Text/Little Snow Mom
The word "greasy" usually describes a person who is untrimmed and sloppy, like "greasy man" and "greasy uncle" refer more to men, but I don't know when the word "greasy mother" has been mentioned more and more.
It refers to many mothers who do not pay attention to their appearance after giving birth to their children, and are disheveled and dirty all day, and everyone also divides the "greasy" into age boundaries, and the back of ridicule also implies heartache.
Bao Mom wore pajamas to pick up her child from school and was disliked by her son
Friend Xiao Li is a second-born mother, 35 years old this year, after the birth of the second child daughter, Xiao Li will be at home full-time with children, most of the time life is around two children and families, at first Xiao Li is not adaptable, slowly also used to the life of a full-time mother, and does not love to clean up after themselves as before.
On this day, Xiao Li was busy with the family's affairs, after coaxing the little daughter to fall asleep, he watched the time to hurry up to pick up the eldest son from school, because the time was in a hurry, Xiao Li did not have time to clean up himself, wearing home pajamas, messy hair casually took the hair band and went out.
Arrived at the door of the eldest son's school, just in time for the child to finish school, the son and several male classmates walked out of the school door together, the son several classmates also very politely greeted themselves, and the son unusually bowed his head without saying a word, his face was full of unhappiness, Xiao Li was still very confused, thinking that the child was bullied at school.
On the way back, After Xiao Li repeatedly asked, the son finally said the truth, "Mother, can you clean up and pick me up again, you are already fat, and you are still wearing pajamas so sloppy, your classmates will laugh at me."
After listening to his son's words, Xiao Li was very sad in his heart, and he did not expect that his son began to "dislike" himself. I recalled that I was busy every day for the sake of this family, but I was disliked by my son, and I felt very uncomfortable.
But empathy, from the son's point of view, I am indeed a little too inattentive, this age of children is the time when self-esteem is strong, other parents are neatly dressed, and they are too sloppy children will be a little embarrassed.
The new standard for middle-aged "greasy mothers" is out, and 35 years old is the dividing line
What are the standards for middle-aged "greasy women"? Netizens are roughly divided into six levels, and you bao moms compare and see how many they have won?
Among them, such as not paying attention to skin care, weighing more than 150 pounds, having a big belly, not being able to control your mouth, often noisy because of trivial things, etc., which one has touched you?
This standard basically takes 35 years old as the dividing line, if you see your own shadow from it, then it means that you have entered the ranks of "greasy mother", and it is quite sad to see it.
Behind the greasy mother, there is actually too much bitterness and bitterness
There is no woman who does not love beauty, and there is no woman who does not pay attention to her appearance and body, but behind these changes, it is the sacrifice made by mothers for the sake of family and children.
Before having children, mothers were all fashion girls, but after having children, more time was spent on taking care of children and cleaning up the housework, and there was no time and energy to clean up after themselves.
And pregnancy, confinement, itself will have a certain impact on the figure of the mother, some mothers who are prone to fat physique, after giving birth to the child, the weight has been rising, during the confinement period and drank too much big soup, more and more fat, staying up late with the child's mental outlook is also very tired, so behind the greasy mother, more is sad and bitter.
In addition, the various expenses in the home are also relatively large, and the consumption concept of Bao Ma has also undergone great changes, the original use of big-name cosmetics, buying beautiful clothes, now pay more attention to practicality, and spend money on the blade.
In addition to children and families, bao moms must also learn to cherish themselves
In addition to taking care of the children and the family, bao mom also has to learn to cherish herself, no one likes to be worse and worse, after having a child, bao mom also has to learn to clean up after herself from the inside out.
After giving birth, take care of the child also to seek the help of the elderly and the husband, the child is not their own, the husband also has to pay and share, after the confinement, the mother should put the body management on the agenda, do not let the laziness make their body more and more bloated.
Instead of chagrin every time you feel that your weight has risen again, it is better to try to do yoga and do exercise in addition to taking the baby, and the skin care should also be skin care, and become a beautiful mother in the child's heart.
Don't give up on yourself, all day long, you must be good to yourself, otherwise your husband will also complain that you have become a "yellow-faced woman" in the future, ignoring your efforts and sacrifices.
I am Xiaoxue mom, a post-90s mother, pay attention to me, and share scientific parenting knowledge every day!