【Epidemic "Heart" Classroom】Psychological Adjustment Tips for Home Online Classes (Police Treasure + Parents)

According to the Texas Police:

In order to conscientiously implement the deployment requirements of the Ministry of Public Security, the Provincial Public Security Department, and the Party Committee of the Municipal Public Security Bureau on caring for the people's police and auxiliary police during the epidemic prevention and control period, the Political Department of the Dezhou Municipal Public Security Bureau organized and produced the "Charging "Epidemic Line" • Strong Police "Heart Energy" Mental Health Series Of Micro-Courses" to help the police and auxiliary police strengthen safety protection and mental health awareness, strengthen confidence, enhance spirit, enhance the combat effectiveness and cohesion of the team, and ensure that the battle of epidemic prevention and control is resolutely won.

Considering that the public security police auxiliary police on the front line of the "epidemic" have restrictions on the venue and time, can not carry out complex relaxation activities, the length of time for meditation and relaxation can be chosen independently, the venue is not limited, just a safe, relatively quiet environment can be, suitable for self-relaxation anytime and anywhere, so that psychological care is always online, please follow the warm tips to start your relaxation journey.

In the face of the "mythical beasts" of home isolation online classes, many parents are in their hearts seven or eight, many parents are anxious, the sympathetic nervous system of the whole body is automatically excited, the body instinctively enters a state of combat readiness, the eyebrows can't help but wrinkle into a mess when communicating with the child, the facial muscles begin to twitch, the throat muscles contract uncontrollably, the tone of voice involuntarily rises several degrees, the voice becomes sharper, and the speed of speech becomes much more urgent than usual.

And these psycho-physiological reactions (technically called psychosomatic responses) usually occur automatically without the parents themselves realizing. At this time, the parents, in the eyes of the child, are not only very fierce and dragged, but also emit disturbing anxiety factors all over their bodies.

In order to protect themselves, many children will use a higher tone of voice, a more fierce tone to fight back against their parents, the two sides do not give in, the contradiction gradually escalates, and finally even a big fight, one shot and two scattered. Some children will feel that it is useless to talk to their parents, anyway, parents can not understand, simply open the "non-violent non-cooperation and do not communicate" mode, directly ignore the parents, lock the door and refuse to communicate.

And parents may also feel very wronged: we have been talking to you well, just reminding you of what you should do, why don't you listen to us?! As everyone knows, their tone, expression and body language have long betrayed their hearts, and their anxiety has long been transmitted to children and even the whole family through previous conflicts.

In the face of the above situation, it is recommended that parents take -

The principle of "one consolidation, two stability, three discussions, four laws, five divisions, and six negotiations" is principled

█ 1. Tidying up

Parents and children can first work together to sort out the tasks and things at hand according to the two-dimensional principle of "urgency & importance" (see figure below).

For important and urgent matters, the principle of "can be simplified + support start". First, determine with the child what this important and urgent matter is. It is recommended to confirm only one specific thing at a time, less can be less, more is more chaotic.

For important but not so urgent things, you can adopt the principle of "future decomposition plan", that is, when the child has free time to relax, talk to the child about the plan for this matter, and break the plan into specific small tasks, discuss the conditions, difficulties and strategies for completing each task.

Then there are urgent and not so important things, which are mostly daily routines, such as responding to some daily reminders and notices issued by the school on time in the class group, and the principle of "minimum cost + authorization" can be adopted.

Finally, for those things that are not urgent or important, and can be done or not, we can "follow the interest".

█ 2. Stability

That is, parents need to stabilize their emotions when communicating with their children. For children who are isolated at home for online classes, seeing a pair of emotionally stable parents every day is the most practical and powerful support. Here is a little trick, that is, before parents are ready to communicate with their children about something, they can practice simulating in front of the mirror, or use their mobile phones to record their simulated communication, and then see if their tone, demeanor, speed of speech and way of speaking can be improved.

█ Third, discuss things as they are, and express them specifically

Every time parents communicate with their children, try to talk only about the specific behaviors that have actually occurred in those children they see, and never talk about things and start to evaluate the child's personality. There's also a little trick here – ask yourself, when parents see a certain behavior of their child (such as surfing the Internet with a mobile phone) and have emotions, tell themselves to pause for a moment and ask themselves "How do I feel at this moment?" Am I anxious, desperate or angry? What specific behaviors are primarily caused by the child? When I talk to my child about this in a moment, what can I say if I want to use the simplest and clearest method? ”

█ Fourth, talk about laws and rituals first, and then talk about learning

During the child's online class at home, because the time to rush every day is saved, it may be possible to let the child sleep a little more. But after getting up, you can try to arrange your daily routine according to the schedule of going to school on weekdays, the class time arranged by the teacher will be at ease, you can move at home during the recess, or go to the campus downstairs for a few minutes, and it is best to set a break at noon like in school (of course, if some schools do not give students extra rest time except for eating at noon on weekdays, it is another matter). At the same time, we can combine some "small rituals" of daily behavior to help children cultivate work and rest rules. For example, when you wear clothes (usually school uniforms) during online classes, you can take off your school uniform and change into home clothing at the end of each day's online classes, which is equivalent to the time when school is out on weekdays.

█ 5. Family partitioning

During the isolation period, the time that the family stays together increases, and the spatial and psychological "Boundary" (Boundary) between each other is easy to blur, and once blurred, it is easy to involuntarily become sensitive to each other's every move, a smile and every emotion, and parents and children are prone to "What are you worried about?" What the hell are you doing? "Conflicts caused by excessive attention.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents can "divide" the physical space of their home according to the living conditions of their own home. For example, families with conditions can set aside a "learning area" and a "leisure solitude area" for their children at home, a "work area" for themselves, and a "family activity exchange area" for the family. The learning area is relatively independent and quiet, and the child agrees to start learning after entering. Leisure solitude areas (usually children's rooms) can put some entertainment tools, such as comic books, toys, hand-made, etc., children can enter the leisure area to rest after school, and can do some private things in it (this is especially important for teenagers). Workspaces are set up so that parents can have a quiet space to work. The family activity exchange area allows the family to talk and carry out some common activities, such as playing cards, gossiping and so on.

█ 6. Negotiation

If, after the above steps, the parents and children finally disagree on some specific matters, and a "parent-child negotiation" may be required. Solve the inconsistencies between parents and children through consultation and discussion, try to use the method of family meetings to discuss together, encourage each other to express their views and needs freely, and reach an agreement through consultation, and slowly cultivate children's self-expression, learning to listen to others and the ability to learn independently. When parents and children are in conflict, they can express their true feelings and emotions to each other and communicate openly with each other.

All in all, home isolation is a process of "finding order in the new disorder, establishing new boundaries in the unclear boundaries, and developing new family resilience in the face of provocation" for children and parents.

HAPPY DAY ~~~~~

It is hoped that the above psychological protection tips can help parents to do a good job of psychological protection for their children. At present, each of us takes good care of our physical health and mental health, which is the biggest help for all of us to win the battle against the epidemic.

Source: Texas Police

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