When children go to kindergarten, they will cry to a great extent. This is because the child grows up around his parents, and suddenly he has to go to an unfamiliar environment, and he will have "separation anxiety".
A netizen left his child to do homework alone, and secretly used his mobile phone to record the child's homework writing process, which resonated with many parents.
The father said "Hurry up and write son" and went out, and the child really began to write homework.
Then I found that the time that the child actually used for homework was only more than 2 minutes. For the remaining 6 minutes, I was doing unrelated things.
Many netizens said that it was as if they had seen themselves when they were young. But more people who are parents see their own children.
In fact, the situation of this video is very real and very common.
Most children have more or less similar situations in the process of writing homework.
The root cause of this kind of problem is that the child's concentration is not enough, and the ability to learn independently has not yet been developed.
If you want to improve your child's learning efficiency, it is the most important thing to cultivate your child's concentration.
A parent of a primary school student asked for help, saying:
When the child was young, he was particularly smart and praised, but after going to school, he became half-hearted, unable to concentrate in class, always carelessly made mistakes in writing homework, sat in a unstable position, did things inefficiently, was often criticized by teachers, and his grades also declined!
Many parents neglect to cultivate their children's concentration.
According to research, the time period for training children's concentration, 0 to 3 years old is the golden period, 3 to 6 years old also has an effect, the larger the more difficult it is to cultivate.
Before the age of 3, it is the golden period of cultivating children's concentration, at this time the brain has not yet fully developed, habit formation is very fast; after the age of 6, the child's brain development and brain capacity have approached adulthood, and it is more and more difficult to change.
Most Chinese parents, unaware of the importance of developing their children's attention from an early age, realize that the problem will change, but it is too late.
Therefore, the sooner you cultivate your child's "concentration", the better! And benefit for a lifetime!
Why do children have poor concentration?
Many parents will find that their children's concentration is very poor, it is easy to be attracted to other things, and forget what they are doing, which makes parents very headache.
So, why is the child's concentration not good?
First of all, parents should make sure that the child's poor concentration is not a pathological problem, such as imperfect brain development. Second, the reason for the child's poor concentration is largely related to the family.
1. Excessive concern of parents interferes with children
For example, when a child is lying on his stomach reading a book, the parents will directly correct it, affecting the child's behavior and so on, and over time, the child's concentration will be affected and deteriorated.
2. Parents act arbitrarily and rudely interrupt what their children are doing
Some parents have a more ego personality and will always interrupt what their children are doing, affecting their children's concentration and destroying the feelings between parents and children.
3. Parents "induce" their children on the sidelines
For example, parents play games and watch TV or shout on the side, which makes the child's attention shift, which affects the child's concentration maintenance.
Then, the child's poor concentration is also related to his own interests.
Children are often very engaged in doing things that adults think are boring, which is precisely their excellence, and it is difficult for us adults to concentrate on doing boring and boring things.
If we do not participate and do not disturb, the child's various plays in daily life are a good time for high concentration and development.
The topic of cultivating children's concentration is actually how parents can control themselves and not destroy their children's concentration. The child's concentration is protected.
Here are 8 ways for parents to cultivate and protect their child's focus.
Method 1: Let the child complete the learning task in stages within the specified time, and change the timing to quantitative.
If the child can concentrate on completing, the parents should give some encouragement and let him rest for 5-10 minutes. Then complete the following study in the same way. When the child is able to do a good job, the time for the one-time concentrated work can be gradually extended.
In the process of reviewing the question, the child is required to check out the requirements and conditions of the question with a pen to prevent the mind from making mistakes. These can strengthen the child's self-confidence and make him feel that "I can consciously concentrate on doing one thing well."
Method two: usually encourage more, do not interfere with the child to do what he likes to do.
When a child focuses on doing his little handicrafts or observing small animals and forgets to eat, parents must remember not to disturb the child, but patiently wait for him to finish the work. You know, while the child is immersed in his interests, he is inadvertently cultivating his own attention.
Method three: to minimize the number of nagging and reprimanding of the child, let the child feel that he is the master of time.
Teach your child to allocate time, and when he concentrates on doing his homework in a relatively short period of time, he has more time for other things. Children learn to control their own time, have a sense of success, and will do things more confidently.
Method Four: Reading aloud is good for training attention.
Arrange a time (10-20 minutes) every day for children to choose their favorite small articles to read aloud to parents, which is a process that makes children's mouth, eyes, and brains coordinate with each other. In the process of reading, children try not to read wrongly, do not lose reading, and do not read off. His attention must be highly focused and he will continue this training.
Method Five: Create a home learning environment that is conducive to concentration.
On the child's desk, there can only be books and other corresponding school supplies, not toys and food; stationery should be concise. Children like bright colors, exquisite patterns, a variety of functions of the pencil box, the function should be as simple as possible, pencils and erasers should also be simple, single function, to avoid children to play with them as toys; children's study should also be cleaned up concise and bright, young toys should be put away, do not put in a conspicuous place; when children learn, there can be no TV, telephone and other sound interference; parents also try not to go in and out when children are learning, loud interference. In addition, indoor light is also an easily overlooked link, and the soft and moderate light helps children to concentrate and create a quiet and clean environment for children.
Method six: In daily life, do not buy too many toys and books for children.
We often see such a situation, parents buy a lot of toys and books for their children, but children often turn two pages in this book, that book turns two pages, and toys are also, play this for a while, play with that for a while. Too many books and toys will only distract the child.
Method seven: let the child do only one thing at a time, people's attention resources are limited, distributed in different nature of things, will seriously consume the effectiveness of attention, especially the child's attention is developing in the process, while carrying out multiple things, will damage the effective concentration of attention. So turn off the TV even when your child is playing with toys, and don't play music when doing your homework.
Method 8: Play the "self-binding" game with your child and implement this way into your child's life. You can consciously set up situations to help your child enhance their self-discipline under multiple stimuli and follow a step-by-step process.
In fact, in the end, if you want to make your child focused and independent, parents will talk less, observe more, and secretly protect it! Talking too much, on the surface is worrying, loving, but in fact interfering.
If the child is impatient to do things, reading a book for a while can not sit still, often with the child adults can try to reflect and change themselves first, let themselves be quiet for a while, and then observe whether the child's attention has improved!