phones has become a major heart disease in the hearts of parents, often because of mobile phones and children disputes.
3 "routines" to keep children away from their phones
Although it is not a good thing for children to play with mobile phones, parents should not be regarded as jackals, because as long as parents guide their children in the right way, children can independently stay away from mobile phones.
Step 1: Treat your child's mobile phone play as a normal thing
Some of the children's habits are difficult to change because parents regard these habits as very serious, overemphasize and value them, which leads to children being more concerned and resistant.
Mobile phones have now become a part of people's lives that cannot be ignored, and both men and women, young and old, will use smart phones, which is a social progress and a change in people's lifestyles.
Parents should regard the fact that their children play mobile phones as a very common thing, do not deliberately emphasize and block, and conform to the psychology of children.
Tell the child the message "The mother understands you, the mother will stand with you" from the source, so that the child understands that the parents understand their own behavior.
When parents themselves don't resist, you'll find that children become more comfortable.
Step 2: Make a plan with your child and set a reasonable time to play with the phone
Parents can make plans with their children (here they can express respect for their children's wishes, so that children can get a sense of autonomy), and make a reasonable time plan for daily learning time, mobile phone time, exercise time, etc.
It is best to be able to be accurate to each point in time, so that the child can work hard to complete the day's planned tasks according to the time point.
The schedule allows the child to make it himself, and then it is reviewed by mom and dad, and the two parties adjust for unreasonable time until they reach an agreement.
In this process, the child should complete the set tasks according to the time point, review and summarize every week, and the tasks that are over-completed can be given a certain small reward (such as the accumulation of points in exchange for the length of time spent playing the mobile phone).
When children will cherish the results of hard work, this sense of achievement can increase children's self-confidence and efficiency, and learning will be more engaged.
Step 3: Parents lead by example and create a good environment and role model for their children
Many parents happily play with their mobile phones while teaching their children not to study well. Children are very intelligent, and the two standards of parents will definitely be recognized by them.
A good family atmosphere environment will bring invisible influence to the child, and the parents who love to read and love to read, his child will certainly not be bad.
Parents should lead by example, it is best not to play mobile phones in front of their children, read more books and cultivate themselves, and create a positive environment and role models for their children.
It is better for parents to say 100 sentences than to demonstrate them once in person, because the power of action is always more effective than preaching.
When you want your child to put down the mobile phone to learn, parents may wish to demonstrate in advance, present their best side to their children, so that children understand and understand how they should do and how to do it!
I am Qiyue Mom, a mother of a three-year-old child, and I hope that some of my parenting experiences can be conveyed to you through the platform to provide a little help for your parenting road! You can follow me to learn and grow together!
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