Hello everyone, I'm Seven Joy Mom~
My girlfriend Xiaolin called me most of the night and cried a lot.
Hearing my girlfriend crying on the phone, I thought something big had happened, and in an instant the whole person woke up and immediately bounced up from the bed.
After listening to my girlfriend for half a day, I understood that it turned out that the girlfriend did not bear to yell at the child, the child fell asleep crying, looking at the child whose eyes were crying and swollen, the girlfriend regretted it, the emotion of self-blame came up, and I couldn't help but hide in the toilet and cry and call me to talk.
I know the situation of girlfriends and I also know that girlfriends are not easy, this is not the first time that girlfriends have lost control of their emotions after yelling at their children.
My girlfriend Xiaolin is about the same age as me, and her grades have always been very good since she went to school, and her personality is also very strong. Xiaolin's parents have been working outside for many years to earn money, and Xiaolin has been living with her grandmother in her hometown in the countryside. Because the school is far from home, the girlfriend chose to live in the school since junior high school.
Xiaolin has strong self-discipline, studying very hard, the results in the class have always been among the best, so insisted on the entire junior high school and high school, Xiaolin was successfully admitted to a 985 university, and successfully entered a world top 500 company after graduation.
According to the current conditions, Xiaolin is a proper academic bully, a big winner in life, and her career is prosperous.
After working for 3 years, I met my current husband, and the two people bought a house and got married and had children, and their lives also went to a new level.
Originally thought that Xiaolin's life can always be so happy, soon Xiaolin gave birth to her first child after marriage, Xiaolin herself has suffered from no parental company since she was a child, and that missing psychological feeling makes it difficult for her to forget, so she resolutely does not want her children to go their own way.
In order to be able to give her children a complete and warm childhood, Xiaolin resolutely resigned from the company to become a full-time mother despite everyone's opposition.
She hopes that she will put all the love in her heart into her children, and the money can be earned at any time, but the child's childhood is only once. Xiaolin can sacrifice everything for the growth of children.
To be honest, Xiaolin's courage to break the boat is really admirable, admiring her courage and daring to give up everything she has.
The child has been brought by Xiaolin herself since birth, the in-laws are far away from home and can not come to help, the husband is busy working every day to make money, often need to travel, sometimes a month to go home.
In this way, Xiao Lin began to live alone with a baby, Xiao Lin and her husband can be described as a cloud couple, communication time is very small, and basically rely on mobile phones and videos.
Xiaolin especially loves her children, and she does everything about the children herself, but she can't stand working day and night, and there is no one to talk to in life, and Xiaolin's emotions begin to become very unstable.
When a child is unreasonable or how to coax it is not good, Xiaolin will be very broken.
For example, the last time the child had been entangled with Xiaolin because she wanted to eat sweet candy, but Xiaolin was worried that the child's eating too much candy (the child had already eaten 1) would affect the healthy development of the child's teeth, so she did not give the child a second candy.
Watching the mother put away the candy, the child immediately lost his temper and cried, no matter how Xiaolin coaxed it was useless, the child just did not forgive.
The two people were deadlocked like this for almost 1 hour, Xiao Lin yelled a few words at the child, the child cried sadly, the eyes were crying and swollen, Xiao Lin was angry in her heart, in order not to compromise she insisted on "confrontation" with the child.
The last two people did not let anyone sleep, the child cried and cried on Xiaolin's shoulder and fell asleep, looking at the sleeping child who was still sobbing, Xiaolin was distressed, and the tears flowed down.
Usually has always been the posture of a strong woman, from childhood to adulthood, everything is their own resistance, but when it comes to the child, Xiao lin is still soft-hearted.
This time Xiaolin called me in the middle of the night is also because of a small matter, two people because of the bath this matter and stalemate for half a day, the child does not spare, Xiaolin refuses to give in, the husband can not help on business trips, and at the last moment Xiaolin can't help but yell at the child.
On the surface, it seems that it is the child who is yelling, but in fact, Xiaolin roars out her inner grievances, because every time she needs help, no one can rely on her, and every time she pays all, the child does not appreciate it.
This infinite cycle of monotonous life filled Xiaolin's world, she lost her glamorous job, lost her circle of friends, and even slowly lost her confidence in herself.
Every "Xiaolin" deserves to be respected and loved
I love you very much, but I can't help but yell at you, which is the regret that Xiaolin will say every time.
In fact, if you have also experienced Xiaolin's life, I believe you will be able to empathize with her and especially understand her mood.
When you see the child willful, you will definitely want to restrain yourself, but it is as if another self appears in the body, and you will jump out impatiently, start to fry, and begin to vent at the child.
When yelling at their children, mothers are more venting their negative emotions, and the feeling of powerlessness in our bodies often makes us feel helpless and disappointed, and we can't see the road ahead, which makes people panic and worry.
Every Little Lin who pays silently in the dark is great, because you take most of the responsibility of taking care of your children, and even if you are unwell, you will continue to insist on not causing harm to your children.
As the main force in taking care of their children, mothers have sacrificed their entirety, and their sacrifice and dedication hope that fathers can also see it.
Give your mom the best respect and love when she needs it, and maybe your words will make mom energized immediately.
Writing this article is completely emotional, there are countless little Lin in the world who are experiencing this kind of life, if you just happen to see it, I hope you can feel a little warmth.
After all, the night will always pass, adjust yourself, try to find the most suitable rhythm and life for yourself, and the sun will enter your heart!
What's the moment when you're sad?
I am Qiyue Mom, a mother of a three-year-old child, and I hope that some of my parenting experiences can be conveyed to you through the platform to provide a little help for your parenting road! You can follow me to learn and grow together!
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