With the progress of society, the development of the times, the continuous popularization of mobile phones and computers, we will find that the children around us are holding a mobile phone all day long, or brushing short videos, or playing games, no matter how our parents persuade, exhausting any method is useless, so there are all kinds of bad parent-child relationships, serious and even lead to children's mental health diseases, and now many parents begin to resent games, resentment of mobile phones, it is games and mobile phones that harm their children, but there is no mobile phone, What about the age of no games? We parents will still say that the game console killed her child, all in all, we must find a scapegoat, maybe only in this way, the heart will be comfortable. In fact, they don't know the real reason why children play games, only that blindly strong, of course, will only backfire, so how to do it?
First of all, we have to understand that the child plays games because no one plays with him when he was a child, when he was very young, many families were parents who had to go to work to earn money, grandparents to take care of children, most of the grandparents after all have limited energy, it is not easy to take care of the child's food and drink, so whenever the child is noisy, the grandparents can only compromise, either watch TV, and then look at the mobile phone, and finally play the game, because only these things can make the child quiet, slowly, the children fall in love with the mobile phone, Fall in love with the game, so the reason for all this is because parents do not have good companionship, of course, most of the parents do need to work to earn money, there is really no time to accompany the children, but I want to say that when you leave work, when you are busy with work, when you have the conditions, try to accompany your children to play, or take them out to see the world, after all, companionship is the best love for children, some people say that they are tired after work, there is no energy and no time to accompany, remember that the children are your own, and even your continuation. You work so hard today and earn money for your children to have a happy and beautiful life in the future, but how simple and rude you are to them "today", then they will only "repay" you "tomorrow" with double rebellion. So at this time, even if you are tired and bitter, please accompany your child more, (do not look at the mobile phone when accompanying your child) because he needs you. And you will find that when you play with children, slowly, they don't like to play mobile phones and play games. So when you are a child, a mirror of your parents, what he looks like, you are what you are. But what if some children are already fascinated by the game?
How do you make your child realize that playing games all day is a dangerous thing? You have to help him envision the consequences, so I often tell my children, you know why Dad is worried about you playing games? What do you think will be the consequences of playing the game? He said playing games is bad for your eyesight, and then I said, do you want to wear glasses when you go to elementary school? Do you want to know what the consequences are that Dad is worried about? You have to mobilize his ideas to get him involved in the discussion, and I said that dad is worried that I am afraid that you will be addicted, it will be difficult to control yourself, and then then the self-control at that time is gone, this person will not be able to do anything, he will be controlled by the game instead of doing whatever he can do he will lose his freedom. Then from then on he could not do anything well, and even lost meaning to life. Let the child himself to understand the consequences of this matter will be how he will mobilize his own strength to solve the problem, as a parent should be more to trust the child rather than constantly to judge, constantly to discipline, constantly to criticize and in his performance must give him enough rewards, but do not give material rewards, must give him enough positive feedback to affirm him, praise him, this time do not skimp on their own praise, many of our parents like to say the most is " What about other people's children? "I have always praised other people's children, but when it comes to my own children, I am always extremely stingy." I also understand the psychology of many parents who hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, but you must know that only if you continue to encourage and praise your children, children will become dragons and phoenixes step by step. Material rewards will make children become passive, which is a very important element, so don't use bribery to treat children, you just show good mothers to give you two or three games, you just show good mothers will take you to travel, you just perform well, mothers give you money, buy you good food, this method will only form an exchange relationship with children, let children feel that you do not love them, only love academic performance, only love good performance, do not do this. We can't cut a child into a lot of different indicators, and then run a patchwork together to make him a great bully, the right thing to do is to treat it as a person, and then let him have the inner motivation, let him love himself, love this society, make him curious, like to explore, encounter setbacks can solve themselves, at this time you find that you just need to sit back and enjoy its achievements. You take care of yourself, adjust your own inner conditioning more smoothly, make you more sunny and healthier, you will in turn bring better personality influence to the child, and then the child will grow on his own.
Finally, I want to say to you, the child is a mirror of you, his performance is good or bad, all because of your early behavior, so don't blame the child, all from their own point of view, think about what to do, how to solve is the best, poor world parents, I hope that all parents can hope to become a dragon, hope that the daughter becomes a phoenix.