My son is 4 years old, and there was a time when I didn't know what to do with his crying, clingy, and cautious approach, until I made a test sheet and realized that I had done the wrong way to my son before.
Hello, I am Matt, a family education instructor, advocating experiential family education, advocating scientific parenting and rational parenting.
The topic of conversation with you today is the right way to treat "highly sensitive" children
In the article, Matt uses his son's daily life as an example, because Matt feels that he is very representative in some aspects.
I believe that many parents will be worried about their children's crying, timidity, unsociability, caution and caution, but the child's observation is meticulous, energetic, and sometimes with a toy to chat about an endless behavior overwhelmed, if you have such confusion, don't worry, don't think that the child is not wrong, because, there is another possibility.
The daily life of Matt's teacher's son
Matt's son had many of the behaviors described above, and when he was born, the nurse said that the child must be very protective of himself, because the son had been clinging to the nurse's sister's fingers.
When I was a baby, I didn't know why I cried, I didn't cry cold or hot, I didn't pee hungry, I changed my posture to hug, I sang a lot of children's songs, and then suddenly I didn't cry.
"Oh my God, is it so magical?"
Little by little, the son seemed to be getting stronger and stronger, and one day he said to his mother, "Mom, why have the tips of your fingers turned red?" At one point, he said, "Mom, your hair has changed color." "As a heavy straight male father, Matt didn't find out at all.
Sometimes, the son would say after helping Grandma a little, "Grandma, you have to say thank you." Sometimes, I would also care about all the movements of Grandma, "Grandma, are you going to party with Grandma Wolf today?" "Grandma will say in Yunnan dialect, you are really a little steward."
Once I found that my son was very strict about the dress and pants, the sleeves of the clothes would never be pulled up, even if the weather was very hot, the legs of the pants would not be pulled up, and they must be straightened.
In addition to these, there are many others, such as although he never goes to a dark place, he is not afraid to walk on a glass bridge tens of meters high, for example, he hates that his hands are stuck to things, but he can play in the sand for half an hour.
For example, although he has a lot of toys, his concentration is not affected at all, he can read a picture book for 30 minutes by himself, and he can also draw several modern Impressionist watercolor strokes by himself.
There are too many examples to say, and these behaviors sometimes make Matt teacher confused, until I made a test table and saw a word, which made me understand.
It turned out that they were highly sensitive children
After half a day, there are many young parents who must also want to do this test form, don't worry, let me talk about the results first. After a simple test, one word was obtained – highly sensitive children
What is a highly sensitive child?
The term "highly sensitive" was coined by Elaine Allen, a Doctor of Clinical Psychology in the United States, to refer to a group of people who are born with a keen sense.
According to research, 10% to 20% of children are highly sensitive by nature, and the nervous system in the brain that processes perceptual information is different from the average person, and all sensations will be amplified. These children are born with a keen sense, easy to react emotionally because of a small matter, outsiders will look like children are particularly disobedient and difficult to raise.
Most of these children pay more attention to detail, some will pay special attention to socializing, their emotions are very delicate, if you do not look closely will definitely ignore.
Some children pay attention to natural changes, such as temperature, plants. Some children may think about their own thoughts, you can't ask, or they will have a lot of why waiting for you, some children especially like to make up stories, sometimes too much like the real thing. In addition, most highly sensitive children have a strong sense of compassion.
In the face of such a child, if the way parents get along is not correct, it will lead to the child to amplify the negative emotions, parents will not get a good disciplinary effect, the correct way to get along is also very simple, the key is that parents must pay attention to the child's internal emotions.
That's the right way to do it
The first step is to learn to appreciate your child.
Having a highly sensitive child should be happy because they are naturally meticulous and focused, and if well trained, the future careers are mostly scientists, doctors, lawyers, teachers, artists.
The second step is to master some small tricks.
★ Don't get impatient with your child's emotions, your impatience will aggravate your child's sensitivities.
★ When it is time to discipline, you still have to discipline, don't let go because of the child's crying, you don't care but let the child think that you love him.
★ He must have expectations of himself, so your expectations become in your heart.
★ Don't compare highly sensitive children, because he will really be hurt.
★ Don't make jokes, because he'll take it seriously.
★ The two of you quarrel, don't be in front of the child, otherwise his sensitivity will make him feel that it is because of his own reasons, if it is unfortunate to be seen by the child, then make up for it at the first time.
★ Talk to the child softly, he can hear your tone, and if it changes, he will think a lot.
★ In terms of communication, if he doesn't want to say it, don't push him, as long as you have a little patience, he will say it himself.
Highly sensitive children are somewhat special, so parents should be careful and more patient, maybe it will be a little tired now, but maybe it will give you a big surprise later.
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Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
At the same time, take this book to the child, usually the child also tutors mathematics, sometimes feel that going to cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also apply what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!