"Mom, I'm not going to kindergarten!"

It is often seen at the entrance of the kindergarten

All kinds of babies

Babies with "crying type"

Resist entering the park with fierce crying

"Sticky" babies

After entering the kindergarten, he followed the teacher all the time

Start asking for moms in various ways

I don't eat well and sleep well

"Dependent" babies

Babies who were originally independent in kindergarten

Become "clothed to reach out and eat to open your mouth"

Teachers have to help with everything

"Slow" baby

Everything was fine when school started

After the start of school for a period of time

Various behaviors that do not adapt to school begin to appear

The above several manifestations

Has your baby been recruited?

These behaviors actually belong to children

Separation anxiety

Separation anxiety in children

Separation anxiety refers to an uneasy emotion and behavior that arises when a child is separated from a familiar environment or from an attachment partner. For young children, separation anxiety is mostly generated in kindergarten, with the highest incidence at the age of 3-5.

How to cope with separation anxiety in children?

First, psychological preparations should be made

Separation anxiety is a problem that most babies will encounter. There are four possible reasons:

1. Separation from the main nurturer, lack of peer interaction, and inability to meet emotional needs;

2. Differences in living habits, work and rest time, poor self-care ability, and difficulty in adapting to kindergarten life in a short period of time;

3. Affected by parental anxiety;

4. It belongs to the difficult type, slow start type temperament, and the social adaptability is weak.

After clarifying the reason, the primary task of parents is to make psychological preparations, adjust their mentality, avoid excessive tension and anxiety, and guide their children to face the matter of entering the kindergarten with a positive and relaxed attitude.

Second, the following work can not be less

In view of the above reasons, before entering the kindergarten, parents can use these methods to help their children adapt to kindergarten life in advance:

1. Guide the child to expand the scope of social activities, other members of the family to increase interaction with the child, create a warm and tolerant family atmosphere, and gradually extend the separation time and reduce excessive attachment to the mother by meeting the emotional needs of the mother and baby after separation in a timely manner.

2. Adjust the family work and rest time, in accordance with the rules of the kindergarten, combined with the family, the child's situation, arrange relatively fixed activities every day, so that the child adapts to the kindergarten time arrangement in advance; it is not appropriate to over-arrange, in the case of accompanying to ensure safety, exercise the child's self-care ability (such as urinating and urinating, eating by himself), increase the opportunity for children of the same age to play, develop social adaptability in interpersonal interaction, and establish a sense of rule order.

3. Parents learn to adjust their mentality, avoid excessive worry and anxiety, reduce behaviors such as sending them to the kindergarten door, asking "Do you miss your mother in the kindergarten today, do you cry when you can't see your mother in the kindergarten today", actively communicate with kindergarten teachers, understand the child's situation in the kindergarten, and greet the child's growth path with an optimistic attitude.

4. Inform the child in advance of the matter of entering the kindergarten, and give the child a specific explanation of the activities and game content of the kindergarten in the form of a picture book ("I Don't Cry in the Kindergarten", "I Miss You", "Tom Goes to Kindergarten", etc.), and clearly inform the family to pick up after school.

Third, don't panic when crying comes

Children's emotions have the characteristics of explicit and unstable, when the child is in an extremely uneasy and anxious emotional state, it will be manifested as crying and difficult to soothe, and even hitting people, screaming and so on. When children cry, parents need to do the following:

1. Keenly perceive the child's emotional state, and detect and appease the bad emotions early before the emotional response escalates to uncontrollable externalized behavior;

2. When it is difficult to appease crying, parents first clarify the cause of the child's crying, away from the source of stimulation, moderate comfort is the key, do not shout, talk about big reason (such as "you grow up, to be a brave baby"), threats and intimidation ("You cry again Mother does not want you"), after the child's mood is stable, then send back to the park;

3. Prepare some attachments in advance, such as children's favorite toys, dolls, etc., so that children can get emotional comfort;

4. In daily life, children can be led to read "My Emotional Little Monster", "Kitten's Emotions", "My Feelings" and other emotional picture books to help young children understand emotions and guide children to express their emotions in an appropriate way.

Fourth, the following situations appear to seek medical treatment quickly

When the child's emotional response is excessive, the duration is long, and there are frequent crying and other behaviors at night, the above problems have interfered with the child's normal daily life and affected growth and development, it is necessary to make a timely appointment with the "Children's Psychological and Behavioral Development Clinic" for professional and systematic assessment, such as "Age and Developmental Process Questionnaire: Social - Emotional (ASQ: SE-2)" screening, listen to the doctor's professional advice, and help the baby better adapt to kindergarten life.

Adapting to a new environment is a necessary process for young children to grow

Parents in addition to escort, encouragement

Nor can we ignore the child's psychological condition

Flexible adjustment strategies to help children

Smoothly enter a new stage

Medical guidance for this issue

Tan Xiaohua

The Third Affiliated Hospital of Guangzhou Medical University

Associate Physician of the Department of Pediatrics

Professional expertise: Engaged in internal medicine for nearly 20 years, he is good at the diagnosis and treatment of acute and critical newborn treatment, children's growth and development, short stature and other diseases. He has presided over or participated in a number of provincial and municipal projects: personalized stage gastrointestinal nutrition support and effect evaluation of preterm very low birth weight infants, and the application of appropriate nutritional support and special technologies to promote growth and development in preterm ultra/very low birth weight infants.

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