When a colleague came to work five months after giving birth, she talked about her almost suffering from depression after giving birth. Colleagues said that after 42 days in the confinement center, the mood is very good every day, but after returning home, the whole person is not good, it is not good to see his husband, he hates his family, and even has the idea of wanting to take his life, and his mood is very depressed.
Later, when the child was 2 months old, she took her back to her mother's house to live, sometimes asked her mother to help watch the child, and she would usually ask her friends to go out shopping for an hour. Don't look at it for an hour, colleagues said that they feel that the whole person is alive, buy a cup of milk tea and desserts, and then buy clothes with friends, eat a meal together, and then the mood becomes very different, and finally rush home to see the baby after shopping.
Until they go to work, it is the mother who helps to take care of the baby together, colleagues said that the postpartum mood must be paid attention to, to learn to regulate, otherwise the emotions are depressed for a long time, it is easy to have serious depression.
Many mothers will have some bad mood after giving birth, but this does not mean that new mothers suffer from postpartum depression. Mothers of bad emotions after childbirth cannot be ignored, but also do not overly amplify emotional problems, and rational treatment can fundamentally solve the problem.
Why are postpartum mothers prone to emotional problems?
Childbirth is undoubtedly a huge challenge for mothers, especially for new mothers of the first child. You have to deal with changes in the shape of the body, pain during childbirth, and various problems with children after childbirth. Different reasons can cause emotional problems for new moms.
Many mothers have emotional problems after childbirth, which has a lot to do with changes in identity. During pregnancy, expectant mothers are mostly the focus of everyone's attention, with the care and pampering of their families. After childbirth, everyone's attention may be focused on the baby, and this sense of disparity will make many mothers feel lost.
At the same time, after the baby is born, the new mother will have obvious discomfort due to the lack of parenting knowledge. Caring for a newborn baby is a hard job, and it's normal for a new mom to feel anxious and nervous.
For how to change the child's diaper, breastfeed, put on and take off clothes, etc., the mother needs to slowly become familiar with it, this process will consume a lot of energy of the mother, especially for the novice mother, may be busy, will be anxious, if the child is sick may also feel worried and anxious.
Occasionally, new moms are depressed and worry about whether they have depression. In fact, this may just be a temporary depression, but if you are affected by "self-feeling" for a long time, you may really be "depressed" after a period of time.
Is postpartum depression?
If a new mother is depressed for a while, don't immediately label herself as "depression", which will only increase her psychological burden, make the bad mood more serious, and eventually suffer from depression.
So new mothers need to learn the right way to self-diagnose postpartum depression. In addition to feeling self, you can also tell if you have postpartum depression through some measurement tools that specifically target postpartum depression.
When I was 2 months after giving birth, there was a period of time when I had a hard time taking care of my baby, and during that time my emotions fluctuated greatly, and my husband felt that I was depressed.
If the postpartum mother has bad mood, she can tell whether she has postpartum depression through some measurement tools specifically for postpartum depression. If the result of the self-assessment is that the probability of depression is high, then mothers need professionals to help them make a detailed diagnostic assessment before making sure.
General postpartum depression is a situation that occurs in many mothers, mostly only temporarily, usually only for a few days, after which it will ease on its own.
Therefore, mothers should not worry too much, which does not mean that they suffer from postpartum depression. However, although the phenomenon of postpartum depression will ease on its own, if the mother's postpartum mood is not alleviated for a long time, and other symptoms are produced, it means that the new mother has postpartum depression. For example, emotions are easy to provoke and angry, when serious, they lose their ability to take care of themselves and take care of their babies, and they are more pessimistic and desperate, and there will be self-injury. If you can identify it early, through active treatment, I believe you can get out of the haze.
How to relieve postpartum bad mood?
New mothers should learn to take care of themselves and adjust in time when they find themselves with emotional problems. If you find that you can't improve, take the initiative to seek help from your family or consult a doctor.
For the bad emotions that appear, the new mother should accept her bad emotions, rather than blindly suppressing them, otherwise the emotions will be more serious. In addition, look for the root cause of bad emotions and learn to adjust correctly. You can leave your baby in the care of your family, make some personal space for yourself, listen to your favorite music, and do something relaxing.
My emotions have been fluctuating during the months I've been with my baby, but I've been breastfeeding. And every time I breastfeed, looking at my daughter's soft and small body, although she is so small that she can't speak, but my daughter looks at me with her big eyes, I can't bear to see the sad side of my face by her. During that time, I would talk to my daughter every day, thinking that time passed very quickly, and every time I was infected by my daughter's laughter, my mood was not so bad.
Breastfeeding is not only about giving her child nutrition, but more importantly, mothers have emotional resonance in the process of skin contact, eye contact and listening to touch. This will make the new mother get a great sense of psychological satisfaction, because only if the mother's state is good, the child can get the best understanding and care.
Hanni's mother's message:
After giving birth, the new mother is busy at the beginning, and will lose a certain degree of freedom, and when she is not yet accustomed to the role of the mother, there may be a lot of negative emotions, but believe that this situation is only temporary, as long as you actively learn to regulate emotions, over time and the growth of proficiency, everything will get better and better.