Have you noticed that young people in rural areas are rarely at home, and most of them are elderly. In our village, this is basically the case, when the farmer is busy, the old man is busy in the field, and when he is idle, he is playing cards, or he sits in front of the house in a daze, looking not busy and lonely.
We all know that as children grow up, they will face many choices, for example, going to the outside world to see it is also the idea of many young people. Mom and Dad face their children away from home, and when they are young, they may have a big heart and feel that as long as the children are good, they don't care. But as we move into old age, some of our thoughts will change as we pass.
Some children are born to repay the favor, and some children come to collect debts
Parents who give birth to children naturally hope that he will be smart and clever, have excellent academic performance, and then become a successful person in the future. However, for parents, excellent children may be your pride, but they may not be what you will rely on in the future.
Aunt Liu's son has been her pride since she was a child, and in front of her neighbors, she always talks about her son endlessly. My son's academic performance was excellent since he was a child, he was admitted to a prestigious university, and after graduation, he went abroad to study and went to Germany. He found a well-paid job abroad, where he also found a beloved, married and had children.
Aunt Liu is going to go abroad, and she has been showing off in the community for several days after her passport is handled. Because her grandson was born, she was going to Germany to take her grandson, and his son invited her to come as soon as possible. However, his wife did not want to go, because of his bad heart, he did not want to take a plane, and his son did not sincerely invite him, but said that he would give him more living expenses.
Aunt Liu finally went to Germany on the appointed day, and after she got off the plane, she went directly to her son's house and met her dear son, grandson, and daughter-in-law. However, life was not as good as she thought.
She doesn't know German, doesn't speak English, and communicates with her daughter-in-law very difficult, like talking to a deaf person. She is not accustomed to Western food, and her daughter-in-law is reluctant to eat Chinese food. There were often conflicts when cooking, and although she could not understand what she said, she could see that her daughter-in-law was very unhappy.
She likes to go out and chat with people in China, likes to go to the market to bargain, likes to dance square dance, but all this is impossible to achieve in Germany. The most worrying thing was that she called her wife several times and found that he was not in good spirits and was listless in speech.
Finally couldn't help it, she called her old sister to cry and complained, she was really uncomfortable, she wanted to go back to China and couldn't go back, she really regretted letting her son come out, it was better to let him eat the old at home.
When people are old, their expectations for their children will change, and it may be better to be with them
The meaning of children to parents, most of us feel that children have a career is the greatest achievement of parents. But life is not just for others to see.
If you think that when you are young, the child has a good life, but when you are old, this kind of thinking will change a lot. Like I have a lot of elderly people around me, after reaching old age, the inner dependence on children is the same as the dependence of young children on their parents.
If you were young and went out to earn money and give your children a good material life, do you think your children would feel very happy? Of course not, they also need the company of their parents. The old man thought the same thing. Therefore, "old age and dependence" is not just talk, but also dependence and companionship.
The stupid child in your eyes at that time may have come to repay the favor
If the child's academic performance is not good, some parents will sigh and think that their child is a "defective product", because academic performance is the only criterion for evaluating a child in their eyes. This is not the right idea, you think that the child who did not show up may be here to repay the favor.
The fire of the TV series "The World of Man", the three children of the Zhou family in the play can be said to have been born on the same starting line, but the path of life is 108,000 miles away.
The eldest brother Zhou Bingyi graduated from Peking University, his parents-in-law are executives, his wife is the son of a high-ranking cadre, and he is also a smooth step. Daughter Zhou Rong is also a graduate of Peking University, a young professor in the university, and has been abroad for many years. Only his younger brother Zhou Bingkun was the most mediocre, and in the first few decades, he was the most incompetent one in the eyes of his parents.
However, when Zhou's mother was sick in bed, it was he and his wife who took care of her. At that time, my sister's children were left unattended, and it was he who extended a helping hand. So, in the end, Father Zhou said that three children are just as good. This is probably his last sincere words, the eldest son and daughter won glory for the family and contributed to the country, but it was the mediocre Zhou Bingkun who did filial piety for them.
The definition of a good child, we should not be too narrow, cultivate the child's noble character, correct values are the most important
Is the purpose of raising a child to become an excellent person and contribute to the country and society, or is it to accompany his parents to fulfill filial piety despite a lifetime of mediocrity? I think that children do filial piety around themselves, the family is very happy, and children go away, but they can exert their greatest talents as a result of the success of parents' education.
Cultivating children is not successful, our vision is not too narrow, everyone is different, as long as the child has the right values, according to their favorite way to live is a successful education.
High-ranking officials and commoners, rich or mediocre, as long as they are sound, colorful, and tasteful, are worth having.