"Divorce, must be divorced!" This day can't pass! ”
In 2022, just after the festive New Year, Tianming, her husband who has been in love with Haixia for more than 30 years, suddenly filed for divorce from Haixia.
This made Haixia heartbroken, and she wiped her tears with grievance: "Since I got married, I have given all my efforts to him, for my daughter, and for this family." Now I just gave my brother a little money, he is going to divorce me, I really feel worthless for myself, I am not worth it in this life! ”
How can a couple live without contradictions? Relatives and friends also advised Tianming, they are all old husbands and wives, don't make a fuss about divorce because of a small matter.
Who knows, the more he persuaded Tianming, the more he became angry, and he was so angry that he blushed and pointed at Haixia's nose and asked:
"A little money? Our house, the car, the savings, even the salary I just paid you all emptied to him, this is still called a little money? ”
As he spoke, Tianming's voice became choked up, "You let me go, let go of my daughter, this marriage, you must leave!" ”
Is what Tianming said true? Did Haixia really use all her family's money to supply her brother?
Haixia and Tianming
Buy something for her daughter, but find that all the salary has been secretly taken away by the wife
One day in 2022, Tianming, who had just paid his salary, took his daughter to the mall to buy clothes, but when he swiped his card to check out, he was told by the clerk: "Sir, your card shows that the balance is insufficient and cannot be paid." ”
Tianming felt that the clerk must have made a mistake, it had only been two days since the salary was paid, and there were still twenty or thirty thousand yuan in his card, how could the balance be insufficient.
So Tianming insisted that the clerk try a few more times.
What Tianming did not expect was that after brushing several times, the system clearly showed that the balance was insufficient and could not be paid.
At the end, the clerk said impatiently: "Do you want to change the card, there is really no money in this card." ”
Seeing this, the sensible daughter said to the clerk, "I'm sorry, we don't want it." ”
Subsequently, in the disdain of the clerk "no money to buy any clothes", the daughter dragged Tianming out of the mall embarrassed.
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Tianming looked at his daughter's lost look very distressed, he said: "I am clearly rich in the card, girlfriend, don't be sad, Dad went home to get another card, he must have bought you clothes." ”
The daughter was silent and did not speak, and after a while, the daughter suddenly looked up and asked Tianming: "Dad, did you give my mother a salary card a few days ago?" ”
"Did you take all the money from my pay card?"
Upon hearing this, Haixia was a little flustered, and she explained in a broken voice:
"I'm just borrowing it for a while, and I'm a few days late for this month's salary."
Tianming said angrily: "Did I tell you that this money can't be moved, this is what I kept for my daughter to buy things, do you know how humiliating it is when I stand in the store with my daughter and have no money to settle the bill?" ”
As soon as she heard Tianming speak so rushed, Haixia was also angered, "Isn't it tens of thousands of yuan, it's also worth your big temper, you can rest assured, when I pay you back!" ”
"Pay me back? What do you take back? ”
divorce? Haixia was struck by lightning, and she asked in disbelief, "You want to divorce me?" Just for such a small matter you want to divorce me? ”
Haixia cried bitterly: "Tianming, you patted your conscience and asked yourself, in the more than 30 years that we have been married, how much have I paid for you and for my daughter?" Now for such tens of thousands of dollars, you have to divorce me, Tianming, you are looking for a nanny, and the salary for a year is more than this little money! ”
Haixia
However, no matter what Haixia said and how aggrieved, Tianming wanted to divorce as if she had an iron heart. Returning home from the mall that day, Tianming photographed the divorce agreement in front of Haixia.
What made Haixia even more sad was that even her daughter was completely on her father's side, and she wanted her to persuade Tianming, but she said to herself coldly:
"I support my father, and I have now divorced this step, and it is not all your fault!"
In an instant, Haixia realized what it meant to be rebellious. She did not understand why her loving husband had become cold-blooded and ruthless, why her well-behaved and lovely daughter treated herself coldly, and did she not remember anything about her efforts for the family for more than 30 years?
Although heartbroken, Haixia still wants to try her best to save her family, and in desperation, she decides to seek help from the mediation program.
Haixia with reporters
The reporters of the mediation program were very sympathetic to Haixia's suffering, and they said indignantly: "Husband and wife are originally supporting each other, although your behavior of taking away your husband's salary privately is not right, but he divorced for this matter is too much, you can rest assured, we will seek justice for you, let your husband and daughter realize their mistakes." ”
However, what the reporter never expected was that from Tianming, they actually learned the amazing hidden secret behind this matter.
Empty the family property, pay off gambling debts to the mother-in-law's brother
After the reporter came to Haixia's home, Haixia cried bitterly: "It's just a little thing, he has an iron heart to divorce me, I really feel unworthy for myself, my life is not worth it!" ”
The reporter quickly comforted Haixia, but Tianming, who had been sitting on the side, suddenly stood up, and he pointed at Haixia's nose and angrily asked: "A little thing?" Yes, it's just a small thing that you're taking away your salary without me. But you ask yourself, do you do less of this little thing? ”
Tianming seemed to be in a hurry, the whole person was trembling slightly, and he resolutely said in spite of the reporter's persuasion: "I tell you, today's marriage must be divorced, never leave again, this home will be emptied by you, and my daughter and I will go to sleep on the street tomorrow!" ”
Tianming's words made the reporter realize that Haixia had something to hide, and there seemed to be something hidden behind this matter.
So, the reporter turned to Tianming and asked: "What do you mean by emptying?" You and your daughter may be going to sleep on the street, what does that mean? ”
"Ask her what she has done for her good brother!"
Hearing Tianming's accusations, Haixia retorted with grievance:
"That's my brother who brought up with me, and now that he's in trouble, shouldn't I, the sister, reach out and help?"
It turned out that There were 4 Haixia brothers and sisters, she was the eldest in the family, and there were 3 younger brothers below. Some time ago, Haixia's eldest brother failed in business and owed a little debt, so Haixia and two other younger brothers, all three of them took some money from home and lent him, wanting to help him get through the difficulties.
Hai Xia said: "They are all brothers and sisters, and the younger brothers have paid for it, can I, who is a sister, still stand by and watch?" ”
After the reporter listened, he also felt that Haixia was very reasonable, and between brothers and sisters, it was indeed appropriate to help them when they encountered difficulties.
However, after Tianming listened, he sneered: "Yes, it is right to help your brother, it is right to empty the house, and it is also right to mortgage the house without me." You and your brother are the same, and my daughter and I are outsiders. Even if we don't have a house and go out to sleep on the street, what does it matter, as long as your indisputable brother pays the bill back. ”
The reporter knew,
It turned out that in order to repay her brother's debt, Haixia actually mortgaged the only house in the family without Tianming and her daughter
And this incident is also an important reason for Tianming's determination to divorce.
Tianming said, "For the sake of her brother, she has gone mad and has gone into a rage." ”
The reporter told Haixia that this house is the common property of their husband and wife, and her act of privately mortgaged the house is not right, which has infringed on Tianming's rights and interests, and Tianming is also excusable for being angry about it.
However, Haixia did not think that she had done anything wrong, she said: "I just temporarily mortgaged the house, when my brother has money, return the money to me, I will definitely redeem the house immediately, this is nothing to lose for Tianming, I don't understand why he has been holding on to this matter, he is too careful." ”
Haixia also told reporters: "All along, the money I paid my brother to repay the debt was used for my own salary, if it were not for the late payment of this salary, my brother would be in a hurry, and I would not have moved his salary." Just a few tens of thousands of dollars, he couldn't stand to get a divorce, and he didn't want to think about it, so many years he was looking for a nanny, and his annual salary was more than so much money. ”
Upon hearing Haixia say this, Tianming was anxious, "Tens of thousands of dollars? Over the years, as long as we have a little money in the family, you will definitely secretly stuff your brother, every time I stop you scold me for having no conscience, yes, I have no conscience, your sister deserves well, deserves the most competent, if you are not used to it, your brother can not be dozens of years old and idle all day long! ”
As soon as she heard Tianming actually say bad things about her brother, Haixia was immediately unhappy, "My brother just failed in business, so why did you talk about him so badly?" They all said that the money was lent to him, and as long as he had money, he would definitely return it to us. ”
Hearing this, the daughters of the two could not help but say, "Since I was a child, my uncle has often come to ask for money, when will it be repaid?" When has he ever come to see you and see us, except when he borrowed money? ”
"How can you say that about your uncle!" That's your elder! ”
"Elders? I don't have such a gambling elder! ”
The daughter cried and told the reporter: "Do you know, my uncle is not at all the money owed by the failure of the business, he owes it all about gambling!" In order to pay off his gambling debt of 700,000 yuan, my mother and two uncles took all the money from the family, and now my parents are divorcing, my little aunt and second aunt are also divorcing with the other two uncles, he is alone, hurting all of us, I have no such uncle! ”
gambling? The reporter was stunned,
Haixia secretly mortgaged the house from Tianming, consumed the family property, and made the family fragmented, and was actually conniving at her brother's addiction to gambling?
"You let me go, I can't live this day for a day"
In order to find out the truth of the matter, the reporter quickly found Hai xia's eldest brother Hai Bo.
As soon as he heard that his sister and brother-in-law were divorcing himself, he immediately panicked, "What's the matter with my brother-in-law, he and my sister have been married for more than 30 years, how can they still get divorced?" Didn't I say it all, as long as I have money, I will definitely return the money to them, how can he be so stingy as a big man? ”
Haixia's younger brother Haibo
The reporter asked him whether the debt he was carrying was because of gambling, and he said weakly: "This is not a momentary back, rest assured, after this period of time, my luck will definitely be better." At that time, don't say 700,000, even if it is a few million, it is not a few days to win back. ”
For his dead nature, Tianming and his daughter have already seen no surprise, only Haixia still maintains fantasies about him, Haixia insisted: "From childhood to adulthood, he listens to my words the most, and as long as I don't let him gamble in the future, he will definitely not gamble." ”
Hearing Haixia's innocent words, the reporter felt a little speechless, and she asked Haixia: "Don't you think that it is precisely because every time he owes a gambling debt, you will help him pay it back, he will always gamble and lose, you are not helping him at all, but harming him!" ”
Haixia was silent, she was not unaware of the harm of her brother's gambling money, but she had always felt that her brother was just young and ignorant, and one day he would wake up, and her sister was to accompany him to wait for him to wake up.
But she never thought that her brother was already an adult of dozens of years, and it was precisely because she blindly indulged and doted on her that her brother would feel that no matter how much she made a mistake, there would always be a sister to wipe her ass.
Seeing that Haixia was stubborn, the reporter said bitterly: "You use your hard-earned money to pay him back the gambling account, what do you think?" You're helping him into the abyss of crime!" ”
"And isn't your husband's money money?" That's also his hard-earned money for 30 years. You mortgaged the house, have you ever considered it for your daughter? Your brother is your family, your husband and daughter are also your family, and you are also responsible for them! ”
Tianming was completely disappointed in Haixia, saying:
"I don't want a house, I don't want money, I only have one request for divorce now, Haixia, since you can't let go of your brother, then you will let me go, and let go of my daughter."
Tianming's resolute attitude stung Haixia, and she covered her face and cried bitterly: "Just because of these hundreds of thousands of yuan, do you have to embarrass me again and again?" I'm not worth it, I'm really not worth it in my life! ”
Seeing that his sister and brother-in-law were making such an ugly scene, his brother was also very guilty, and he immediately assured his brother-in-law that he would definitely quit gambling in the future, hoping that his brother-in-law would not divorce his sister.
And the daughter was also very uncomfortable to see her mother's tears, she cried and said: "No children want their parents to divorce, I don't want a complete home?" Mom, you can't cut off contact with your uncle, and our family will live a good life in the future? ”
Hearing their daughter's cries, Both Haixia and Tianming were shaken.
After listening to the analysis of psychological experts, Haixia finally realized that her helping her brother pay off her debts had seriously hurt her husband and daughter. And it is also his own doting that will make his brother addicted to gambling and unable to extricate himself, and has not been seeking progress.
After realizing her mistake, Haixia still wanted to try to save her husband, and she asked, "Are you really determined to divorce me?" Do you really have no feelings for me at all? ”
Tianming was silent, decades of marital feelings, where it is said that it can be broken.
In the end, under the mediation of reporters, Tianming no longer mentioned the divorce, but he said that if Haixia was still the same as before, then he would never be soft for the second time.
Dawn and Sealight
On the one hand, the biological brother of the original family, on the other hand, the husband who has been in love for decades and the biological daughter raised by one hand, if you are Haixia, what kind of choice will you make?